As it's between two consenting adults who understand it's just sex, it's great! It's beyond difficult though when one person has feelings but it isn't reciprocated.

No I haven't.
I think for passionate sex you need to have a bond.
You can still have great sex with someone you don't love, you can have aweosme sex! But it's not the same.

yeah, I've done it. And it's been great! no drama, no messiness about how who feels what about who....very stress free. It is what it is...I got mine!

I would have sex with someone I wasn't in love with, but not with someone I wasn't in a relationship with. Basically, no casual sex, but I'm ok with sex before love develops in an exclusive relationship.

yeah, exactly what bbkf said. each of the whole 3 times I did it, the guy I was with was barely my bf.

I can't imagine everyone waiting till they're "in love."

The first time I had sex it was with a guy I had been dating for a while but still wasn't his girlfriend. I loved him so I did it, unfortunately he didn't love me. We continued to have sex (me in love and him not in love) and it was really good, the only thing that was missing was romance. Now we have that and are very happy together.

Hmmm... maybe not "love" necessarily but certainly a very comfortable friendship and obviously a good amount of sexual attraction!

yes. my current boyfriend and i had sex pretty much the first night we met...actually it was the third time meeting. it eventually turned into love and we're still together...and living together. it's not conventional and we're still surprised things turned out the way they have.

NO I was head over heels for my ex and now I can't see myself with anyone other than my hubby now.. I love you babe.. muah...
Casual sex is not for me.. "friend w/ benefits" no no no no no no

I think I could do "friends with benefits" without it getting messy. I couldn't treat sex the same way though.

sex without love = okay
sex without relationship = no thanks

unfortunately, i've never had sex with anyone i truly loved (or who truly loved me) so i can't compare. i do know that the sex i have had has been omgawesome, so I don't really know how much a difference "love" would make to an act that is physical.

this is also a mental issue, as some consider sex to be more emotional than others.

You can have great sex without love. But, I do think that the best physical intimacy occurs when you are mentally connected with someone.

I have to say that I wasn't in love with my current boyfriend when we had sex for the first time. I did fall in love with him over time and it certainly gave sex a little bit more intimacy. It just a different feeling.

But other than that I'd say that you don't have to be in love, sex can be just as good without. I have to repeat though that it just completely different once you're love.

Being single, I would NEVER have sex if I was waiting out for love, the last time I was in love was 3 years ago. So sex without love is perfectly ok/natural in my book!

I've had great sex without being in love. Definitely.

Sex w/o love is fine, but as someone above mentioned there should be a strong connection there first, at least. It's so much better when both people are really into it and truly enjoy being with the other person.

nothing like friends wih benefits to get you through the rough spots

I don't believe in putting all that energy into someone who has no feelings for me. Not worth it.

I don't think casual sex is bad, but it would drive me emotionally bonkers... I had sex with my former bf before there was true love.... I loved him, but I wasn't 100% sure he was in love with me. There was mutual admiration and caring, but nothing that I would call a life long connection. I wish I would have waited for that feeling of passion and intimacy, but oh well....it's just sex...

i can understand those who do it, i just cant see myself doing it

I've never had it... but sex with love feels amazing so I can't imagine that I would ever choose sex without love.

I was so attracted to this guy I met once and was thinking how I would love to have this casual sexually relationship with him that no one would have to know about. I was sick of trying to find someone to have a serious relationship with. We went to a baseball game together and realized that we knew each other's families. I couldn't hide that... it turns out that I gave him a chance at a relationship and we fell in love. So now I'm having that great sex and I met my guy!

i had sex with someone i wasnt in love with. i was in a relationship though. but i did it with the intention of looking for feelings to go further. but alas i just didnt feel it. so i broke it off. it was good sex though.
but general for me i would like love and sex.
but i think to each his own.

Hm...I find sex with someone you like or love while in a relationship is always more satsifying than casual sex. Causal sex without being in a relationship is all well and fun as long as both parties know it is exactly that. The danger of course lies in when you start feeling more for 'friend with benefits' or vice verca.

I have had some of the most physically pleasurable sex of my life without even being friends with the guy... to some it sounds ghastly but to me i think it's sort of like have a lot of pleasure from masturbation. it was at youthful and sexual awakening time in my life. he had respect for me which i think IS completely a requirement for casual sex. you can have great sexual chemistry with those you don't love.

i can't have passionate sex with someone i am not in love with. it's so worth having passionate sex with someone u love than mediocre sex with someone u barely know.

I only share my sexuality with someone I love.

No thanks!

I don't have to be "in love" with the person I am dating to have sex with them. But there does have to be some level of feelings that are reciprocated. I don't do the whole "friends with benefits" thing. But in my current relationship we had sex after dating for about two months, but I wasn't in love with him at that point. One and a half years later I am very much in love with him though.

I'm tempted to say casual sex is A-okay just because I am single and afraid that if I wait for love I will not get laid in a really long time, lol. But at the same time, I know myself and I would probably totally get attached and ruin the whole thing.

Yes and I still shudder at the thought. I was emotionally weak and vulnerable and they took advantage of me. Horrible.

i have only had sex one time without at least liking/knowing the guy before. and it turns out he's been my boyfriend for two years now. but i have never (with the exeption of once) been able to sleep with a guy i didn't at least like and was sort of dating. i didn't so much have to be in love with him--but i had to at least like him and date him.

I've been dating the same guy for 5 years, and he is the only person I've had sex with since we started dating when we were 17. In high school, I believed that it wasn't a good idea to have sex with someone where there wasn't a really strong bond/love, but I think that had to do with the fact that I was under 17/18, now I think it would be entirely appropriate if the bf and I broke up, and I probably would do it, but hopefully I won't have to find out!

Not anymore. I'm smarter than that now.

I did that when I was a teenager than thank God I didnt get an STD.

I've only had the one sexual partner, my current boyfriend, and I can't say for sure whether or not I was at the point of loving him the first time we had intercourse. Our physical relationship progressed quite naturally alongside the emotional one, and I suspect I did love him when the physical side got to that point, I simply was not conscious of it quite yet.

I think my answer is "sorta kinda not really." I can say for sure there was at the very least a strong emotional attachment and a whole lotta trust, but I think at the time I was idly playing the "do I love him?" game in my head.

i'm not your Good-Time Gal, ready to party.

if some sort of commitment isn't establish, then you better get aquainted with you right hand (left, if you're a south-paw).

even hard-a*s me gets emotionally wrapped. see in order for me to have sex with you, it must mean that i have some attraction to you (beyond you pearly whites). and if you're just trying to "smack dat" as Akon sings, then it's not happening.

i hate wasting my time, i don't have a high lebido anyways.

that's what MR. Bluey is for (my dildo, multi-speed vibrator with rabbit ears).

This is a simple question with no simple answers. In a perfect world it's best to have feelings for the person you are in bed with. Women should be careful to understand what it is they are getting into. As long as you have made your feelings or choices then do what you want. But who's to say what's going on in our minds during the throws of passion and physical pleasure. Sometimes reasoning just goes out the window and pure raw instincts take over. Later we are left to see what will happen after the sun rises. Hopefully some of those instincts will become more than a night or two, but then again maybe not. There can be some heavy consequences later on as feelings from one side or the other may be at stake. But then again who is to say that love is a guarantee that sex will be great? Who is to say sex can't be fantastic without a relationship?
I think everyone should have a few experiences. That way you will learn and understand the connections.

I would like to know that sex is very need for us but the heaven impose laws to keep the rights of those who love you and your generation , is that right ...Friends.

I've been able to have great sex with someone who I wasn't in a relationship with or loved.