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I've been in very few relationships throughout my life and whenever I was, the relationship didn't last long because of different misunderstandings. Now I'm in a relationship and some of the things that my boyfriend thinks aren't a big deal, are to me. For example: When he asks me for something small, he gets it — no problem, because it's not that important to argue over. But one day I asked him if he could switch the radio station while I was driving because the song was getting on my nerves. He put up an argument and said something like, "I wanted to listen to it, and it's about to end anyway." I told him that it was his car, so he could listen to it another time, but he kept on and on, so I told him to forget it.
Sometimes I think: "Do I really trip about unnecessary things? Or is he just used to getting his way?" I think it's a little bit of both. He's a good guy, and when I tell him about things that bother me, I minimize them because I don't want it to get in the way of our relationship. I know that this should be a comfort in any relationship, but I feel needy when I ask for things. If I need something, do I just out and ask for it? What is normal in a relationship? What stuff is okay to talk about? Is it normal to express everything to him that annoys me, or do I pick and choose what's appropriate?
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