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Group Therapy: Co-Worker Crush

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I have a moderately large problem.

Some background —

I have been with my boyfriend about 2 years, friends for about 4. I pursued him and then we started dating. We've discussed marriage and buying a house together, our life is blissful. We don't really disagree on anything and have a good enough sex life (busy schedules can interfere but generally we manage 1-2 times a week). We have a lovely home together and he's supported me (financially and otherwise) a LOT over the last 2 years.

I am currently a training professional on placement with an agency. I finish my placement in 6 weeks time, and also my masters degree.

My problem? A guy in my office who works in the admin team started to get a bit flirty with me a few weeks after I started. I noticed but ignored it because a lot of guys behave like this with me (sorry, but it's true). We started talking a bit more and found we have quite a lot in common. I talk with girls the same way so I didn't think anything of it, honestly. Then 2 weeks ago he sent me an email over our internal mail system & we chatted a bit like that. I started to get a feeling he was trying to push things further. He knows I have a boyfriend —I have been VERY open about this. Anyway, I left the office early last Friday & arrived on Monday morning to find an email from him and at the end "so, should we go for a drink then?"

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I replied with "have you forgotten I have a long term, live in boyfriend?" and he replied back with "I'd been trying to forget that part but why can't we go for a drink?"

The problem? After he basically disclosed feelings for me & ramping up the flirtation I've been seriously questioning the relationship I have with my boyfriend. I've started to find myself attracted to this guy at work. I agreed to go out for a drink with him this week because honestly, I don't get out much & it's nice to have a bit of attention.

How do I handle this? I have no intention of breaking it off with my boyfriend but I still have 6 weeks left on placement. I've read loads of articles about how to handle a crush at work but none of them say what to do when the object of your affections likes you back AND knows you already have a boyfriend. I hate dating & am genuinely happy with my boyfriend.

Geez, is there a pill to control my hormones ??

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