After a terrible break-up, one that lasted months and involved a lot of mixed signals from your ex, your friends decide to take you out to celebrate your newly single status. In your less than sober state, you end up spilling the grittiest details to your friends about all the not-so-nice things he said and did. Before you know it, one of your girlfriends has made off with your cell phone to give your ex a piece of her mind.
By the time you've found her, it's too late, the damage is already done — she's no longer talking and you gather it wasn't a friendly good-bye. It's not that your ex doesn't deserve a tongue lashing, but you couldn't think of a more negative way for it to reflect on you. You're furious with your friend. You don't know whether to yell at her and call your ex up to apologize or just leave it be, so ladies, tell me, how would you handle this?
Chantelle
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Leave it. If he was a jackass, anyhow. He's allowed either a pissy friend chewing him out, or a drunk dial, or both if my friend was "less than sober" too. I wouldn't be furious in the first place, I'd think it was pretty funny.
1Leave it be. Who cares if he thinks badly of you now. Its over, so why go back and try to mend fences?
2Leave it. Who cares what he thinks now? He wont get the tongue lashing he deserves unless someone steps up and if the friend is the only one with the guts to do it, more power to her.
3I don't really understand where the hypothetical issue is here. The relationship's already over! I'd feel loved in that my friend cared enough to b*tch the guy out. That's what friends are for, right?
4Smile and pretend it never happened. Your ex is never going to believe you and I'm sure he knows you were talking smack about him that's why your friend lashed out on him. He probably deserved it.
5Send him a dozen roses to apologize and kick her out of my life because no one needs friends like that.
6Oops, misread the question. Yeah, I'd totally do nothing also. Well, I'd laugh with the friend and ignore the loser if he had anything at all to complain about afterward.
7I dont see the issue. This is your CURRENT friend who clearly cares about you is mad on YOUR behalf. The ex is an EX. End of story.
8i wouldnt want my friend to do something like that cuz i wouldnt want my ex to have the satisfaction of knowing how hurt and upset i was. but if this did happen, i know my friend cares about me and is protective. so i wouldnt say anything to her, and what the hell...screw him.
9I'd also do nothing. It would bother me in a sense that I wouldn't want him to have the satisfaction of knowing I was that upset over it, likewise I try to be mature about these sort of things in general. But if we had a super messy breakup that lasted months, chances are he already thinks I'm a basketcase, so who cares.
10Next time I see my friend and we're both sober, I would mention to her that I'm trying to cool down the drama and I would appreciate if everyone just chilled and not cussed each other out, the past is in the past, after all.
I've done this before, my friend just let it be. I mean they broke up who cares? It would be giving him way too much importance to call him or something.
11I'd let her know in no uncertain terms that she was out of line, and behaving very immaturely (seriously, that is so high school). It's not her place to tell him anything, especially since the relationship is over. It's one thing for her to tell him that he's not treating me well in the middle of a relationship, but once it's over, it's over. If I've let it go, then she should too.
Of course, I wouldn't say anything to him, since he probably deserved it.
12This one is stupid...first of all..who has friends, who would do that without permission? Second, so WHAT! It's over...he was a jerk that's no longer in this theoretical person's life. Move on...
13Nicole121842, unfortunately, I have a friend that I could seriously see doing this. She's actually done things similar but WORSE. It's very hard to deal with and the only reason why I actully stick out our friendship is because we've been friends for about 14 years.
And I would be so embarassed if this happened to me. More because I try not to tell things people said bad about other people, to avoid conflict and because it's just not right. So I would be upset my friend got that upset about what an EX of mine thought of her AND more I would be upset that she would make me look like I was dishing all of his crap out to people (even though I was) regardless of HOW our relationship may have ended. I would appologize IF I happened to see him.
14I'd just leave it be. The guy was obviously a jerk and even though I wouldn't appreciate my friend doing that deep down I know she did because she cares for me.
The guy was a loser so why apologize. When your friend sobers up say something about it (politely) and just leave it be.
15I would laugh.
16I can't stop staring at the girl's crazy eyebrows in that stock photo!
As for the question, I guess it would depend on the ex. If he was a real dirtbag I'd just high-five my pal and let it go. If we were still on speaking terms, I guess an apology would be in order.
17I wouldn't do anything either, he's an 'ex' for a reason. Who cares?
18Yeah, really; who cares. Unless you're looking for an excuse to call him, what difference does it make.
19Leave it, who cares what an ex thinks about you? I know my ex hates me, and his whole family thinks I'm an "evil, b*tch." But, that's cool.
20Who has a friend that would meddle in your relationship like that past or present. I would be pissed as an adult I can take care of my own things and will tell her never to do it again but will forgive her eventually. As for him, what is there to do? we are already broken up and I don't nor should apologize or the actions of my friend (the same way that she had no right to call him to defend me). So the him part is her issue if she wants to apologize, not mine.
21Apologize to an ex? my a$$...I usually know when my friends date losers.
22haha this actually happened to me- or kinda. my friend ran into my ex at a bar with another girl. and my friend was wasted lol so she went up to him and started telling him how much better i was than the girl he was with and all this stuff lol he was furious! he called me up to b*tch at me and i was like look dude i have no idea what you are talking about (cause i hadn't heard the story from my friend yet!) and he told me and i just started laughing. i was like like i'm sorry she ruined your "game" that night but don't yell at me! i didn't put her up to it and i knew nothing about it and she is your friend too and you know how she is when she is drunk so yell at her if you are pissed. he realized i was right, he didn't exactly apologize for yelling at me but he let it drop. haha
23That is, like, so 'highschool'. [/valleygirlaccent]
Wow, who does that? Teenage girls? Oh well, he's your ex. Unless you wanted to continue to be friends with him after your break up, then I would leave what your friend did for you alone. However, if you really want to confront her, by all means, she seems to like the drama.
24I would let it be; by morning I wouldn't be angry and I would say he deserved it. I would do it for my friend, just like she would do it for me. Guys can't expect to get away with treating your friend horrible, they need to be told. I would say the same goes for guys when a girlfriend cheats or berates her boyfriend for no reason, the gf in this case has to be told that they were wrong. I wouldn't yell however I would talk calmly and stand my ground and let them know.
25LMAO
he better be glad i didn't make it outside before she hung up!
if i were drunk, it would've been funny as hell!!!!
if i weren't, it would be funny as hell
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