Dear E. Jean,
Quick question: I just started seeing somebody pretty great. I want to know when is the best time to ask him how he feels about the relationship? In other words, how long should I wait before we have “the talk”? I don’t want to screw this up! P.S. I’m 28. —Eager to Know
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Miss Eager, My Elegantrix,
Because many males suffer from ED — Emotional Dickheadedness — I have two answers for you. Choose whichever fits your personality:
- If you are a saucy, super-witty, confident woman who can grab a chap by his metaphorical whirlygigs, look him in the eyes and say: "How much do you love me?" Don’t wait. Just flat out ask him.
- If you’re like 99 percent of us — if you’re a little demure, a little vulnerable, a little scared by what he might say — then give it time. Asking a guy to “talk” about his “feelings” destroys the mystery. And when you destroy the mystery, you kill what attracted you to each other in the first place.