My man and a female friend of his had been talking dirty to each other (about how they wanted to get together and make out, or cuddle up and watch a movie when I wasn't home etc.). Needless to say, I found out, we argued and I almost left him. I told him I don't deserve to be treated like a piece of ass he can just come home to after a night out.
He got really upset (like they always do) blamed the whole thing on having low self esteem and "not feeling good enough for me" and now wants to try to make things better and stop talking dirty to his friend. The agreement is that I would try to see past this behaviour if he was to tell her that the sexy talk has to stop, indefinitely, and if I could see it. He agreed and we both went to bed with a lot to think about.
This morning I remind him that I would like him to message her and he acts like I'm out of line, with the eye rolling "yes hun . . ." It's important that I see with my own eyes that it's been taken care of, so I can start trusting him again. Why does he see that as a problem? Is that a sign he doesn't want to stop? I don't care if he's friends with her, he has a right to choose his friends, but I have a right to protect and rebuild my relationship with a man I love, don't I? After everything we talked about last night I just can't understand why one little task is such a chore.