I try not to.
But sometimes he just acts like a grump and I have no idea what's wrong and I'll try and talk to him about it, and he'll just say nothing is bugging him and still act like a dick. So then I start picking at him or say soemthing mean or sarcastic because he's pissing me off by taking his problems out on me.

I HAVE ALWAYS FELT AN INTELLIGENT MAN WHO IS WELL GROOMED,WELL MANNERED,IS BEAUTIFUL AND SEXY,PRETTY IS AS PRETTY DOES!ANY ONE ELSE FEEL LIKE I DO?

I don't think I intentionally pick fights but there are times when I won't actively try to AVOID one. I swear my boyfriend likes me a little feisty so a little, tiny disagreement here and there isn't the end of the world.

I'll argue over things that aren't really worth arguing over, but other than that, I try to avoid fighting.

Ashcwebb, I do the same thing. Something is obviously wrong, so I ask what's wrong, he gets pissed that I asked, and I make some snide comment because he is taking his bad mood out on me.
That said, if I had a really crappy day, I'm more likely to get pissed about things, too. I don't pick fights just for the sake of fighting, but my bad moods sometimes ignite one.
But I would never, ever start an argument for fun or for make up sex... I don't believe in it. I choose my battles wisely, and when I'm fighting, I fight to win. At the end of an argument, I am way too pissed off to think about sex -- I need overnight to cool off.

Sometimes I feel like I have to call him out on somehting that really upsets me. Often it happens when we've been drinking and he'll do something inconsiderate. I don't consider it starting a fight, but since we'll be in altered states we're not really able to discuss as well as we would be. Our process is we'll maybe argue, then apologize, then go to bed and "hug it out", and then talk about it again in the morning when we're sober. It's not the best system, but when it does happen it's been successful for us. We do a lot of letter writing, too, because we're long distance. It's esaier to send each other long messages to clear the air when we're apart. With really small things, we tend not to pick fights about them, but just talk briefly about them, because when we're so far apart all the time, nit-picking just distracts from the time we have, and we're more grateful to be together than we are resentful for little misunderstandings.

I most definitely do not pick fights. I hate fighting! I mean, if something is bothering me of course I'll bring it up, but picking a fight for the sake of a fight is not my idea of fun.

Do people really fight to feel closer to their sig other? That weirds me out. I feel like they must do that to make up for something else that's missing.

Ash I've been guilty of that too.

I do the same thing as pretty pear... I don't try to pick fights, but there are times when I won't try to hard to avoid one...thats usually when I'm really irritated about something, or if I want my bf to know that "the irritating something" is an important issue to me...b/c sometimes he doesn't take me seriously if I don't emphasize my point.
And if I'm in a bad mood from something about my day, then yes I do get irritated more easily, which in turn might start a fight...but again I never pick them on purpose.

No. Neither of us pick fights but we do discuss our differences of opinions.

Nope. Neither of us do. It works out pretty well. I mean, if we have a genuine issue, we talk about them like adults. But we don't purposefully try to annoy each other or hurt each other's feelings.

Both of us will pick fights at times, but they never last over 2 minutes and are never about anything serious. One will start about a movie, or someone will start about what to watch on TV. We usually end up laughing about it, but if feelings are really hurt, we back off and talk about it to make it right.

I try really hard not to, but sometimes small arguments come up. He thinks that I'm a flirt and that's one of the things that gets me riled up. Other than that, I usually end up starting something out of nothing...thank goodness I have such a forgiving boyfriend!!

i HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE fighting with my husband. i try to avoid it to the extent where its bad for me. but i must agree with the make up sex part

i use to pick fights, but recently i just let stuff go.. its not worth it... there are times when i know something is bugging him, i ask about it.. he says nothing so i just leave it at that.. there is no point in prying at it if he CLEARLY does not want to talk about it.. soo i wait until he is ready, and usually he comes around.. i pick my battles now.. if there is something that is REALLY bugging me then i will talk to him about it.. if not i just let it go

I pick fights. I'm guilty of it. : /
I just don't let things go. I want us to be perfect, I want him to be perfect. But I pick fights so much, it takes away from me being the perfect girlfriend. Regardless, we have an amazing relationship. Our one year anniversary of meeting was yesterday. It was love at first sight. I'm sooo happy with him

I pick fights sometimes because I feel refreshed after *letting go*....my fiance knows this and just humors my bickering. I have a lot of anxiety and energy (maybe ADD?) and bickering helps. But we dont fight like "u annoy me! go away!"

being on projects helps me a lot....like planning a wedding...yeah...cool as a cucumber!

I am really bad about this And lately I've noticed it with one friend in particular.. I feel really bad about it and am definitely making a conscious effort to stop.

It's not so much that I do it just to 'rock the boat', but if I'm grouchy or angry already and I'm talking to him.. Well I guess you have to meet the guy but its JUST TOO EASY

Must stop immediately.

i try not to. but my boyfriend says i do, and then that becomes and argument. it's a vicious cycle.

I do,but not consciously. I dont sit there and think "what could I do that will really send him up the wall" But I do sometimes start fights over things that arent really that big of a deal.

Yeah, I'll admit that I have before, when I'm in a pissy mood and my husband does something that annoys me.

I do pick fights from time to time... I think I just do it to see how far I can get with it and of course for the makeup