Suggest to the MOH that you all wear the T-shirts but all accessorize in your own individual way. The come up with something to wear over/under/around the T that will make you feel comfortable and attractive.

What if you asked to get the same design printed on the same color shirt, but in a style that you normally wear? Or you could just offer to wear the same color shirt as everyone else, one that you already own. I think a compromise is the best way to work it out.

OK, I am going to be very blunt here.
Weddings are generally VERY stressful for everyone involved in planning them. Bride, groom, MOH, whoever it i; it's stressful.
They probably thought this could be a fun way for all the chickies to celebrate and get loaded and have some fun together. They probably didn't even think twoce tht everyone would hate the idea because in reality they ahve MUCH BIGGER issues then if a shirt looks good on you.

I say suck it up buttercup and just try not to add anymore stress to the people planning the wedding!

I like kk_bama's suggestion.

The Maid of Honor is the onle who plans the bachelorette party, not the bride and groom. And that's the MOH's biggest responsibility. I wouldn't worry about adding stress. I think the MOH can handle some suggestions.

a friend of mine got married and her MOH did the same t-shirt thing. i was not thrilled, but i wasn't the one planning and it wasn't my wedding, so i sucked it up and had a good time, dorky t-shirt and all. i suggest you do the same thing

i understand that the style of the shirt makes you uncomfortable, but you should do it for your friend. to make yourself feel attractive, wear your fave jeans and do your hair and makeup in a way that makes you feel good. wearing a t-shirt for a few hours shouldn't be this big of a deal, especially if it's for your friend's bachelorette party.

If I were you, I'd find a plain tank, or whatever you do feel comfortable in, cut the design off the party shirt, and safety pin it to it.

Orrrr, sack it up and wear the shirt. It's not the end of the world.

I think your being ridiculous!!!! I see tons of people out for bachollerettes, dressed in t-shirt's, some day you are going to get married, and maybe you are going to want to include something that your friends don't like. Suck it up and be a good friend, it's one night, trust me, you'll survive!!!!

Suck it up! It's the bride's day and the MOH put a lot of thought and effort into this. Don't ruin it for everyone else just because you want to wear your own thing. It's not like she's forcing everyone to squeeze into a bikini. Members of a team don't get to pick and choose their uniforms. The MOH wants this to be a "team" event. Why not show some "team" spirit? The event isn't about you, my dear.

I agree, just suck it up...honestly, I think you're being a bit dramatic about it.

I just got married and if one of my bridesmaids planned this for the other girls, I highly doubt any of them would have made a big deal about it. And if they did, I honestly would have thought it was ridiculous of them.

Like other pointed out, there are a lot of stresses involved in the whole wedding planning process, no one needs to stress or worry over a t-shirt. I know it's not your first choice of what to wear, but I don't think it's worth causing an issue over.

If you're THAT uncomfortable about it, just bring a little cardigan to throw over it. It's ONE night, the MOH thought it would be cute and fun...just go with it!!

i, too, think you should do it for your friend. if it's a mens shirt, just cut it up a bit to make it less boxy. in 5 minutes you could take it in on the sides with any basic sewing machine; or you could cut off the collar to make it a little bit more sexy/comfy. i would just try to think of ways to mod the shirt or pair it with something.

honestly, this party isn't about you -- its for the bride.

i agree with emalove as well. honestly, it's one night and it's your friend's bachelorette party. i'm sure there will be so much alcohol and such flowing you'll forget all about the t-shirt.

not to sound harsh, but...GET OVER IT! it's a t-shirt. geeeez. the maid of honor is probably working very hard to plan this event, and you should just suck it up and wear the shirt. tie a belt around it if it's too "boxy" or throw a jacket over it if you're uncomfortable about your chest. if you really won't have a good time because of a SHIRT, that's really sad!

Be a good sport and play along. Otherwise, stay home.

ITA with Kristyy, and well everyone else.

Probably everyone will be uncomfortable in a dorky tee to some extent, but you will be together in the silliness and I think that is the point. If it bothers you so much throw a zippered hoodie or cardigan over it to give some shape, but not cover the logo.

If you do not even want to do that, I'd suggest not going, because not taking part in the group activity would be just as much a downer as your being uncomfortable for the two seconds until the first drink.

i also say suck it up!
i mean if it was YOUR party then ok
but its not.. its about your friend
its just a shirt... if it bugs you THAT much
then do what these ladies have suggested and cut it out and pin it onto another
shirt that you like.. otherwise.. wear the shirt and have a good time
after you have a couple drinks in you you probably wont even notice!

I swear when I saw this post I thought it was going to be about how the party was going to cost you $1000 to attend. Why did I think that? Because the title of this post is about a Bachelorette party NIGHTMARE.

When I saw it was about a silly t-shirt I couldn't help but think you are overreacting and being a little selfish. I mean, really, this is a NIGHTMARE for you? That's alarming on many levels.

Either you are a drama queen who is overstating things for the sake of, well, drama, or you need to be treated for some kind of social anxiety disorder!

Sorry to be blunt, but it's not really normal to react like this when asked to wear a t-shirt outdoors.

If you are truly just going to have a horrible time because of a shirt, then I agree with the others who have suggested you just stay home. Going to the party anyway and pouting is just going to ruin everyone's night.

I can sympathize with the dorky t-shirt hate, I haven't heard of doing this for a bachelorette party, but I've been forced into ugly tees for other group activities. Anyway, I find cutting it up a little (only if you have the knack for that, this has the potential to go horribly wrong) or wearing a hoodie under it makes it better. Layering can work wonders. And dressing in layers also makes it so you can take the damn thing off at the first opportune moment.

You could get a men's tee and crop it short so your waist shows. I've seen a girl seriously shred a lot of the fabric off a men's tee, and I don't know if that pisses other people off, but I thought it looked really good and inventive.

Yeah, matching shirts are silly, but they're also kinda bonding in a big group because you can commiserate with pretty much everyone else (except the one who had the shirts made, haha) about having to wear ugly t-shirts.

If this is what your friend really wants (the bride), suck it up and wear the shirt, it is all about the bride, am I not right?! I'm sure there are other girls who will be attending the bachelorette party that wont feel 100% confidant in the shirt either, your not the only girl with a big chest or a little tummy! It's one night, be a good friend and wear the shirt (sans b*tching the whole night that you actually had to wear the t-shirt).

JESUS!!! Is just a t-shirt..for a few hours...she's not kicking your puppy!!!!

I wouldn't suggest modifying the t-shirt...maybe accesorizing but not cutting it up...complaining about it only shows how freakin' childish you are...the night is NOT ABOUT YOU...for once stop the selfishness and try to have fun for somebody else...RELAX!!

Okay, breathe, Put the dumb thing on and wait ten minutes, than SPILL something on it so you have to take it off. There you go! solved.

This is your friend's bachelorette party, not yours. Suck it up and wear the shirt. Just think, you can make her wear a chicken suit at your bachelorette party!

bring a back up shirt and the first chance you get, "accidentally" bump into someone and get a drink spilled on it. she won't be able to blame you for changing--especially if it's a smelly drink--like beer or a mai tai. (i did this once at a reunion)

True story, at my friends bachelorette party she made everyone wear these stupid tool belts with a toilet plunger on it, get it, since she was taking "the plunge" yea, lame, i "lost" mine quickly (actually i went outside and tossed it in the garbage) no biggie, she was too toasted to care.

just do it. it is not worth being upset over. your friend is getting married, just roll with it and be happy for her. this is a time to hang out with your girlfriends...not necessarily pick up guys anyway. who cares if you don't look too cute for one night.

Look, if this was YOUR bachelorette party, you'd have some validity to your argument, but it isn't. Your friend is getting married, and this is what everyone is doing to celebrate. Suck it up and deal. If you are more concerned with your appearance than making sure your friend the bride has a great time, then maybe you shouldn't be going. I don't mean to be harsh here, but the fact of the matter is that having to wear a ill-fitting t-shirt for a few hours is not the NIGHTMARE you made it out to be. I'm a bridesmaid coming up in a HIDEOUSLY UNFLATTERING dress (not to mention borderline vulgar -- my breasts literally pop out after 5 minutes, I think I am going to have to duct tape them in), but I'm not complaining to my friend because it's her wedding and she picked them.
You have two choices here -- you suck it up like a good friend, don't complain at all, and have a good time. Or, you don't go to the party because you're incapable of having fun and participating with everyone else. You just better come up with a good excuse and hope your friend doesn't find out the truth, because if a close friend of mine chose to ditch on my bachelorette party at the last minute over something as minute and petty as t-shirts, I'd take that as a sign that she really doesn't have an interest in being a friend after all.

Well, I don't know if shirt modifications would be a problem for the others. It's a possibility. Really depends on the group/people involved. Usually people would only get upset over shirt mods if they want the shirt back or if it's a uniform you're supposed to take 100% seriously. Since this is just for fun, and assuming the shirt is yours to keep, I'd venture to guess that it'd be fine as long as it's still shirt-like in the end and you don't destroy any of the logo/design.

Or play it safer and just use the layering and accessorizing ideas.

And it's okay to comment on the silliness of the shirts, just keep it light, with something like "haha, we look so silly!" and not something like "Argh! I hate this so much! This is the worst thing ever!"

Get over it. The night is not about you and how you feel in a tee shirt it is about your friends last night being single. I thought the same thing Pop that it was going to cost her a ton of money but all this over a tee. You should be having so much fun that it shouldn't matter what you are wearing. I am sure there are other people that think wearing matching tee's is stupid I know I do but it is about going out with your friend.

I think you need to just deal with it. This party is all about the BRIDE, not you! How selfish would it seem if you were complaining about a T SHIRT!!!? Maybe you could wear the t-shirt under something else, like a zip up hoodie or a cute blazer. But I would not suggest saying anything to the MOH or especially to the bride! It is only one night, you will be drunk and you will be congratulating your friend so much that you will forget how you look!

I would talk to the MOH, even though you don't know her that well maybe if you talk to her she will understand. How about the other people do they feel fine about matching t shirts? because I know i wouldn't be fine wearing a t-shirt at a party. I don't know I want to look good when I go out. I think you should talk to her and hey if the t-shirts go through just get wasted you'll forget that you are wearing a t-shirt. Or just wear a long sleeve shirt on top or a sweater that you like

Accesorize! and maybe wear a chic cute cool jacket! and whatever happens remeber....you sparkle! Have confidence and fun! Good luck and don't stress to much!

I think I would just suck it up and wear the shirt. It's your FRIEND's bachelorette party, not yours. And it's only for one night. Just wear the shirt in support of your friend who is celebrating her last night as a single woman. Get out there and have fun. Everyone is going to look silly in those shirts. Embrace the silliness of it all.

My best friend is getting married this summer, so I know what you're dealing with. It isn't always fun to go along with what someone else says. But think of it this way, you didn't have to plan ANY of the bachelorette party- you got out easy! All you have to do is wear the shirt for one night and have a good time!

really? a nightmare? Plu-eez! you are a terrible sport and so selfish that the world has to be yours. do a little something for someone else for a change. i think that you should be un-invited if you cant go with the flow and be happy for your friend. if you cant go with the t-shirt and be nice, maybe you shouldnt go at all.

it's just a tee shirt. people wear them everyday. you won't look any more stupid than any of the other 16 girls there. don't be a diva- this isn't about you. suck it up and don't make such a big fuss about it! it's in no way comparable to a chicken suit.

When did it become okay for brides to make their friends go through their every whim under the pretext it's "their day"? And it's their day on the day of the wedding, the day of the shower, the day of the bachelorette party... etc - how many days do you get in a one month-period to make people do whatever you want them to do? That's totally insane. It's just a bunch of excuses to act like a spoiled brat princess. That's not what getting married is about, and it's certainly not what friendship is about either.

When my brother got married, his wife's wedding color choices were fuschia, orange, and purple. Does anybody look even human wearing those colors? I mean, what was the plan, there - making everybody else look awful? So I showed up in black - but I hate my SIL and I'm not telling you to stick it to your friend the same way I did -

I say, talk to the maid of honor and see what can be done so that you're comfortable in your own skin. If she's not willing to give an inch, take ProfessorLuv's advice; I know it can be hard getting over any physical self-consciousness (if anybody made me wear flats, I'd die. My whole life people have told me I was crazy, but if I wear flat shoes I feel like my calves look like two giant tree trunk. Nothing will ever change that. I'll be nine months pregnant and still wearing heels!) but remember that : 1. you are probably a lot more attractive in a tee-shirt than you think; 2. that night is not about you looking super glamorous and picking up guys, but having a good time with your girlfriends; and 3. well... maybe you can take a deep breath, look at yourself in the mirror, find yourself beautiful, and add a cool belt to the ugly shirt.

Personally, I'd go full fledge ridiculous and add as many ludicrous and tacky accessories as possible. The tee-shirt would then be the least of my problems - but at least the others would be in my control.

Cheers, and good luck!

I think it's a little harsh to just say "suck it up."

It's not that she doesn't like the shirt, it's that the style is not flattering on her and makes her uncomfortable. If someone asked me to wear a shirt that didn't fit me or highlighted a feature I was insecure about it, I certainly would not be able to just suck it up.

Also, it's not "The Bride's Day." You get your way on your wedding day, the rest is lagniappe. I agree that the party is FOR the bride, but that doesn't mean the lemmings have to follow and do whatever, especially since the shirts weren't even her idea.

That being said, I think CaterpillarGirl had the best idea. Spill something on it 10 minutes in and make sure you have on something fabulous underneath. Or you could just tell the MOH how uncomfortable it will make you and ask if you could find a compromise. If she hasn't ordered the shirt yet, maybe they can get the design put on a different shirt style. If you are really honest and nice about it, I can't imagine her being too upset about it.

Before you do anything though, I would seriously weigh the pros and cons and decide if it is worth it.

We did something similar for my friend's bachlorette party and it was actually kind of cute. I too have a difficult time with t-shirts. I'm short, have a C-size chest, and worry about my stomach so I know where you're coming from. All of us girls actually were worried about the t-shirts. Some t-shirts are cute and some aren't. Our shirts were made with iron ons (my friend worked in advertising and did a really good job). Assuming this is something similar, can you contact the MOH and provide your own shirt? We did white tank tops and everyone wore something underneath. Sometimes layering is enought to make you feel better - it hides the bumps. I'd talk to the MOH about it. I'm sure she wants to feel cute too and will understand your problem. Then compromise. You could wear another t-shirt underneath and if you get the men's shirt, tie a knot in the back of the shirt to pull it up and back. This will reduce the boxiness. It'll look sporty and maybe not how you would normally wear a t-shirt but it will work for this night.

ask if you can tailor it to fit you better- a little bit of cutting or tapering or something could help! but if the bride is excited about this then suck it up and don't throw too much of a fit. i have a hot pink bridesmaid t-shirt that i just threw out the other day lol wasn't my favorite t-shirt ever but it made her happy for a day!

I would wear the t-shirt for a little while with a hoodie over it..then I would change my shirt a little later (like 20 minutes later). Just make an excuse like..the shirt is too tight around your chest & how you weren't comfortable in it. Also, when they ask you for what size..make sure to order a little bit smaller size..and hey, maybe you won't have to wear it all.

Trust me, no one is going to care after they have a couple of drinks, & if they do care..then they need to get a life. Shouldn't it just be about showing up and being there for your friend..and not having to wear something you find repulsive. If, it were my bachelorette party..well, I would never have matching t-shirts..but if I did, I wouldn't care at all if some people chose not to wear them.

You can hardly compare this situation to being asked to wear a chicken suit or something in public.

SIXTEEN OTHER GIRLS are going to be wearing the same shirt, and chances are, it won't flatter some of them either. Just wear it. Deal with it. Never wear it again after the party.

Hey why not add some cute and cool accessories to the outfit! My good friend is alot bigger than the other girls in our group And she has like size M boobs..... But she always has some funky new idea to make her clothes look great on her. Why not wrap one of those cute mid stomach belts around the T and wear some matching earrings. You'll give shape to the "boxy" T, look great and still fit in with your group......

Are you serious???? You have obviously never A) planned a bachelorette party or B) made tshirts for an event. I spent countless hours driving to every Walmart within a 30 mile radius just to get enough of the same color tshirts in the right sizes, making the iron-on transfers, and HOURS AND HOURS cutting and ironing the damn things on for my friends birthday. Granted the tshirts were my idea, so I can't complain, but the look on her face as she walked into her surprise party and saw all the tshirts it was worth it. I would be PISSED if someone whined and complained about them. For ONE NIGHT, it's not about you, it's about the person who's event it is.

I'm usually the girl dressed to the nines, accessories, shoes, the hair; believe me, I usually got it goin on. But I spent that one night wearing a silly tshirt, and my friend loved it.

Get over it.

You wear it and don't complain. It's your friends' wedding. Make her happy. Do it.

Sorry dude, but I think you are overreacting a little here. When I was the MOH in a wedding I had to wear the ugliest color dress ever- Im very pale and on me the dress actually looked see through, and the shoes were so uncomfortable I was actually limping before the wedding even got started- but it wasnt my wedding, I sucked it up and was happy for my friend (and ditched the shoes as soon as possible, thank god it was a long dress at least and no one knew I was barefooted)

To me a wedding nightmare would be insane costs, ugly dress, horrible shoes, a bridezilla to deal with, demands that you lose weight, cut/dye your hair, start tanning etc. I totally get that some brides do not consider their friends at all when it comes to their comfort, but cant you see how the MOH couldnt have predicted that the thing you would have an issue with is a T-SHIRT??

If I were you I'd just customize the tshirt so it was more my style and if that is not possible then I'd just suck it up and wear it. It's only one night and it's not going to hurt you. I think it's hard trying to please everyone and by bringing this up you're putting unnecessary stress on everyone, including yourself.

Oh, grow up and suck it up. Seriously, how old are you? It's not your wedding.

Newsflash, the bachelorette party ISN'T ABOUT YOU. Either be a friend and suck it up and party, or just stay home. No one will probably miss your sourpuss anyway.

Newsflash, the bachelorette party ISN'T ABOUT YOU. Either be a friend and suck it up and party, or just stay home. No one will probably miss your sourpuss anyway.

I'm with you. Matching tees at a bachelorette party is cheesy! I mean...'who' does that buuuut I guess since the MOH is dead set on making everyone wear one :controlfreak: sorry...I blame my other personality for any out bursts... maybe you can wear it and accidentally fall into the shrimp display :idea: you're probably just more into fashion and there's nothing wrong with that~

I was intrigued when I heard about the party NIGHTMARE, but I could not believe it was about having to wear something you didn't like. I guess that's why you're not a bridesmaid, either! To be honest, I've worn things for events which were not awesome on my body. I was uncomfortable. And I sucked it up. Because those times WEREN'T ABOUT ME. I think "spilling" something on it would be tacky. If you don't suck it up, you're going to look a damn fool in the bachelorette party pictures.