i think it all depends on how well the date went!

i have done that 2 or 3 times but i never have a comfy night sleep. im scared that i will fart or somthing. oh, and one BF i had the first night we met we did a "sleep in the same bed" thing and i DID fart he told me later. so thats that!

LOL aujah
thats hilarious
and I agree... I'd never have a sleep over after the first date

It's fine with me if other people do, but personally I need to trust someone! With my boyfriend, after our first date he spent the night, even though we didn't kiss or anything, we just slept. We'd known each other for about a month or so before that, though, so I had the trust level. If it was a first date with a guy I'd just met, I don't think I could!

I think it's all about how the date goes and your chemistry, I am an adult so if I want to, there is no problem with that!

I don't think I would be comfortable enough with someone I just met, but that's me. Not judging anyone who does, more power to ya!

I've done it before, and I agree completly with aujah! It's a little uncomfortable because you don't know them that well!
But I don't think there is ANYTHING wrong with it.

Not a smart idea!

I´ve done it a couple of times, but i´ve decided that it´s not a good idea, lovemaking is only enjoyable when you have certain chemistry with your BF

Uhm "shacking", not "shagging" Rachael

I agree with the poster above me.

I agree with the poster above me.

HA! I agree with the poster above too pippins!

Umm... I don't wake up pretty.... so I'll wait..... But I mean if a man can endure ur morning ugly then he's a keeper!

Aujah, I have that feeling for like the first year of dating someone. I just don't want to do it right away, lol.

I don't think I wold be comfortable sleeping over at someone's house the first few times we dated. If that were to happen, I would be drunk.

I've done it before, but I generally make it a rule not to. I didn't have sex with the guy but regardless he didn't call me again. I guess it was the old why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free kinda thing.

I've never done that; not on a first date, anyway. But yes on a third date.

Okay, sleeping the same bed is probably a little weird. However, there is nothing wrong with giving someone a pillow and blanket and pointing to the couch, before heading to your own room alone.

If you both have been drinking or up talking several hours, it might not be safe for one of you to drive home. Offering a place to crash for a few hours is polite, not dirty.

Regardless, if people choose to sleep together on the first night (with or without clothes), then it is their business. People should cut each other some slack and not judge so black and white.

I agree with all your words *foudini*

I agree with Foudini. Whatever a person wants to do is not anyone else's business. If it feels right than it may be right for those people. I hate how people have such a double standard for men and women in this position also.

I used to do this sort of thing, without knowing the person...but only as i've gotten older have i realized that it's not exactly safe. That being said, i dont think there is anything wrong with it, just be careful! You dont want to wake up with all your stuff gone, or worse.

Hell to the no! It'd be silly not to adhere to my own rules.

I'd never do it. I don't think it's a great idea.

Before my boyfriend & I got together, he would sleep over in my bed, no sex. I felt very comfortable with him because I'd known him for a while already. Before this we went on a vacation together with friends so all of us had already "shacked" up in the same hotel room for a whole week.. so I guess we were just used to it by then. I don't think there is anything wrong with it if you can trust the guy & you feel comfortable.

I used to be **Oh-so** against it... until I met this guy and we had our first date and had a wonderful night out at a club, then at an after-hours club and then... well you know...
Fortunately we had an incredible chemistry, sooo it started out as a "one-night" thing... and 3 years after we're still going strong. My answer is: Never say never.

Not ever a good idea. I've never slept with someone on the first date, but with one boyfriend we met and he stayed over the first night. still wasn't a good idea. to me fooling around on the first date means the only thing I want from the guy is sex, which means I'm already bored or uninterested in him. (that's me personally.)

I "shacked" up on the first date with the amazing man who is now my husband. It was quite literally love at first sight and we have no regrets. I say to each his own...it's not my right to judge anyone.

On a tradtional date-date I would say No but i think it really depends on circumstance and age. I mean, college,parties drunkenness-- you might meet there and it happens that it ends in sleepover. it can blossom into much more
as more of an adult, i wouldn't do it, why shorten the chase men love?

My bf of two years and I slept in the same bed the same night we talked about pursuing a relationship. We ended up spending the next 6 nights doing the same thing before our parents knew how to object.
I think those were lucky circumstances though. In my past, staying overnight without a sexual relationship with someone can be frightening the next morning!

I say do it if it feels right. When I'm horny and feeling "good" about someone, I know if it is the right thing to do. Some times it has worked and sometimes it hasn't--I mean the morning look can scare people off!

I've done it before, and looking back wish that I hadn't. Hindsight is always 20/20 and I have learned a lot. Not that I always practice my new-found knowledge, but I do my best!

meh, i don't think that just-sleeping sends off the wrong signals. if anything, it shows that the guy is really interested in you and has self-control. i'm not quite sure how it makes the girl look (probably depends on who's place the sleepover takes place). i do think safety is a bit of an issue, like if you plan on just-sleeping and the guy doesn't.

I'd rather go home, talk about weird the next day.

My bf and I met at a music festival during the afternoon. We both ended up drinking so much, that we went for coffee later, and when I was practically asleep at the table, he took me back to his place, took off my shoes and jacket, and curled up with me, both of us fully clothed, in bed. (By this point, we had kissed.)

The next morning, he woke me up (gently) with coffee and gatorade to nurse my hangover before I had to go to work.

We had our first official date the next Saturday, and he crashed at my place, after drinking a bit to much. Still, we remained clothed (yeah, some making out happened), and I took him back to his car that day.

It's been over 2.5 years since then, and we're fantastic!

i did it once where i had they guy over on the first date. we didnt sleep together. but i wouldnt make a habit of it.

It depends on the the guy,and how well you connected.

i think that would be cool if you could spend the night and not hook up. it means that you are more than a pretty piece of flesh. well, unless you fell asleep because you were drunk. then that's not cool.

i wouldn't make a habit out of it. maybe once in a blue moon, just to have a Sex In The City moment (carrie style, not Samantha). (smiles)

A do, if you feel safe around the guy and he doesn't give off a roofie vibe.
2nd year of Uni, had a date with a guy, went over to his apt to watch his student film and a weird movie that inspired it... barely past the credits of the weird movie, I fell asleep. Hard!

Did not wake up until the next morning! I was exhausted from just having finished finals and he couldn't, or didn't try, to wake me. When I woke up the next day, I asked if I snored, apologized for the drool, and we went out to breakfast. Of course, he didn't try to date me after that, but we still hung out, and since he knew I snored, I was okay with falling asleep with him and cuddling. So I guess we became non-romantic cuddle buddies. No biggie because if the guy isn't calling, he just isn't, this has little barring.

Liz4aker, "Whatever a person wants to do is not anyone else's business. If it feels right than it may be right for those people" is a pretty vast generalization. Sociopaths feel like murder is right for them, and according to you, that isn't our business, or the police's business. Vast generalizations are no good.

But, whittled down to apply to this circumstance, I'd say not on the first date if you just met the guy - that's how stuff like date rape and robberies happen. Wait until you know the guy well enough, then do what you want.