My boyfriend and I had an argument, and broke up for a little while. As a girl, I go to my friends when I'm trying to make sense of and get over a breakup. I went to one of my best friends, who has only met my boyfriend twice, and I thought we had a lot of fun both times. She told me that she never liked my boyfriend; that he seemed immature and his sense of humor was too vulgar (judging from his Facebook). That was something that never really annoyed me about him. However, at the time, it made me feel better to know she didn't like him, because I was trying to get over him. He contacted me a few days later and said he wanted to try again, and that he made a mistake and his anger had taken over during our argument. When we talked, he asked who I talked to about the breakup, and what their opinions were. Stupidly, I told him that this particular friend never really liked him.
I took a few days to really think about what I had done wrong in our relationship before, and we have decided to start over. Things are great — I am spending more time with my friends and family, working out, and doing things I never let myself do in the relationship before. We are getting along so well and taking things slow. The problem though, is that now that my boyfriend knows that my friend never liked him, he doesn't want to hang out with her and her boyfriend. We had always planned to go out or go on a double date again, but hadn't gotten around to it. My boyfriend never had a problem with her, but feels like he can't be around her now. How can I help him to feel comfortable around her again, and how can I make her see that he IS good for me?