I do and its always a HUGE mistake... they hold a grudge and NEVER get over it... they hate the guy forever and it makes everything awkward for EVERYONE...huge mistake...I've learned my lesson... If I'm having problems with a boy, NEVER SHARE WITH THE PARENTS unless you're sure your relationship is over... thats what friends are for!!!

Nope, because I don't want anything coming between my parents and hubby. Just a bad idea there.

I DONT!!
if i did they would hold a grudge forsure!!
and usually its a silly fight that we can solve ourselves.. so why go to mom and dad.... no thank yoU!!

My mom's my best friend. I run to her for everything. She doesn't hold a grudge, she knows from her own relationship with my dad that husbands/boyfriends are sometimes jackasses, but so are we and we vent and get over it.

no way! I wann KEEP this guy, not chase him away! I'm a big girl and can handle my own problems, haha.

I DO go to them if I'm going through a breakup....you have NO IDEA how much their support gets me back on my feet.

Nope...I learned the hard way about airing out stuff like that to my 'rents is a bad idea...

i agree erratic.. a break up is the time to go to them.. but if you wanna keep the guy then no.. and like my boyfriend alwyas use to ask me.. cuz its also a bit embarassing for them too! they dont want your parents knowing everything about your realationship! just like i wouldn't want my hunnie go to his parents

I expect my husband to talk to his friends just as much as I do, whether those friends are family or not. I mean, I expect details of certain things like our sex life to stay private, but I'd hate for him to think he isn't allowed to vent when something's bugging him. We talk about it to each other as well, he can listen in on any conversation I have with my mother and wouldn't learn anything I won't say to him as well.

No chance!! they would totally hold a grudge and make things complicated for me.

When I first got with my honey, my dad threatened to do physical harm to him if he ever hurt me, physically, mentally, or emotionally. I was 29 years old at the time and my honey was 34. So, would going to my parents be a good thing? I can't see any good coming out of that one.. haha.

If I broke up with him, yes, of course I would!
But if it is over a fight, it's between my man and me. My parents only putup with me being treated like a princess and getting whatever I want from a guy - so if I got hurt by one or my man pissed me off, I would never hear the end of it!

I would go to my family if it was something really major that I couldn't work out myself. After three years with my fiance there has not been any reason to involve them in our affairs. This relationship is with him, not them.

I say No, but not because my family holds a grudge, its because its none of thier business. I was seperated for 6 months, and my mom still talked to my husband but she knew that the "details" were not hers to know.

It depends on the severity and relationship status. I think parents are a fantastic resource when you are growing and learning. I went to them about BF stuff.

Now that I am married, I would only go to them about minor stuff. I think that in a marriage you can't bring other people in.

I voted yes, but there are certain times when I don't do this because they will hold a grudge!

I don't anymore (or try not to!) because my boyfriend and I'd always break up for a day to a month at a time and then I'd call my dad crying and he'd hate him, and when we'd get back together I'd feel so dumb!

It depends on the severity of the problem, but I do sometimes complain about my hubby's quirks, and my mom always has really good advice for me, and encourages my patience to deal with both my boy and my hubby

I did, and hubby hasn't ever let me forget it. It was in the begging of our relationship, and he felt very betrayed. I won't be doing that any more. It's better for us if we just work it out together. Running away has never helped me. I do want to say that everyone is different and sometimes people just need thier space.

No, I can take care of myself.

I chose "other" because while the answer is definitely "no" it's not because they'd hold a grudge. It's because I just don't like sharing anything personal with them.

I wouldn't, my parents are not very supportive of anything.

It's difficult for me to go to anyone about my problems in the first place haha. I have gone to my parents during/after breakups and they've helped me through it (especially my mom's magical antidote...SHOPPING SPREEEEE lol!) but the only thing that comes close to going to my parents when im having a tough time with the boyfriend is when i could use advice, but even then i dont let them know whats really going on. I think everything should be worked out between the couple before drastic measures are taken.

I've never done it but I wouldn't. They're in my business too much as is, why would I start bringing it to them?

I talk to my mom about challenges in my relationship, but I don't really like to air my grievances about fights. To me, unless there is an impending breakup, I think fights with my boyfriend are very personal, and I don't feel like my mom needs to know all that dirty laundry. Plus, so many fights are so petty, I don't want her to get the wrong idea that it's something serious if it's not.

I complain to my mom about stupid little stuff, like when I'm annoyed that I come home and he's left the place a mess, but I keep bigger problems to myself. In my last relationship, I told my mom almost everything and although she was still nice to my ex-boyfriend when he was around, behind his back, she always told me to break up with him. She was right, but it made me feel worse at the time. Now I feel that I'd rather solve the big issues myself.

No, but not because they would hold a grudge, because it's none of their business.

Generally not. I don't want them holding a grudge, plus they worry and fuss way too much, I don't want to give them anything to fret about.

Nope. My marriage is between my husband and me. No one else is invited.

NEVER the parents...I think twice about telling friends too...when you're angry you say things you don't mean and your attitude then or your suffering won't fade away in their minds... they'll remember and your significant other will always get the short end...

Never! He's their son-in-law and doesn't deserve to have that relationship soured.

I wouldn't go to my parents. The fight would be between me and my husband.

i vent about my boyfriend occasionally to my mom when its the little stuff but my mom is a) one of my best friends and b) in her own words "you belong to him now not me". i am careful about what i say bc my parents have one rule with any boyfriends ive ever had..'we like you til you break her heart' so therefore any of my ex's would never be in my parents good graces again.

I actually made that mistake last year, and my mother and step-father are not speaking to me, or their 11 yr. old granddaughter.

I did and I won't anymore before I would only share with my mother and now she is holding a tremondous grudge she threatned to not even come to the wedding if we get married. I am hoping she changes her mind but I realize I've gotta live life for me so if she doesn't oh well.

uhh no!

I go to my sisters.
if they don't like him they'll help me soak in all the sulking, which sometimes you just need to do.
if they do like him they'll have the third party objective perspective, and help me see the light of what REALLY happened.

This may sound funny but he runs to my mother before I get to! We'll have a fight and bam my mom knows about it. It's been like this since we were kids he's very close to my mom like his own mother and tells her everything (we both do) so sometimes she feels like she's in the middle and hates it! Funny thing is most of the time she helps us solve our issues since we're both stubborn and hard headed and still act childish after 5 and half years of dating and 13 years of being friends lol

parents def. will hold a grudge..they wont forget, even if you do.

Another, convenient reason I'm fortunate not to have parents...
Unfortunately, it forces you to be a very tough, all or nothing person. But none of the stress you all are describing.