Boyfriend Doesn't Want to Make New Year's Eve Plans

Group Therapy: Boyfriend Is Being Sketchy About New Year's

December 26, 2011

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Last New Year's I spent with my boyfriend at home. It wasn't much of a party, but I didn't really mind. I've asked him if he's coming over this year, but he "doesn't know" he might go out with his friends; which for him means that he's going out with his friends. I'm really quite upset if I'm honest. Aren't you meant to spend New Year's with people you love — what would you do?

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8 Comments

karlotta 1 year 21 weeks

Maybe he just wants to go out and celebrate with a "real party"; have you considered either asking him if you can join him and his friends, or making other plans than staying home?

kurniakasih 1 year 21 weeks

balls! LOL. You need to bring this up to him, hurry b/c New year is a comin'! :)

Raynne413 1 year 22 weeks

If you want to spend New Year's with him, you need to tell him. He can't read your mind.

lcrox07 1 year 22 weeks

Tell him you would like to spend new years with him and if you can come with him with his friends.

henna red 1 year 22 weeks

if there is something specific you want from him, then you need to tell him what you want. Sounds to me as though you are leaving everything in his court, letting/making his make all of the decicisions. Perhaps he wants to go out for the holiday and his friends are going out and he doesn't beleive you are or you want to If you put him in the position of making him choose then you've make this a contest between people he cares about (hopefully he loves his friends as he loves you), and no one wants to be put in that position. Tell him what you really want, and ask him what he really wants and find something that makes you both happy. Take responsiblitiy for what you want and stop waiting for him to do what you haven't said you want. blessed be, happy holidays

missmaryb 1 year 22 weeks

If it's bothering you, then you should mention it. If you agree that it's ok for him to go out with his friends, plan a night with some of your friends. Hit some clubs, rent some chick flicks and get some wine (if you're of drinking age, of course ;)), or whatever would be a good time for you. However, I think it would be fair if you both wrapped up your nights in time to get together for a new year's kiss. Good luck.

luckyduckyy 1 year 22 weeks

Why don't you ask him if you can come?

maisiemeseg 1 year 22 weeks

Have you explained that you're upset and why to him?

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