I don't know how you can casually date in this time and age. Most men don't seperate sex from dating unless their looking for something serious yet, you're not looking for something serious. So hmmm, Maybe you shouldn't date at all! Just look for guy friends and call it that....

Online dating is a fun way to weigh your options...

I think there was a post by dearsugar a few days ago on how to find prospective guys to date. It may sound weird, but some of the best places to meet guys are places like the gym, a bookstore, internet cafe etc. Also, ask your girlfriends if they know anyone who may be single and try to organize a get together at someone's house. You'd be surprised at how many people casually date because of mutual friends!

hrmm... yeah i wouldnt try and find a guy in the bar scene so good choice on ur part. But maybe when you are out casually with friends some of their guy friends? Or get one of your girlfriends or guy friends to set ya up see how things go. Thats how i found my boy and its been great! DanaBana had some good choices too. Online can be fun but you just have to be careful. Other then that there aren't any good places to meet guys unfortuantely... sometimes they just fall into your lap

hmmm..well u got to be 100% sure u over ur long term relationship for good until then u wont feel rite datin anyone...but bookstore, cafes,etc are great places to meet people, weird but good...anyhow good luck n dont stress it it wont do u any good is u over stress it

i'm in the same position- i got out of a relationship in september and i'm ready to get otu there and date again- its hard! i just joined the gym this week, so we'll see how that goes. also, i just try to go out more in general. like bettyboutique said- friends of friends. i try and go to the bars with my friends more and a lot of times they have other friends meeting them there or their bf's friends come out. so that way you just get to know more people and hopefully one time someone you really connect with will come out! i'm hoping at least lol

I think maybe you're going to the wron bars to meet me... The "bar scene" can be a GREAT place to meet AVAILABLE guys to date CASUALLY.

You just have to pick the right bars. Think more lounge-y type places... Where the music isn't TOO loud, and the cocktails range beyond a single liquor with a mixe and beer.

Also, bookstores are a terrific place to meet guys to date casually.

ugh I hate bars too. why bother going there if you're not a bar person? then, if you actually meet a guy you like there, the stuff he likes to do at night isn't the stuff you'll want to do. insta-problem.
I say dive into your own interests. long-term relationships, esp bad ones, have a way of making 2 people into 1. figure out what you like to do. spoil yourself. join clubs, especially those with outdoor activities- I'm serious- there are some hot guys in kayaking groups!! do yoga, join a knitting club, learn how to mountain-climb at a local gym that teaches that. once you start developing the idea of yourself without your ex, you'll meet new people. and even if not ONE of those new friends is a guy, they'll have brothers and guy friends galore. what I've heard is that the best guys that come along are the ones unexpected. so focus on you for a while.

Online dating is a good way. They have wide selection like: match.com, lavalife, etc etc etc.

Another one is joining 'singles' group to meet more people, like Meetup.org (I'm sure they have one in your city)

They're not geared for dating (they're more for friendship) but meeting other people can significantly increase your chance of meeting both good friends and in the long run, a bf.

Another way is to volunteer in the cause you believe in, you may find someone you like there as well.

Good luck

Coffee Shops are a great place to meet people to date casually, I dated a guy for awhile only on tuesday nights when open mic night was going on. It was a blast! He'd perform, then find me and we'd drink yummy coffees, discus books and listen to indie music. Oddly enough we started dateing more and more, then i dated him for 3 years. It ended well if sadly, he had to move to LA to take care of family. But we still talk. So maybe thats an idea for you!

i dunno, i go to upscale bars/clubs/lounges, to be in the company of decent ppl. and all they do is stare and smile!

so you kinda have to be aggresive out there.

just go willy-nilly. have fun. flirt out of your mind. go on 2 dates in 1 night . . .wear fishnets . . .

just go for it.

Any time u sight a guy of choice although it might be real hard ,you can make a signal or a kind of flirt that wil alert the guy that u feel for...
Gals do make the mistakes of being hard while good guys ask them out.Let me tell u this expensive secret,beautiful agl fall in the hand of ugly men or players, simply cos they can pressurize gals even if they turn them off.
So have think abt that...........

lol

Four months?! It's been four years for me and I still have absolutely no interest in dating. Maybe I should read some of these posts...

Go places you like to go. Do things you like to do. That way you will meet guys that like things you like, become friends before lovers, lovers before partners in life, and that's half the battle.

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