I think it can be tempting to want reventge, but honestly, it's just never the right way to go. You end up doing things that degrade YOU to get back at someone else.

I think revenge would make the whole situation worse. Not only do you degrade yourself, you're adding another person to the mess and lessening your chances of possibly working past the betrayal.

It really is a hard choice. That's a tough situation! I know if my BOYFRIEND cheated on me, that would be the end of that. Even flirting with another chick is unacceptable because I'm sure he wouldn't want me flirting with another man.
Being married is different, you have a commitment, and you shoudl try your VERY best to work things out. But I don't think this is the proper way.

I think revenge is stupid and just makes you look deranged.

ugh... I have a friend who is planning to do the same thing to her boyfriend right now... he openly cheated on her a couple years ago, and in her mind "interest has acrued" so she is owed a few one-night stands with randoms... so wrong

You are right----two wrongs can never make it right--just more guilt and more complication. Lashing out and committing a wrong deed doesn't make anyone feel good nor make anything better.

I still believe in the Christian law "Never take revenge, but leave room for God's wrath for it is written ' It is mine to avenge; I will repay , says the Lord.' On the contrary, 'If your enemy is hungry, feed him, if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. ' In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."

This I believe is the law of karma--God's promise to take revenge on people who hurt His children.

If you cannot act "radically compassionate " to your enemy (which most human beings cannot do), just leave it up to God and pray for forgiveness. Forgiveness is not releasing your detractor from his sins against you but releasing yourself of the "pain and grief" you are suffering. Forgiveness is about you.

No, if someone sucked enough to cheat on me I would lose all interest in them immediately and move on.

I mean, why would I want to be with someone who sucked?

I wouldnt care enough about them from that point on to seek revenge.

Revenge would be the worst way to go. However, I like the thought of it all lol... Sorry ladies I can be a bit evil...

If something was askew enough in the relationship to turn one person to infidelity, what's to say that returning the infidelity is actually going to affect that person negatively? That is, if one person already cheated, is cheating on them back really going to hurt them anyway?

I'm kind of saying this jokingly, lol, but if someone cheated on you, why would you want to do the same to them? You will always have an unspoken upper hand, lol. why ruin that!

if it were my husband, i think the best revenge would be to divorce him and take all his money... sucka

but seriously i would never actually do that... people obviously would want to get him back, but its better to hold your head up high and get out of there before youre hurt even more or do something youll regret

it may give you momentary satisfaction or happniess cuz you are responding to the anger your feel. but hte hurt will not be alleviated long term. i think u will regret it.

I voted "Yes" because I would certainly WANT revenge... I would never actually take revenge, because that's a pretty stupid thing to do, but deep down I would want it.

Of course not.

As soon as I found out about the cheating, the relationship would be over. My revenge would be that I can get along without my boyfriend/husband just fine!

Of course revenge feels good, but it solves nothing.

I don't think it's a smart decison but I think sometimes in certain situations our anger takes control and people feel the only way to let someone know just how bad they hurt them is for that person to feel it for themselves. AND Pay backs are a b*tch

i'd shoot his ass.

Deranged.

I'd want revenge, but I think I'd just leave him.

I'd want revenge, but I wouldn't cheat to get it.

I'd want revenge, but not like that.

In all honesty, I'd probably be tempted to pack up all my sh*t and leave while he's at work...and I would destroy all the nice things I did for him or got for him if my boyfriend/husband cheated on me. A physical manifestation of what he's done to our relationship. Sorry if that sounds deranged or whatever you want to call it, but oops "it was the heat of the moment".

I might WANT revenge, but I doubt I'd ever do it...

Sure, I'd want revenge. But, if you want to save your relastionship, the worst thing you can do, is the same thing your SO other did to hurt you. This is what people call "history," that can often lead to the end of a relationship, even if the two people still love each other and want to work it out. When you get this type of revenge, you lose your moral ground to label what is crossing the line and inappropriate. Often times, the revenge affair is what truly brings the relationship to a "no hope" point, because it was absolutely pre-meditated, and done specifically to hurt the other person.

i would love to get revenge, but what does that say about you as a person? do you want to be as horrible as he is? ppl make mistakes, sometimes they're big and life changing. but honestly, i don't even know if i would be able to take my own advice! you would literally die inside from knowing he did something like that~

Heck no. I tried that once, and it didn't feel good. It just made everyone involved feel even worse. Don't do it! Move on instead, if what he did was really that unforgivable. And besides, the best revenge is success right?

Also, like brandynicole pointed out, you instantly lose the moral upper hand.

I would hope not, but I guess I won't know until I'm in that situation (which better never happen or I'll have to get my revenge on him

Either i take a new lover (revenge), or you take a bat to the head.

which one is it gonna be???

Let me know, i have a hair appointment . . .

No, no, no... Revenge should involve big rusty scissors. Just kidding. Kind of.

I agree adding yet another person just makes it worse. And how would you like to be the person being used for revenge? Even if the person doesn't develop any real attachment and is just there to enjoy the sex, no one likes being caught up in other people's drama.

i wouldn't want revenge, i would want (and would BE) out.

what good can come of it? Is it suppose to be all better after you wh*re yourself out just to prove to him you still have it in you? NO! break up with the guy and show him you're worth more!

I love this show, the clothes are great, the women are empowering, and the story lines hilarious. Revenge is a tricky thing, but in Juliet's case she's justified and did it in a way that wasn't trashy.

I think of revenge as leaving the bastard and making sure he realizes what he lost! The best revenge is to let him see you happy, successful,and with a hottie on your arm. That would be my only revenge. To stoop down to his level wouldn't make you feel better. You're being just as pathetic as he is. I just think that staying with a guy and playing high school games are a waste of time. Hit him where it hurts: 1) The wallet
2) The ego
3) Oh...Make sure you stay very hot and sexy!!!

i think revenge is necessary in this type of situation, but mind games and playing around sexually just isn't the way to go. even if you don't have an affair yourself, don't go telling your husband that you did (like Juliet), because then he will think less of you.