Tell him to tell you what he wants! Tell him he can move your head a bit or that he wants more sucking or licking or whatever.
You need to know what he likes!

yeah, i agree with the comment before, you can tell him to tell you what he likes .. or maybe try new things like licking .. or teasing him a littlee.

Also agree--you're not a mind reader and even if you did have experience, guys are all different like girls. If he's just too shy to tell you, try different areas, intensities and ask how it feels. It may take a while and explain you really want to please him and you're willing to be patient and find out what feels best.

Make it a fun, stress-free thing and maybe try some "toppings" (chocolate, butterscotch syrup, whipped cream). For Valentine's Day one year, I ordered a set of edible body paints from Red Envelope (but cheaper to make your own!)

My advice might sound weird, but I would suggest either: reading cosmopolitan magazine, there are lots of sex tips in there. Also, watch porn. I certainly am not a big fan of porn, but those girls know what they are doing, you can learn from it. Don't use your teeth, and pretend you are sucking on a lollipop or licking an ice cream cone!

Read a magazine with tips (like Cosmo.) They keys are - use plenty of lube, keep the motion steady but slowly increasing in speed (no stop/start jerking motions) and make it clear how much you're enojoying it, so he can relax and not worry about how he smells or tastes.

recommend he use his hand while you gently suck on the tip (sorry for being X rated)

my big thing that my boyfriend always compliments is that i look like im loving it. there might be an (unconsious) facical express you make when youre doing it that is tipping him off. also. try lickin it really slow and teasing him before putting it all in your mouth. and the tip that i always gave my girlfriends is that let your hand and your mouth worth in oppisite/then the same directions. it takes a few times to get used to but they'll go crazy (haha and i was just reminded of a very drunk conversation with one of my best friends and a corona bottle at a bar a few years back with this very same conversation haha)

worth=work. sorry i havn't had my coffee yet

These all sound like really good tips, but I think the most important one is to communicate. The same way you'd want him to know what you like, he wants you to know, too. Unfortunately, you can't read minds, so you may have to ask - as awkward as that may seem.

Also, until you're ready to ask or talk about it, try reading his signals. I'm sure he has ways to let you know what he likes, so pay attention; don't stare at him, just read his body language, and when he seems to relax, or to really enjoy something you're doing, keep doing that.

And the 'watching porn'? Great idea. You'll get a lot from that. If you're uncomfortable renting it, you can always try finding it online, or getting it on Pay-Per-View. You might even try watching it together, if he's willing.

on the bottom of his penis there is a soft spot....lick that with the tip of your tongue.....play with his balls gently (cup them in one hand and wiggle your fingers a little bit) try licking them too (guys usually go nuts! no pun intended).....try to deep throat (it's not hard just relax)....spit on your hand and use your hand while you are using your mouth and pretend that your hand is an extension of your mouth......make circles around the tip of his penis with your tongue...........if you do all these things you won't need to watch porn/read cosmo/buy fancy products/ask him......one of these things will work VERY well and I'm sure you will be able to tell which thing he likes because if you look at him his eyes will probably be closed, hell be leaning back more, and he may make noises........have fun!

OK, none of us can tell you what he wants... We can give you all the tips in the world, but that's maybe not what he wants. The only thing you can do is ask HIM. It's also possible he's one of the very few guys who simply doesn't want oral sex. I'm that way about my bf's mouth near my lady bits, it just doesn't turn me on, I dislike how it feels. Maybe he's an odd duck in the same way I am?

My first thought when I read this is that it is not you at all.

Some guys really aren't all that into it. When you say "he doesn't enjoy it", that doesn't really tell us anything. Does he at least come? If so, then he probably physically enjoys it very much and you are doing an excellent job.

A lot of guys have mental hang ups with blow jobs. They don't like putting someone they respect, love, and care about in such a submissive, demeaning position. He might just not like that aspect of it.

So first thing I would do, is figure out his issues. If it's mental, then that is a difficult one to get over - you just have to tell him that you do enjoy it and it's not like he is forcing you or anything.

You shouldn't question your own abilities unless he really seems to have have actual physical problems when you give him a blow job. My only advice for that is that all guys are different! Start out slow, focus on the tip, use your hands everywhere. If you have problems with minor gagging you can use a product called Great Head that might help (I don't really endorse it, but its also not an issue for me).

Also, he might find it more stimulating to give him a blow job in a different setting than the bedroom. You could try road head if driving somewhere at night and see if that has a different affect on him.

My fiance likes them the best when I use my hands...

When you're licking or sucking the tip basically give him a hand job simultaneously. This also works well if you don't like to or can't deep throat (That sounds so porno, but I guess it is ). My only other advice would to pay attention to his balls. Squeeze them gently, or just kind of cup them and hold them while you're doing it. Or suck his penis for awhile and then give him balls some attention with your mouth.

The main thing is to have fun. Don't get too stressed out about how you're doing it or if it's good or not. If you're stressed out and worrying about technique you're probably psyching yourself out. Don't do anything you're not comfortable doing. And remember practice makes perfect, you'll eventually figure out what works and what doesn't.

Your man should appreciate the fact that you love him enough to give him a bj.

i had your problem once but is true that porn can help you a lot.use your tongue and try deep throat,my boyfriend realy enjoys

Girl read you some "COSMO." Tell him to tell you exactly how he wants it and suck the s*** out of it.

I feel that you should talk with him perhaps at a time when both of you feel at ease. Ask him what he wants. He may want it done in a different manner. If you are going to build a successful relationship, then communication is key. One last horrible thought, most of my friends or aquaintences that said their boyfriends utimately did not like blow jobs-the guys turned out to be gay.
Sorry but it's what I have heard.

go watch some porn and then ask him what he likes...

and if he doesnt like it, stop doing it- see how much he likes that lol

http://teamsugar.com/forum/topic/655872 we've conquered this in the msg board....
my 2 cents on the msg was........
"the key is having soft lips...... Make sure you use that Chapstick! And my guy really likes when my mouth touches his balls...haha that was fun to say.. Balls...anyway I like to torture him by kissing and licking every area around his member before I actually touch him......And a nice steady up and down motion with your head while you firmly grab the base of his penis is always a nice one......The key is to use a mix of your hands, lips and tongue....I feel like I'm a pro at this.. haha"

Some more good tips are...
While his penis is in your mouth move your tongue around the head in a swirling motion and the "V" shaped area on the bottom of the penis where the head connects to the shaft (I think its called the frenulum) is a great place to lick with a stiff tongue.....Just play around with your tongue.... anything goes! Just don't use your teeth! haha Thats the most important thing. Also the penis is really sensitive after he cums so I find that just after he cums use a light touch of your tongue to bring shivers down his body, just don't do too much after he cums b/c like i said before its really sensitive.......

the best ways to learn all this to watch porn..... and read Cosmo!!! haha....

1QTPIE - great verbage. hahahhah
Exactly ... I agree ASK him what he wants, how he wants it, what he doesnt like about it, communicate. Some guys (I've read) just don't like 'em for whatever reason but i'd say the majority will never turn one down, and it's pretty hard to give a bad one unless you're using teeth and that is just wrong.
Good luck keep on blowin!

He doesn't enjoy them? Oh, what a crime! Send him to me.

My first thought when I read this is that it is not you at all.

Some guys really aren't all that into it.

Seriously!

Ok ... Always look and sound like you enjoy giving your oral report. That helps alot because if you are down there like oh... god.. what ...why... I really don't like being down here, he's not going to enjoy it. Another thing is make sure you have enough salivia in your mouth (or if you are using flavored lubs)... nothing worse then not enough lub (well teeth). Sometimes play with the tempature of your mouth. Like eat something cold before hand... that intial contact with his member will be enough to get his attention. Also I saw above soft lips... yes.. yes... yes.. keep them joints lubed... always make sure they are soft.

Good Luck

Just ask him what he wants. No need to read Cosmo. Or maybe you could just not give him blowjobs. I really dislike giving them, so I only do it when I really want to, perhaps he is the same way about getting them.

Hmm...there was this show on HBO like a year ago that I watched. It helped alot and I even got the "OMG WHERE'D YOU LEARN THAT?" and the eyes rolling back reaction. I found this website...it might help.

http://www.holisticwisdom.com/blow-job.htm

Did you ever think about practicing...on a dildo...

The most important thing is communicating with him and seeing what he likes. I am like you - my boyfriend was my first everything (except kiss) so we had to learn together. The only way to get better was to talk it over.

I'm not sure if Cosmo really has any good tips. I read cosmo every month, but half of the sexual things they suggest I would never do or are just stupid and not practical. I tend to think "oh, thats a good idea!" but my boyfriend will see the headlines and read the suggestions to see if that is really a way to bring him over the edge or his number one fantasy or whatever - half the time he laughs and says it wouldn't work for him. My boyfriend and I might just be weird and cynical though...we sometimes watch the horrible porn on those movie channels and end up laughing. Basically, just talk to him - if you see an idea you think might help, ask to see his reaction.

My guy likes when I look like I'm having fun, lick the tip or swirl my tongue around his tip. I'll slowly swirl on my way down and then let my tongue go up the back vein which is supposed to be a sensitive area - whatever, he likes it. Some guys don't like that girls look so submissive and below them when they suck them off - we both thought that too and didn't try it for a long time because of that. Honestly, if you think about it, you're the one in control. You have basically the most sensitive body part in your mouth and can control if he's in absolute bliss or in the worst pain he's ever felt. Just as long as you do it because you want to (and it sounds like you do) there is nothing demeaning about it!

I'm a little late to this one, but you could go to one of the Lover's Package stores (or whatever they call them in your area - they sell lingerie, videos, lubricants, sex toys, etc) and pick up a dvd on how to perform fellatio. I got one for my best friend because she wanted to know how to perform better for her husband.

Alternately, it may just be like others have said - he may not like it AT ALL. I found it difficult to believe, but one of my ex-boyfriends said he just didn't like it - period. I assumed all guys did so don't think it's something you're doing wrong.

Okay I was in the same boat as you when I started dating my ex. then he started watching porn while I gave him a blow job. When you’re watching porn you start to feel a little more courageous, and it lets you try new things.
Also moaning and squeezing his legs while you’re doing it lets him know or think you’re enjoying it and makes it even sexier.

I think communication is very important..So you can talk to him to find out what he likes..To make him feel more comfortable you could also bring up a few things you like as well...If you both feel uncomfortable saying it flat out..Maybe you can find other ways of expression.. A good website I would recommend is askmen.com ...On this site, women can ask real men questions like tips on oral..etc.

If this fails you..Maybe the problem is more...Deeply rooted than oral sex.

i feel wierd saying this but here i go!
what i do and my husband loves it. you should mess around gently with his balls. lol nad while he is at work watch porn so that you can learn thing and try it men love new things and different things thats why men cheat becasue it is the same thing over and over again.

stick your finger in his booty. it is an itch they have that needs scratched...haha

My guy really likes to receive blow jobs in the morning. We sleep nude and he always kicks the covers off him, so sometimes I like to surprise him with a blow job to wake him up, especially if he has a morning woody.
Then, he likes me to gently play with his balls, using my hands and mouth. He is real sensitive there, and after a little saliva is on them kind of gently blow on them, but not to much. I also make sounds that make it sound like I am eating something delicious (actually I like the taste of his ah hem load), I think this is kind of like cheering him on, plays to his ego. Finally, and some do and some don't, he likes me to swallow. He told me once, it is kind of like rejection of him when I spit it out. It took some getting used to since he was my first also in this department (can you say almost threw-up), but now I have acquired the taste and enjoy it.