it takes time. i had the same issue like 4 years ago. i didn't want to lose the friendship though, so i continued to spend a lot of time with him. it was hard sometimes, it was hard watching him date other girls, and it was hard being so close yet in a best friend way only. but as time passed i met another boy who i dated for a year and through that i moved on from my romantic feelings towards my friend and stayed best friends with him. so in the end it was worth the pain, but really it takes time and being able to tough it out.

By accepting things for what they are. Just a friendship. I hope that you can come to appreciate this because sometimes when they don't work out, getting back to being 'good' friends can get greasy.

I think situations like this, women say no to guys whom have females friends. I really can't give you a way to handle this because I've never been in this situation. However, Guy friends don't last very long because of what i just mentioned. He's going to go off and marry his kindred soul and she may not approve of you as a friend.

So understand how he feels now, because one day he may never see you as often...

Well you should definitely be proud of yourself for putting it out there many many women would have kept it a secret for years and years. Sorry you didn't get the answer you were hoping for. I think this is a case just like any other relationship, if you like someone a lot and he doesn't like you its time to step back, walk away, and find the right guy who feels the same about you. In your case if you feel like you could still be his friend and watch him date and possibly fall in love with other people then go ahead hang in there. If it hurts you to watch him with other women then you may want to reconsider this "friendship". Be honest with yourself you've only been hanging out for less than a year and you developed feelings a couple months ago, do you think maybe you got into this friendship hoping you could eventually make him your man? If this is the case its best to move on! Good Luck!

Maybe you should just chill on hanging with him for a minute. don't treat him funny, but just chill out a bit. do something else for a while. . . .

I had something like this happen to me too.. It really comes down to making a choice. I chose to stay friends, and it was hard because soon enough he got a girlfriend. And like everyone said so far, we hung out less because there was a girlfriend in the picture and it was really painful. But I still feel it was worth it, and eventually you accept that he doesn't see you that way and move on. I fell for another guy eventually.. Now, how my new guy felt about our friendship is a whole different and messy story...

I'm glad you guys are still good friends. He's a good guy to not let things get awkward. You should do whatever it takes to make things not awkward in return... if I were you, taking a little time away from the friendship might help. Don't stop seeing him but hang out with other friends a little more for a while. It's cliche but it'll be fine with time.

I commend you for having the courage to reveal your true feelings for him. Although it's good to see that you're still very good friends, I worry that you're putting yourself through some unnecessary emotional torture by staying so close to him. I agree with DearSugar's answer. You should start weaning yourself off from him and find other activities that will keep you busy and away from him. Find a hobby, hang out with other friends, or go on a few dates. In fact, he may see you in a different light once he sees that your feelings for him have waned and he's no longer the center of your attention. Maybe, just maybe, the tables will turn...

My best friend has been in love with me for as long as I can remember. He never had the courage to step back for a while and get his own life, and I never had the kindness to do it for him. The result? 8 years later, he still hasn't dated another girl, still hoping I will suddenly wake up and realize he's the one. I tried it all, even the meanest, most direct way: "I wouldn't date you even if you were the last man on earth". I'm not proud of that, but you have to wonder why he'd still pine and wait for me, for YEARS after hearing something like this.

A friend is a friend. I will NEVER be able to see him another way. I will NEVER fall in love with him, I will NEVER desire him physically, I will NEVER get drunk and forget what's what and stick my tongue down his throat. So if you're hoping that your friend will have a change of heart (of course you are!) - please, do yourself a favor, and realize it will never happen. Don't spend the next 8 years of your life waiting... If he's not attracted to you now, he won't be tomorrow. It doesn't mean there aren't 10,000 other guys just around the corner who won't be crazy about you, so step away from the toxic ambiguous friendship that is going to hurt you, and move on. Then, you'll be able to be friends with him again.

Maybe...

You really put yourself out there by wearing your heart on your sleeve and letting him know how you felt about him. That took guts, and you're to be commended for letting him know what you want. Unfortunately, when it comes to best friends, it is tricky because the bond there is so strong that sometimes it can be confused for love. If he is really a friend, I wouldn't try to press the issue and would willingly accept his admission. Good friends are hard to come by, so try your hardest not to let your feeling come between you guys. Sure, you will want to consider spending a little less time with him, to protect your heart. But in the end, you would probably be doing yourself an injustice by giving up something very valuable- a true, best friend. No one knows your heart more than you. Follow it, but protect it.

let it be.

just be friends and continue on. at least now he knows how you feel. just don't get your hopes up...sometimes these relationships can be the greatest or the worst.

And watch out if he starts dating...ugh, sometimes best-guy friends get weird after you confess something like this. be the better friend and be there for him as long as u can bear.

if it hurts too much, then stop hanging out with him.

really i think you should still be hanging out as friends and try to move on with your life.

I think it depends on your ability to compartmentalize. If you can put away your feelings when you're with him, then it might be worth a shot. However, in my experience, this can be extremely difficult and frustrating. Remember the highest-highs are followed by the lowest-lows.

I think it'd be best to just cut ties and move on. Its only setting yourself up to get hurt more in the future. I never even told my best friend that I loved him, I just disappeared into the background, knowing that there were too many reasons why we couldnt be together anyway, and that it would just hurt too much to try at something I knew was doomed from the beginning.