Awkward! Wedding Planning With Fiancé Causing Tension
I know a very modern bride who is beginning to wonder if she really knows the guy she's marrying. It's not that she's having second thoughts — it's just that planning their wedding is highlighting differences of opinion about tradition and convention she didn't know were there.
For example, this bride is hip to the fact that weddings are not unique events. Lots of people get married. At the same time, she wants her wedding to have a personal, nonconformist touch. This is where the conflict with her more traditional fiancé has come in. He values conformity and sees it as a social good. Unlike his fiancée, he actually cares what other people think.
So what are the differences of opinion they have about how they should plan their wedding? To find out read more.
First off, she doesn't want name cards at the table. He thinks they're classy; she thinks they're an unnecessary cost and a waste of paper.
Secondly, both have agreed to cupcakes instead of wedding cake (OK, so traditional guy is a little nonconformist), but he wants vanilla (because "it's supposed to be that way") and she likes chocolate because . . . it's more delicious.
Last but not least — the guest list. The bride wants to give their moms a guest limit so that they don't invite too many people and overrun the wedding with people they don't know. He doesn't want to tell his mom that there's a limit and, in addition, he thinks having a lot of diverse people will make them look good to other people.
Should weddings conform to traditional wedding etiquette at the expense of personal touches, practicality — or the bride's wishes? How should this bride and groom get over their differences and celebrate their union? And finally, have you ever experienced something similar?
