Her message is simple: men want to be providers, fixers, and impressive, so let them. Leave dominating communication styles at the office, and use a gentler approach at home. That includes letting him feel he's taking care of you, even when you both know you're completely independent.
When it comes to gift-giving during the holidays, Donna says, men want to wow us. "Never outgift them," she says, "It steals their thunder." Apparently, stealing a man's thunder makes him feel less confident and less secure in the relationship, which we all know spells trouble for us later on.
So if it's better for him, the relationship, and our unsecured debt, could it be that bad?