Changes to Improve Your Love Life

10 Changes to Improve My Love Life

March 28, 2011

Here's a post from OnSugar blog Rules to Live By.

1. Lay out everything on date one: what I'm looking for, and where I want to be.
2. No sex unless I hear the words "I love you."
3. Kissing is OK, but fondling isn't.
4. No communication for more than 2 weeks; it's over.
5. Flirting is what I love to do . . . Doesn't always leads to sex.
6. Acceptance is the key and must be honest.
7. Never talk about my exes.
8. Even if a date may not turn into relationship, encourage the idea of friendship.
9. Demand to be treated with respect.
10. Remind them to step up or ship out.

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6 Comments

Bettye Wayne 2 years 7 weeks

1 would be a huge, scary turn off for me, for most men too I think. Fondling is fun! Sex doesn't demand an "I love you" for me, taking the time to get to know me and respect me is enough. I don't see a problem with talking about exes, as long as it's occasional and relevant to the convo. I dated a guy who told me all this freaky past-sex stories, I was too naive at the time to realize how fucked up that is, it just made me feel insecure and inadequate.

Bettye Wayne 2 years 7 weeks

1 would be a huge, scary turn off for me, for most men too I think.Fondling is fun!Sex doesn't demand an "I love you" for me, taking the time to get to know me and respect me is enough. I don't see a problem with talking about exes, as long as it's occasional and relevant to the convo. I dated a guy who told me all this freaky past-sex stories, I was too naive at the time to realize how fucked up that is, it just made me feel insecure and inadequate.

GTCB 2 years 7 weeks

Oh boy - time for a male perspective on this list. 1) Be very careful with this one. If you want to talk about this then fine, but you better make sure it's in the right context and presented properly because it's a turn-off if you blurt it out up-front. 2) What is this, high school? If you are going to wait until Mr. Right says three little words before you have sex you are not going to get laid very much. Oh, and you're going to get dumped a lot too. 3) This is even less realistic than #2. Time to get a clue. 4) Yeah, you're probably right. 5) Mature guys can recognize the difference between innocent flirtation and teasing. Hope you find some of them. 6) Don't know what you're getting at but agreed. 7) Very good policy in theory. In practice it's impossible to do at times. My wife mentions her exes on occasion and we've been married for years. 8) Bad idea. You should not feel compelled to remain friends with someone you've dated even if it doesn't work out. What kind of friendship is that? Jeez. 9) Remember, this is put in practice by your actions moreso than your words. You should remind your SO's up-front about what you consider acceptable and otherwise and stick to it. 10) Another ultimatum. You could make do with less of these.

GTCB 2 years 7 weeks

Oh boy - time for a male perspective on this list.1) Be very careful with this one. If you want to talk about this then fine, but you better make sure it's in the right context and presented properly because it's a turn-off if you blurt it out up-front.2) What is this, high school? If you are going to wait until Mr. Right says three little words before you have sex you are not going to get laid very much. Oh, and you're going to get dumped a lot too.3) This is even less realistic than #2. Time to get a clue.4) Yeah, you're probably right.5) Mature guys can recognize the difference between innocent flirtation and teasing. Hope you find some of them.6) Don't know what you're getting at but agreed.7) Very good policy in theory. In practice it's impossible to do at times. My wife mentions her exes on occasion and we've been married for years.8) Bad idea. You should not feel compelled to remain friends with someone you've dated even if it doesn't work out. What kind of friendship is that? Jeez.9) Remember, this is put in practice by your actions moreso than your words. You should remind your SO's up-front about what you consider acceptable and otherwise and stick to it.10) Another ultimatum. You could make do with less of these.

RoaringSilence 2 years 7 weeks

Hah I think the no communication rule is tricky. What if the other person is sitting at home, waiting for YOU to call for two weeks. It's always crap if only one of you initiates 100% of all contact, but a rule like that could do more bad than good.

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