I love secure men but I hate cocky ones...my man is not cokcy but he's pretty secure about his looks

i am lucky i found a guy that is self-confident and not cocky. he has is ups and downs but all in all he is pretty level dude.

I dont think that when two people fight over the little things that its always about insecurity its more about being sensitive and taking things personal. I am a very secure person, yet take things personally alot like the little things.

Usually when a guy is arrogant he's boring and too comfortable... He "knows" you're not going anywhere because he can "put it down in the bedroom" or "buy you what you want". Confident men knows he looks good and still likes to have a good time. I don't know if you ladies noticed it but arrogant men are boring....

I love confidence... but I don't wanna have to worry about whom else loves your confident ways...

One of the things I loved about my ex was that he could be so arrogant and cocky about his area of expertise and it always made me laugh. Part of that was intended to be funny. It also allowed me to be a cocky arrogant ass, so maybe that was the attraction. =) I think it has potential to be really fun. But I've also met people who take it too far, so I can see where it would be annoying also.

Arrogance/overly confident is bad. It wont end there, he'll probably try to get you to stroke his ego just to make himself feel better.

Cocky guys are the BIGGEST turnoff. I think that is my number one thing that will make me automatically nuts.

A little arrogance is ok as long as it's not to the point where he thinks he's flawless. He can have an ego about trivial things but he has to be humble when it counts, like when it comes to us.

cocky = not hot
confidence = sexy

There is NOTHING that turns me off more than a cocky guy. I hate it. Seriously, its my biggest turn off. I mean, I don't even want the slightest bit of arrogance. I want an honest, humble guy who believes he is no better than anyone else.

There is a big difference between confident and cocky. Cocky is a major turnoff.

I love that my guy is blatantly cocky about how well he does in his business... his drive and determination turns me on so much.....He knows he's the best and will make you know it too....

Cocky is a major turn off. I like confidence, and a little bragging sometimes is ok. Although, it is funny how many people make fun of cocky people behind their backs.

Confidence and Assertiveness are key

There is a difference between confidence and arrogance. The former trait is a huge turn-on, and the latter is a huge turn-off for me. I like something in the middle. A good dose of confidence, but mixed in with humility and respect for others.

Bigtime turnoff 4 me...

I'm really attracted to cocky guys. However, it doesn't last, and I'm happy with my boyfriend who is confident but no arrogant.

Total turn off. Ugh.

I don't think confidence is at all equal to arrogance or cockiness. In fact that I think arrogance and cockiness are probably masking insecurity on some level. I could not last one minute with an arrogant guy.

I dated an arrogant guy, and it was not pleasant at all. Sure, at first I mistook arrogance with confidence, then I realized that he was arrogant because he was the most not-confident of them all, to the point that he had to be that way (flaunting himself, indirectly/subtly belittling others). The real confidence for me is a guy who doesn't have to flaunt themselves and treats other really well regardless their 'status.'

I kind of like cocky guys. They make me laugh...at them, but hey. You gotta start somewhere.

My guy is confident to the point of occasional cockiness, but it's never arrogance that comes from low self esteem.... it's the opposite. He really believes in himself and that is one thing I found very attractive and inspirational in him. My previous boyfriends were pretty cocky/ arrogant, though, so I guess I'm into that.

Cocky guys are really fun to string along. =P

Funny thing is, before we started dating, I used to think my bf was really cocky..and it was a total turn-off. After over a year with him I've realized that he's just as insecure as I am. I'm glad I was able to look past his initial "cockiness" and get to really know him.

PS. I agree with ninjastarlett: cocky guys are fun to string along

I could never be attracted to cocky men for long-term serious relationships. cocky to me means that they are so confident about themselves that they don't think they can do any wrong and more importantly, are so resistant to compromising with you (and no matter how much chemistry a couple may have, compromise is soooo necessary)

i agree with a lot of people, however, that cockiness may just be a cover for insecurity, and they could be really great people underneath. i have very little patience for it though.

Confidence-Yes.
Cocky-No.

it's a challenge to prove them wrong

I hate cocky PEOPLE. Cocky people just annoy me. They just seem like mean people to me, like they'd throw their Mom under the bus if they had to. I know a few cocky people who are really just very insecure and jealous and it's very obvious.

I can't stand cocky guys! Basically, I won't be friends with someone who thinks their sh*t don't stink!

the moment cockiness blips on my radar, all attractiveness goes out the window