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My BF of two years has always treated me with love and respect. He is so gentle, romantic and loving. He cares about me so much. Before we dated he was with a girl who is extremely rude and annoying. They broke up because she was ruining his life. When we started dating, this girl called me and asked me rudely to back off and leave "her man" alone. I was insulted and angry and asked my BF to break all contacts with this woman. I asked him not only because I didn't like her, but also because he kept telling me how he hated her for ruining everything in his life.
Four months later I found out my BF has been exchanging texts with her. I asked him why and he said she was looking for a cellphone voucher and it was in his position so he answered her. I asked him if he could please stop giving in to her manipulative schemes and he accepted.
Again, two months after that, my phone battery died and I used his phone for calling my dad and the last dialed number was HER number. I flipped out and we had an argument after three days we made up and he said he would NEVER answer her or call her again. He even sent her a text saying "Let's not be in touch anymore." The girl replied with a laughing picture, which was obviously insulting.
Everything since then was good. We were planning to get engaged in a few months. We have planned for so many things, a great future, and I honestly could see him as my mate for the rest of my life. He is so sweet and caring. Until four days ago, when a friend told me she saw my BF and the rude girl together at a cafe!
I asked him, at first he denied it, then he got angry, then he came clear telling me they have been chatting online for a month because she has told him she has cancer. They went out that night to get over all the hatred and dark feelings and let go of the past, so she could go through being sick peacefully! Then the day after they met at that cafe, she came up with her cancer test results, which were, thankfully, negative. After she got her result she called him and asked him to go for a walk, and he accepted!
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