Boyfriend Dumped Me, Now Won't Stop Emailing

Group Therapy: Boyfriend Dumped Me, Now Won't Stop Emailing

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My ex-boyfriend broke up with me on Sunday, and then wrote me an email on Monday morning explaining why he wants to be single — he needs to grow and mature and hang out with friends.  I obviously didn't reply.  

I have had an excruciating week, as anyone who has been through a breakup can understand.  We had been together for a year.  Anyway, on Wednesday night he wrote me a Facebook message saying, "You just want me out of your life?" I then blocked him on Facebook, only to wake up this morning to find he had written me yesterday twice but through my email.  

He asked me if I had read his first email, and then said something along the lines of, "Did you delete me from your life permanently?  I never meant for all these bad feelings to happen . . . I just realize that I can't be in a relationship right now and I need to grow where I'm at and discover new things.  I hope we can still hang out and be friends. I want everything to be okay."  

To me, this doesn't make any sense.  How can you be friends with someone who you have been intimate with?  I was with him for a year.  To me it seems like a bad joke.  I haven't replied and I just want to get over him.  A part of me wonders if he is still interested because he keeps contacting me, but he contacted me to say that he can't be in a relationship, so I don't know what his deal is. Is he pretending?  Is he just waking up now that he realizes I'm actually trying to move on?

Sorry for the pathetic situation. I do want to move on with my life.  It is just terribly difficult and he is confusing me.

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