He's playing games. Don't do that yourself.

wait, he's the one who cheated on YOU and he wants YOU to prove your love to HIM? uh, no thanks. walk away from this one.

i think you need to take this situation into YOUR CONTROL. make him prove his love TO YOU! he is the one that has put this relationship in the state that it is today. if he is truly worth it (which from what I read, he should be a gonner), he needs to show you. he seems like quite the manipulative type, so it may not be easy. girl, you are going to have to go out of your comfort zone on this one, and really lay the law down. if you do not let him know where you stand on this, you are only setting yourself up for future heartache.
let him know that you need him to show you that you can begin to trust again. if he cannot do that for you, he is simply not the kind of guy you deserve.

I can't believe you are buying into this!!!! You are with a cheater and a controlling bastard.

Prove you love YOURSELF by running from this jerk.

I'm sorry... Wait... YOU HAVE TO PROVE YOUR LOVE TO HIM???

No, honey. That ain't gonna cut it. What do you have to prove to him? If anything, HE HAS TO PROVE TO YOU THAT HE WON'T DARE PULL CRAP LIKE THAT AGAIN!

Come on, Dolly, you deserve better than that. Can you not see that? Do you know how many guys there are out there in the world that will treat you better if you were their girlfriend?

Please don't settle for a guy who plays crap-games like that. You have NOTHING TO PROVE TO HIM!

... Except maybe that he NOT worth your time, effort or tears anymore. Tell him to scram, and don't look back. He's a loser, and will always treat you crappy.

Tell the dirty hound dog to "beat it."

Taking him back after he cheated on you isn't enough for this guy? Shouldn't it be the other way around, with him proving his love to you? The real question here is: Why would you want to be with someone like this?

I agree with the other girls. He cheated and went back to the other girl and now that he back wants you to PROVE your love! he has some nerve to do that. You shouldn't have taken him back in the first place, he doesn't deserve you. Believe me it hurts like hell to reject him but in the long run you would still have your dignity and would be happy. What you need to do is tell him that HE cheated not YOU and that HE is the one that need to PROVE HIS LOVE. I'm hoping the reason you two got back together wasn't because you were still after him and he had no other choice but to give in? If so, then I doubt this will have much of an effect on him. Ultimately, I say to walk away.

Good luck!

OMG...get rid of this guy. And quickly.

I'm sorry, but he sounds like a selfish, immature jerk.

Once a cheater always a cheater. I am sorry to be blunt, but this guy is a loser. You deserve waaaay better than this. Move on!

How old are you guys? I got the impression that you must be quite young. Anyway, have respect for yourself and ditch this loser, what did he do that was so great that deserves any kind of effort on your part? cheat on you? please!

you need to ditch this loser.

oh honey, please dump this guy! why would you be with someone that cheats on you AND makes YOU prove your love to HIM after he's the one that hurt you???

you may love him, but you have to love yourself more. and that means having the courage and strength to tell him to beat it. there are SO MANY MORE MEN OUT THERE. you will find someone that will treat you with the love and respect you deserve, but it's not this guy!

You love him and this is why you have put up with all this.
He cheated on you after only a few months, the time when usually you are still so much into each other you can not even think about someone else. At least I am sure that is the way you felt.
Maybe he tells you that he loves you but his actions speak a lot louder then his words. If he truly cared about you he would treat you with love and respect, but he treats you badly and know YOU have to prove to HIM that you love him?
Take a step back and imagine if a friend of yours was treated like this by her boyfriend, what would you tell her? Would you make excuses for her boyfriend or say she deserves better?
Dear is right, you deserve someone who really cares about you and this guy has shown you that he doesn't. You need to end this relationship now and even if it might hurt you will feel better in a few months.

Prove your love to yourself and leave that jerk.... He's the one who cheated so he should be kissing a** not telling you to prove anything. You took his cheating a** back that's proof enough. Find you someone who can love you back.

He cheated on you, broke up with you and then dated the girl he cheated on you with. Then... realized his mistake and was lucky enough to have you take him back.

Now, he gets all pissed that you can't trust him?!! He has to EARN YOUR TRUST BACK and he definitely doesn't seem to be doing that.

Just don't
Cheating is a red flag.
Don't date someone who cheats on you. It can be forgiven sure, but, don't date him again. Especially if he was stupid enough to leave you.
Let it go - there will be a lot better. You loved him: try and put that past tense on love.

He is sure enjoying himself with you! He is getting off on seeing how weak and dependent you are, on how much you desperately you need him in your life, regardless of how he treats you. His outrageous behaviour will continue to escalate so he can see exactly how much crap he can get away with. He already has no respect for you (because you don't respect yourself) and if you keep letting him get away with murder he will eventually be so disgusted with you he will dump you anyway.

I've been there, done that. And thankfully am now the wiser for it!

Unfortunately, if you do not break your pattern of allowing him to walk all over you, you will take this profoundly insecure behaviour into your next relationship, and the next, and the next...

You can't change the assholes, you can only change how you react to them. You can either let them treat you like sh*t, over and over, or you can demand to be treated with respect. If you don't do that, no guy will ever respect (or love) you.

i'm feeling like this guy is smart and knows what he's doing. he's definitely playing with your mind. in this situation, how in the world did you become the one who needs to prove anything? obviously you've proved your love time and time again when you stood by his cheating ways. yet, he wants you to do the same? what for? bc you pushed him away? shouldn't that be obvious when you know you can't trust him??
he's playing you for a fool. do not take his b.s. and do not let him turn the tables on you. you should be the one who has the say in this 'relationship'. best of luck!*

It is really scary that you are even considering getting back with him AGAIN, AND you are basically willing to sacrafice your self respect to get the jerk back! Sit and really think about this before you do anything you will really regret. Start off, but reading your own post!

He sounds like a very self centered person. You should be happy not to be with him. I hope you can see that before you get hurt again.

FORGET HIM!! He sounds manipulative and not worth your time. Move on and find some one who wont cheat on you. If a guy really likes you he will show you. No games involved.

Leave him, Leave him, Leave him. Did I say leave him? I"m so surprised this never raised anything of alarm to you! He's the one who needs to prove himself not you at all. Give yourself some respect girl!

RUN! NOW! Get as far away as fast as you can from this guy. He cheated on you a few months in to your relationship (isn't that usually still the puppy love stage of things where all the sappy lovey-dovey sayings come into play?), breaks up with you for the other girl, then you take him back and understandably want to take it slow, and he gets mad?
The jerk has no right to be mad at you. He should be groveling at your feet, thanking you for taking him back and doing everything to prove to you that he loves you and won't put you through this again. However, from what I've read, I don't think he'll ever do this. And if you stay with him, it'll only get worse and history will more than likely repeat itself, and you could very well let it.
Do yourself a favor, get ride of the jerk and find someone who loves you, and wouldn't think of touching someone else. You deserve it.

I have a feeling you are very young. He cheated on you how are you the one having to prove yourself to him because you wanted to take it slow... he should be the one trying to honor your wishes to take it slow and prove his love to you. Run Forest Run.

Agree with all of the above! He's a selfish loser and he's going to cheat on you again and probably throw in a ton of mind games in the process. This guy is scum and there is definately another guy or seven out there for you. Go and have a good time finding him and maybe yourself along the way.

Get rid of this jerk. He did wrong and YOU have to prove your love? Ridiculous.

I get the feeling that this is an HS situation, even then it's not acceptable. Love starts from within and the same goes for respect. Do not degrade yourself just to give someone an ego boost. You ae so much better then that.

The only thing you need to prove is that you value and love yourself! There are a lot of dogs out there who screw up and somehow make us feel like we did the wronging! I know things are foggy when it's happening to you, and that's why you are asking for an outsider's point of view. And it's pretty clear form here, run, as fast as you can from this guy. Sounds like he is a master of mind games and you deserve way better!

i didn't read all the posts above so forgive me if i repeat people but i agree with dear- shouldn't he be proving his love to you?!! he cheated on YOU. he broke up with YOU. he came back to YOU so he should be begging for your forgiveness and doing everything in his power to make you feel loved and special and earn your trust again. if he isn't doing this then you should move on, cause he'll never treat you the way you deserve to be

Bid adieu. Next!

Wow, if he isn't trying to see how far he can toy with your emotions I would be shocked. He wants to see how much you would be willing the throw away for him. So far if you carry along with his "Prove how much you love me BULLSH*T," you're pretty much throwing away your dignity.

He wants you to prove how much you love him? Tell him to go ask the other girl that and get away from him.

lol this sounds like my ex

he cheated and then had to balls to throw back in my face that he didnt trust me.

and i jumped thru hoops for him too

DONT DO IT.

please for the love of God

He's a manipulative jerk. He's saying this so that when he cheats again, you will feel guilty and blame yourself. Don't stick around for this. I guarantee that's how it will play out.

EW...See I would want to make him feel sad like he made me feel and I would never talk to him again. Never. That's the Scorpio in me though.

He should be the one proving his love for you. He's the one who cheated & destroyed the trust.

Sugar is right on! Go Sugar, go Sugar!

My two cents: I really hope you read these comments. I hope that you look at this situation and see that it has started to become a bad cycle. You need to be more confidant and independant. I think that if you stay with him that you would just let him run things again. This time YOU take charge. And if he doesn't like it, then he can hit the door. HE needs to prove his love to YOU. Not vice versa. There are many guys out there that would treat you with more respect! I promise!!!

Good Luck!

dump him!!

get rid of him. he did it twice in a short period of time! he's just having his cake and eating it too. you don't have to prove anything to him. the fact that you were willing to take him back in the first place is proof enough. he's probably just getting off on having two women chase him.

Ha im just laughing at how EVERY single comment told you to dump him and run. Nice to see that all the sugars agree.