I think you can LOVE more then one person, but I don't think you can be IN LOVE with more then one person.

EXACTLY what ashcwebb said! Well done. That's soo TRUE

I think that just because I've never experienced it, doesn't mean it can't happen. Who am I to say?

I honestly think that it's completely possible.

In my opinion, no. You have only one heart. If someone TRULY captured your one heart, it's not available to anybody else.

I mean, if you can in be love with more than one person in your lifetime, who is to say that it couldn't happen at the same time? Would it be very likely that you would be in that position? Probably not, but it could happen.

Glowingmoon...that sounds like a nice fantasy, but honestly, I don't think love works like that except for on Hallmark cards! I mean, we've kind of debunked that whole "heart as love machine" theory...

I can see where Glowingmoon is coming from, though. It's my opinion that if you are TRULY IN LOVE with someone, you can't be in love with someone else. Otherwise, it's not truly being IN love. You might love them.... but it's not the same as being in love.

"Glowingmoon...that sounds like a nice fantasy, but honestly, I don't think love works like that except for on Hallmark cards! I mean, we've kind of debunked that whole "heart as love machine" theory..."

LOL. I meant "heart" as a metaphor, not literally.

Also, truthfully, I used to think like you until I met my true love. I already had past long-term relationships/romances. I found that my past loves, though meaningful, PALED in comparison to my true love.

Ever since I met him, I started talking like Hallmark cards. I suppose it is a fantasy come true.

Just like I don't believe in soulmates, I believe that you can be in love - and yes, I mean in love - with more than one person at a time. I think that if you don't believe that, you're limiting yourself.

Haha, fair enough... I'm way too cynical!

i think its impossible. as mentioned in the post, u may have crushes, even serious crushes where ur thinking about other ppl and fantisizing, but i dont ever think u can honestly say u love 2 ppl. if thats the case one or both of ur love interests r NOT real love. impossible.

Yes, I am deeply in love my SO and still deeply in love with an ex. It can happen, doesn't mean you have to act on the love or end it because someone new you love just as much.

To argue you can't fall deeply in love wit the people is like stating you can't love both parents. One love and the reasons for it are different from the next.

I have never loved two people the same way. However, I love each with the same depth.

I don't believe that it's possible to be TRULY in love with more than one person at a time. I believe that those who say they can do so lack the commitment aspect necessary to have a proper, lasting relationship with any one person. If you say you're in love with more than one person at a time, then you simply don't know what that kind of love really is. Just because you love someone it doesn't mean you're IN love with them.

It's impossible for me to be in love with more than one person because I am a faithful lover in all the ways I can be--emotionally, mentally, and physically. Others may say that they can be in love with more than one person but their definition of love is most likely different from my own.

i think its possible. i'm so in love with my ex. but i could meet a nice guy tomorrow and fall in love with him. maybe i'll fall out of love with my ex- maybe i never will. who is to say. but for a period of time i could be in love with two people.

heck yes

Sure. I guess I don't understand why you couldn't. I do understand why you wouldn't be, though, or wouldn't want to be.

I think you can be in love with more than one person for different reasons.

it's conflicting and it sucks, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. i think it's perfectly possible (and not fun)

Assuming we are still somewhat monogamous creatures, I would have to vote no, haha.
I might be wrong, but in my opinion if you are in love with more than one person, you are just confused and you shouldn't be getting into a relationship with either because you won't give them your full devotion

What Poster of a Girl said.

It's one thing to have one relationship AFTER another.

Quite another to have two or more at the same time. There has to be some level of disrespect and lack of caring about people's feelings to do the "two or more at the same time" thing. That, to me, makes it NOT love for the people you're "with", then.

I mean, polygamy is okay if you're all consenting adults who have an understanding of what you're getting into in the first place. But there, I don't think it's so much "love more than one person at a time". It's more "in love with number one". So it's still only love for just one person at a time.

Not that there's anything wrong with self-love.

I just think it's bogus for people to claim that they have a lot of "lovers" because they have "so much love to give". That they can love more than one at a time because they're so "special" and their heart is extra extra big or some such thing. And other people are "sooo narrowminded" and "just don't understaaaaand meeee". Oh, come off it and be at peace with the fact that you love yourself above all else. (General "you", not aimed at anyone in particular.)

The question said nothing about having more than one relationship at once.

Althought I've been in an extremely happy relationship for the last four years, I have had a small crush on someone else two times. It never lasted long, and occurred only when me and my SO were in a rough patch. But I never ever loved someone while being in love with him. There's definitely a huge scale from liking, having a crush, loving to bein in love for real. And I don't think that you can love two men/women/whatever equally at the same time.

well loving someone is sort of different from being in love. so yes you can love more than one person but not be in love with 2 different people.

I dont think so. If you are truly in love with someone, the cute guy that rings you up at the grocery store, or the funny guy that you work with pale to what you should have with the person you are in love with. Being in a truly loving and commited relationship, means just that, you have to commit everything you have to make a relationship work. Once you start giving those little peices away to someone else then they become meaningless and one (or both) of those relationships will inevitably suffer.

you could be in love with more than 1 person but maybe for different reasons and one more than the other

I think it's a very individual thing...I believe that some people can, others...no (whether it is can't/won't, who can say)...for some, the issue simply never comes up.

Love is always different too...so, of course, you wouldn't love different people in the exact same way or for the same reasons.

I think that love is rare, so what would be the odds of having that level of love with more than one person at the same time? It takes a while to grow and you have to be open to it and it's a lot of work...so if one could manage all that...wow. Especially since love changes...

i believe it's possible to love more than one person at a time, but not equally. you could break up with someone and get over him/her, but you could still love them even if you've moved on to someone else you love as well. cases like that are depressing, but i believe they happen.

It is entirely possible to have deep, heartfelt feelings for more than one person. It's likely that you'd feel more for one than for the other, but it's entirely possible.

I KNOW it is possible ,you CAN love one person and be emotionally in love with someone else. I am in a relationship in which I am NOT in love with the person that I am with,but I am in love eomtionally with someone else.

I KNOW it is possible ,you CAN love one person and be emotionally in love with someone else. I am in a relationship in which I am NOT in love with the person that I am with,but I am in love eomtionally with someone else.