Ok, so this is kind of complicated. I was talking with this guy Ryan and really liked him. I hung out with all his friends and I got to know all of them. The thing is, Ryan is pretty much a ''womanizer'' as his friends would say and he doesn't always treat girls the best. We don't live very close and I heard that he was with different girls all the time, which is fine I guess because we aren't together. So in the past month we have kind of been distant with each other and his friend Jake started pursuing me and really liking me. He's a REALLY sweet guy, and it wouldn't be wrong if we ever did end up getting together because me and Ryan had nothing serious going on. But now Ryan is kind of coming back to me, calling me and everything now that me and Jake have this little thing going on..and I don't know why but being the girl that I am, I really have way more feelings for Ryan than Jake. I know it would be stupid to go back and try things again with Ryan but it's so hard. I don't know what to do. Any Advice? One Confused Cat
Dear One Confused Cat
Ryan is textbook. He wants what he wants WHEN he wants it. Now that you fancy someone else, he's coming back around. Kitty -- talk about a game of cat and mouse! I understand why you like him; you had feelings for him first but guys like Ryan are a dime a dozen. Consider yourself warned. If his friends call him a womanizer, g-d only knows how bad he really is. If you play with fire -- you're going to get burned. Try things with Jake. Your instincts tell you that he's really sweet so go for the nice guy and protect your heart.