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"Surprise! We're getting married today!" Can you just imagine hearing those words? That's what happened recently when Ryan Leak proposed to his girlfriend, Amanda, and then revealed they'd be getting hitched that very night in front of 90 close friends and family. And get this: he looked at her Pinterest boards for all the details (the cake! the playlist!) to give her her dream wedding. Ryan first got the entire idea after overhearing her say it would be a fairy tale to get engaged and married in the same day, and the guy planned for more than a year to make it happen.
It's not the first time someone has been dubbed the "best groom ever" for taking the wedding-planning reigns either. Back in 2011, a video went viral of a man named Shawn Lippert stealthily pulling off what he called Operation White Cake. He and his girlfriend, Colleen, had planned on eloping to Las Vegas, so he made sure to get all the details of what she wanted (like mason jars filled with candles and Martha Stewart lanterns) before giving her the biggest surprise of her life. One day, Colleen thought she was headed to a retirement party but was instead greeted at a restaurant by 200 friends and family ready to celebrate their love. Shawn even moved the entire contents of her bedroom — including furniture — to the restaurant to make it easier for her to get ready. Now that's love.
And then there's LeeAnn, who said to her fiancé, Doug, "Lets elope, or you can surprise me." Doug went for the challenge and surprised her with a hotel wedding instead of the Fiji elopement that LeeAnn was expecting. Not only was she given an invitation to be a guest at her own wedding the next day, but all of her friends and family were in on the secret as well.
There's something really sweet about having your partner want to do something that special, but it's still a pretty bold move. Think about it: throwing a wedding without the bride getting to pick out the dress with her mom or enjoy all the prewedding festivities would make some ladies cry for all the wrong reasons. Sure, it works for some people (luckily all three of these ladies loved the surprise), but what if isn't not what she really wants?
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When it comes to relationships, who is it better to listen to: yourself or your friends? YourTango's Melissa Walker shares her account of why listening to friends can make potential relationships quickly fizzle.
Other people's opinions used to influence me to a fault. Then I started trusting myself.
I met Dan at a bar in London, where I worked for a year after college. I crashed a private birthday party with my roommates, and we homed in on the free food table, where Dan was also stationed. He and I bonded over American-style sliders and our illicit presences — he didn’t know the birthday boy, either — and he bought me three drinks before the night was through. Dan was shy, gentlemanly even, so although we soon became inseparable — meeting for walks in Kensington Park and pints after work — we danced in that limbo of more-than-friends but haven't-yet-kissed.
About two weeks after we'd met (and after about six nondates), we joined some of my friends at a bar. One of them said, "Oh, I wondered why you're not dating him, but now I see . . . he's balding." Then another chimed in to say she could never date someone shorter than she was. "We're not dating," I rushed to clarify. "We're just friends." That was it for Dan.
After a year, I left London to move to New York, and I met Dan to say goodbye. We did one of those holding-each-other hugs, and I felt such a pang of regret — we should have had something more than we did.
We live in a culture of crowdsourcing. I rarely buy a shirt without sending a pic to my stylish BFF and asking what she thinks. But putting back a piece of clothing because she reminds me that it's not my color or that the cut is wrong for my body is different from tossing aside a perfectly lovely guy, one I might really have something special with, based solely on a friend's commentary. For too long when I considered whether to date someone, my inner voice said something like: "Well, I'm into him. But how will everyone else feel?" And it wasn't just Dan I missed out on.
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Good news for modern brides who prefer cooler temps over sunny Summer days: wedding season has broadened to include the Fall and Winter months. Just ask Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel or John Legend and Chrissy Teigen, who had infamous Fall weddings. While it appears neither of these celebrity couples gave their big days any Halloween flair, there are actually many couples who do!
Graveyards, skulls, and jack-o'-lanterns aren't typically associated with a wedding, but if you're brave enough to go a little dark on your big day, then a Halloween-themed bash is sure to be a crowd-pleaser. The spooky holiday is coming up, so get in the spirit of All Hallows' Eve with these hauntingly fun and beautiful Halloween weddings!