Coordinating Holidays With Divorced Parents

Group Therapy: Holiday Family Drama Starts in August

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So I know it's only August but the yearly tradition of holiday drama has already started for my family. Some background . . . my parents are divorced and both remarried. I have a sister and a half sister (dad and stepmom's daughter). My parents live 6 hours apart. Every single year my sister and I wrack our brains for a way to spend enough time with both sides over the holidays, and every year inevitably one side, usually both, gives us grief for not spending enough time with them. It seems more and more ridiculous as we get older (I'm 27 and she's 26).

To make things more complicated I recently moved out of state to be with my boyfriend so this year not only do I want to spend time with him and his family as well but I will have to travel 6 hours to see my mom, 8 hours to see my dad, and I don't have a lot of vacation time since I just started a new job. I suggested having my mom, stepdad and sister come to my place for Christmas and am getting the silent treatment from them both. Honestly, most of the year our family gets along really well and we are really close. The holidays are just so stressful!

I guess I am mainly just venting . . . anyone have similar experiences or suggestions on how to handle family drama? My sister has taken on the role of planner, she coordinates the plans and then complains to me for hours about it. She is already complaining to and about me for making her life so much harder this year by moving.

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