The divide between what does and doesn't count as cheating can be murky. This question of infidelity comes from Group Therapy in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We are in our twenties and still live at home separately, with our parents, who are very strict. We see each other about twice a week. Some time ago, I came across an email account that I didn't know my boyfriend had. He's told me all his passwords, so I logged in. (Yes, I know this is wrong.) I found out that he has been having sexy web-cam chats with girls about once every 8 months. Sometimes he finds them on Craigslist.
He doesn't meet with these girls, nor does he contact them more than once. It bothers me, though. It bothers me because it's something I'm not supposed to know about. Is this like the modern day equivalent of porn? If he isn't building relationships with these girls, and isn't seeing them physically . . .
SHOULD he be telling me about this? Do you tell your partner every time you view porn?
I'm afraid to tell him I know because I think he might continue secretly using a different account or something . . . it's not that I don't trust him but maybe he won't trust ME after what I did. Also, he sometimes asks me to go on web cam for him naked, but I always refuse. Does that mean that I am partially to blame?
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