ok so i made a list of community collage courses that interested me, and apparently my dad found it, and selected the 3 he approved of for me. he acted like the other courses were dirty or something, or like they were an r rated movie. the ones he selected for me were-digital art and design, nutrition, and career planning. but he didn't like philosophy, psychology, sociology, history of film, music history, or humanities. I'm trying to figure out why he would act this way. i felt like he didn't want me to learn or something. and so after he said he had selected those classes for me, he mentioned that he doesnt want me to go to the campus alone either. (i understand that part) i said that i would look into these classes for next year (12th grade). and so he said well let me know when you start to get serious and we will figure out a plan. But shouldn't i be able to pick what i want to learn? it really bugs me.
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way over protective dad, I think you should try a bit of everything so you know what you like
1your dad should be advising and not dictating what you should take. maybe you can compromise and find one course together and then you decide on the other two yourself?
2also, i'm sure he's just worried that his little girl is growing up so quickly and that may be what's really bugging him, not necessarily what classes you want to take. its probably his way of still asserting his ability to control what you do before you go off to college and make your own decisions. talk to him and find out. good luck!
3Here is the thing - It sounds to me as if your father has his own ghosts that he is dealing with. Perhaps a better strategy is to ask him about the decisions he made regarding college and what he learned from him. Clearly, your father values you and loves you - or he would not care at all about your choices or your safety. He is probably hoping that you will not make the mistakes he did and thinks he is protecting from the path in life he created for himself. Oh - another thing you can do is look up what people did after studying the classes you found interesting. For instance, philosophy is one of the degrees that people who do well on the LSATs (law school entrance exams) have because it emphasizes logical thinking. Knowing this will show that not only are you interested in the classes but you are interested on how it will mold your future.
Good luck!
4its a bit of everything mixed in
5While your dad can give you advice , you need to pick classes that you are hopefully going to be intrested in . Ive know to many people spend 4 /6 years in college- leave with a degree and hate what they do because others influenced them. You are growing up and need to take responsibility for your life. You need to talk to your Dad and tell him as glad as you are that you know you will always be his little girl, and that you love his advice but you need to make some discussions on your own.
6If you are paying for college yourself - those choices are yours and yours alone to make. I am sure your Dad is coming from a good place.. trying to protect you and guide you in the direction he thinks is best for you - if your father is paying for your college - this warrants a discussion between the two of you. It's still not right that he decides what you study.. but, he does have a bigger say if he is paying for it..
7More than likely, you're going to need classes from those areas you listed to fulfill a degree requirement - even a 2 year degree - whether your dad likes it or not.
I suggest you (and perhaps your father) make an appointment with a counselor at the school so you can have someone guide you (and make clear to your dad) what sort of array of classes you'll be required to take.
8you should do some research. go to the colleges' websites and print up course descriptions for the subjects you are interested in. i bet you could even visit the faculty webpages and print out couse syllabuses. highlight the things that interest you the most, and start thinking about how they fit into your education plan--and career plans. present the information, and your rationale to your father, and let him see for himself that he is being silly, and that you have done your research. a rational peson can't argue with facts. good luck
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