Better Late than Never?

Dear Sugar
I have been spending a lot of time with a guy I go to school with. We have so much fun together and we get along great, but every once in a while, something will happen that will leave me confused as to how he feels about me.

Last night we were supposed to have dinner and see a movie. He invited me earlier in the week and I was looking forward to our date all day. As I was on my way out the door, I got a text from him asking if we could meet up a half an hour later. No explanation, no call, just a lame text. I was so upset and tempted to not show up, but I talked myself into it even though I was upset the rest of the night.

It turned out his excuse for pushing back out date was because he was at a bar with his buddies watching a football game. I really enjoy spending time with him and I thought he felt the same way, but now I am confused. I would never do that to him, or a friend for that matter so I am now asking myself, am I being strung along? Am I over reacting or being too harsh? Please let me know what you think. Paranoid Penny


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Dear Paranoid Penny
I've got to be straight with you and I do think that you are over reacting a bit. I understand that he pushed your date back and gave you no notice, but as irritating as that may be, he didn't cancel or mean to intentionally hurt your feelings.

Try to remember guys are a different breed and football games are as important to them as a big sale is to us! It sounds as though he got a little caught up in the game but that doesn't mean he isn't interested in you. It might be a good idea to tell your crush that although he isn't as timely as you are, you would appreciate a little more notice the next time he is going to be late or wants to make changes to your plans.

I would just hate for him to think that you are totally inflexible. In life sometimes you've got to be able to roll with the punches. Being an hour late because a big game is on really isn't a huge deal. Are you aware that this is high season for football? I am sure that once he knows that it is a sore spot for you, he will respect your wishes. Try to take a step back and enjoy your developing relationship. Good luck.

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