I cheated on a great guy, and even though he never found out it just ruined my relationship. I just felt really guilty and i couldnt be with him anymore. I think being the cheater (if you're not made out of stone) is worst because the feeling of guilt is the worst possible feeling ever

I think cheating on someone is worse.
Being cheated on - it's not your choice.
Cheating on someone is your choice, and you chose to do something wrong and hurtful.

Being the cheater.

I've only been cheated on, by my sweetheart in high school! I was heart-broken.
It is such a mean thing to do. Just break up if you're not committed enough to be with one person.
That being said, I have been tempted while I've been in relationships. I've never acted on any temptation, because I just think of how it felt to be cheated on in high school!

Being cheated on is worse.
At least with being the cheater you can fess up and let them deal with you. If you are being cheated on then the other person is wronging you and it's out of your hands.

I've cheated, and hated myself for it. But I'm sure being cheated on is worse...which kinda makes me hate myself for that a little more. I did end up breaking up with him though.

I've never been cheated on. Never really cheated until recently. I'd say being the cheater personally. I told the guy I cheated with over & over how I didn't want anything to do with him because I was so into my boyfriend. & I know if he ever found out, there isn't a thing I could say to fix it. It's getting to me a bit. But the last thing I want is to loss him over some drunken hook up.

ive never cheated but ive been cheated on twice and i think that its harder to be the cheated. i couldn't even cheat on a boyfriend because i would feel way too guilty..but i was cheated on with my best friends sister in law, and then my one ex cheated on me with..numerous girls. i just felt soo unwanted. i just dont get cheaters..why are you in a relationship (esp. serial cheaters like my one ex) just be single bc then you can kiss (or more) with anyone you want and noone gets hurt

Being the cheater. Remorse is the worst feeling in the world and tears you (and your relationship) apart.

Being the cheater. It's easier to forgive someone than it is to forgive yourself.

I say being cheated on is worse. There is nothing you can do.

If you cheated it's your fault you didn't have to do it! You wanted to do it so live with yourself.

Sorry but i have no compassion for cheaters.

Being the cheater is worse. Once you are cheated ON, you immediatley have the upper hand. Lizrocks said it in a good way...forgiving yourself for something like that is hard. Believe me.

I've never been cheated on (that I know of!) but I did cheat on my first love, at the very end of our relationship when things had already completely fallen apart. I know I really damaged him a lot, and ten years later there are still moments I wish I could write him a letter to say how sorry I am. Nothing any guy has ever done to me, however nasty/cruel/heartbreaking, has stuck that long with me - so probably, I'd say being the cheater is the worst. I will ALWAYS feel awful about it. It's like I betrayed myself too...

i think being cheated on would be worse.. cuz well i guess it depends on the realationship, but i know i would not deal well with someone cheating on me, because i dont think i could EVER do it to anyone.. i know how much it would hurt me that i wouldn't be able to put another person through that kinda of pain.

probably cheating. I agree w/le Luxe, theres nothing worse than remorse.

I have been both, and its equally as disturbing

I've never cheated but have been cheated on, and I have to say that it was a very hurtful experience.

Being the cheater. If you're cheated on then you realize something about the person you're with and then you can make real decisions about the relationship. If you're the cheater than you realize something bad about yourself and you can possibly lose the person you really love forever.

It really depends on the circumstances.

I've been cheated on, but my then-boyfriend was jerk (even without the cheating), so he did me a huge favor by breaking the relationship. I was able to exit from his life.

Personally, I've never cheated, but I know of some women who had. However, their significant others where abusive alcoholics. They ended up together with the men they cheated with, and have healthier relationships.

So what's worse? It really depends on the circumstances. It's not black and white. It's not cut and dry.

Knowing you've hurt someone you love is the worst possible feeling EVER...

I would have to say being cheated on is worse. It's a shi**y feeling knowing someone you love and trust can do something like that to you. Sometimes you never forget.

BOTH are bad. Being cheated on hurts like no other...knowing you're not good enough to keep your significant other. What a blow. And I know from experience how insecure it makes you feel about your relationships and yourself after it happens to you! (am I good enough for them? Am I too boring? Is he/she going to leave me/cheat on me??)

I've never been the cheater, but I only hope that the cheater feels HORRIBLE REMORSE and ABSOLUTELY GUILTY about it~ What they did to that persons heart, confidence, and life. =/

I agree with whoever said, if you don't wanna be in a realtionship anymore, break it off so you don't hurt that person WORSE by cheating on them.....OR If you know you can't stay committed, don't get into a committed relationship! It's called DATING. Just stick to that..no relationships...

I've cheated and i though i was going to die of guilt. I've never been cheated on but " what you don't know won't hurt you ". So i'll never know for sure !

Both are just as worse as the other. It is a horrible feeling when someone you love goes to someone else for happiness or pleasure. It is just a horrible to be so chicken not to end a relationship you are not happy in by going behind someones back and cheating.

Hmmm, I think I'm a bit abnormal when it comes to this. I've been cheated on by someone I really cared about and it was hands down the worst I've ever felt in my life.

BUT, I've cheated without an ounce of remorse. I did it in such a way that they'd never find out, and it was never on anyone I cared about all that much. I was just being young and stupid. I wouldn't do it now, I just don't see the point. I never cheated out of pure temptation - I think it was more as a defiance to the obsessive, clingy boyfriends I seemed to attract. (I'm much better at choosing mates now!)

I think you should never, ever cheat unless you're prepared to take your secret to the grave. If it's indication that you're not ready to be committed to your significant other, do them a favor and break up with them, but don't selfishly relieve your guilt by making them privvy to your betrayal. All this will do is turn their world upside down and ruin their sense of self worth - it can't take back what you've done.

I know some people may not agree with this, but that's just what I believe.

I've never been cheated on, nor have I cheated, but I have been the other woman and that sucks. To know, if she ever found out, that I was the cause of someone's pain is horrible. I knew about her before hand, I knew her, and I frequently saw her afterwards. I was young and stupid and would never do it again.

Hard to say, and I've been on both sides. Of course, when I was the cheater the guy didn't know about it, and I broke it off with him soon after because I didn't have feelings for him anymore... I didn't tell him I had cheated because I knew it would only make him feel worse, and it didn't feel as necessary to be honest about it because there wasn't the fact that he might choose to leave ME if he had known thing involved.... however if I had cheated and then regretted it and wanted to stay involved with him, I don't know how I would have handled it then. I felt a lot of guilt about it for a while regardless, even though he didn't know and the guy I cheated with, I fell in love with and started dating.

On the flip side, it was before this that I had been cheated on and it was REALLY hard... quite a betrayal, and by my first serious, long-term BF (3 1/2 years) so it was sort of that first big blow to your trust in other people. That said, him and I are very close friends to this day, 2 years after the fact.

I suppose either is just as bad in their own ways, and it depends on the situation at hand.

I know that cheating on someone else is worse! All the guilt, anger and thrill is horrible!

I have never been cheated on but it must be very horrible

I've never cheated but I've been cheated on... Terrible situation...
Now that I really know how heartbreaking it is, I don't think I'd be able to do something like that to the man I deeply love.

Being cheated on is worse, since you are asking for my perspective.
Being cheated on hurts, when you're cheating you usually try and justify it to yourself, and you don't get the same pain from it. You may regret it and feel stupid, but its not near the same.

I have never cheated on anyone in my life. I think this would be worse I don't know how I could live with the guilt of doing this to someone. Especially in my current relationship, his ex-wife cheated on him and it nearly destroyed him, it took years for him to pick up the pieces, I couldn't be responsible for that. Even if he never found out it would eat me inside.

I have been cheated on and while not pleasant its alot easier to hate someone else than it is to hate yourself.

I actually have a question because I'm in a retarded situation and reading these comments seem to help. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 and a half years and 4 of those years he was away at school. We have made it work and just this summer i cheated on him, obviously the whole story would take forever to tell but it killed me inside and i had to tell him, so i did 3 days after it happened. But then he felt the need to ask me if i've ever done anything else behind his back and even confessed to getting oral sex from a girl during his first year at school!! which was like 4 years ago! I couldn't believe this because he wouldn't have told me in any other case, just to get me to confess more. I obviously couldn't get mad at that time because i had just cheated myself, but at least i told him! Anyways because of this I'm nervous and don't trust him at all because he had kept that secret for so long, and the worst part was that i knew who she was and ALWAYS felt like there was something between them when i went to visit him at school. Uh im blabbing on and on, anyways he forgave me even though it was rough and i don't know I don't have many friends, let alone anyone I could tell, so I figure I can be anonymous and have you guys help me out cause I'm confused and our relationship is like so up in the air even though we play it off like everything is alright. oh and I'm 22yrs old if that helps matters. Any advice would be amazing! Thanks

I'v cheated, and although he never found out, I felt guilty and our relationship was never the same. I could never put my all into it with such a big secret. When we broke up he told me I seemed different, that he wasn't getting to know more of me and that the relationship seemed to just slow down and not go anywhere....I know exactly why, while he still thinks we just aren't compatible.
It was a horrible thing to do and a mistake I'll never make again.
But if it was the other way around, I can't even imagine how hard it would be..

being cheated on is rejection, and rejection always hurts

cheating is definitely worse if its on someone you love because you either lose that person or feel guilty

both are really unpleasant though..