I'm not engaged or married yet, but when we do get married, if he doesn't want to wear a ring (which he probably won't because he hates jewelry) that's fine with me.

I don't need him to wear a band on his finger to know he'll be true to me. Our relationship is strong and his actions are much more important than his accessories.

If my husband ever refused to wear a ring, I would just not wear mine.

What's good for the goose is good for tha gander.

I agree TheMissus, the only exception I could think of though is if he worked in construction where wearing a ring could be a hazard. Thats why my dad doesn't wear a ring anymore, he lost part of his finger.

I would never force someone to wear anything. It isn't always comfortable for some men and there are guys who can't wear them because of the work they do. While I love what a ring stands for, it doesn't guarantee a marriage will work or that someone won't cheat.

If it's a hazard (like it was for BlairBear's dad) then that's fine - while the hazard is an issue. But that doesn't mean he can't wear it the rest of the time. Alot of the men I work with give that excuse (pilots) because they didn't wear them in the military while flying. But I don't think that excuse holds much water while they're flying commercial. Esp. when I see so many having affairs. *rolls eyes*

My husband wears his ring proudly. If he had said from the outset that he didn't want to wear it I would have been upset and frankly, a little skeptical.

I'm not married or engaged either.

If I was, though, I would like him to wear his just like he would prefer me to wear mine! Liek TheMisses said, "What's good for the goose is good for tha gander."

Nope. If he wants to, cool. If not, don't care. I don't like wearing mine 24/7 either.

I refuse to vote on the grounds that the reasoning behind "no" is really odd.

I'm not married or engaged either, but I would expect my husband to wear one unless there was a good reason not to. My father wears his unless he's in the pool or doing yardwork...both situations involve him potentially losing it if something goes wrong, so he just takes it off as a precaution. I would want my husband to do the same.

I don't wear my wedding ring because I am "showing the world that I am taken." I wear my wedding ring because it is a symbol of the commitment that my husband and I made to each other the day we got married.

If my husband didn't want to wear his ring, that would be fine with me because our marriage isn't defined by a ring.

I think the idea of "demanding" that your husband wear a ring is ridiculous. If you go into a marriage demanding anything, good luck with that.

My husband takes his ring off to sleep and to work out. I tease him about it, but I don't really care. I mean, if he's going to cheat on me, he'll do it with or without his ring on. And if he's cheating on me, I have a bigger problem than him not wearing his ring.

I agree Greggie, I think the reasoning behind both the yes and no answers is odd.

My husband is the ring nazi in our relationship. I'm always setting mine down to wash my hands/put on lotion/whatever and he'll pick them up and follow me around the house with them until I put them on. I never have to remind him about his because he never takes his off.

Good point, facin8me, I didn't even read the yes answer.

Couldn't have said it better myself facin8me! I guess I would prefer my future husband to wear a ring, but if he doesn't want to, I won't "force" him. That's kind of pathetic. I'd like to think married women have more trust in their husbands to not need him to "show the world that he's taken." If he's going to cheat on you, weddings rings come off.

I have been married for 12 years and my husband has always worn his ring. I do not insist that he wear it, it is his decision. I wouldn't matter to me if he didn't wear it. We know were married to each other. If either one of us are going to cheat, a ring is not going to stop anyone.

Why would he NOT want to wear the ring?
I've just never heard of anything like that before.
If his job or housework interfered, that's different of course.

I always thought a ring was a symbol of your commitment for each other, not a sign that tells the world your taken...I don;t see why a guy wouldn't wear the ring...my male friends/ family members who have gotten married didn't normally wear jewelry beforehand, but most said they got use to the ring and didn't even notice it was on much after a couple weeks.

I agree the last answer is weird. I am not close to being married and I really wouldn't care if he wore it or not. I really don't wear rings so I probably wouldn't wear mine all the time. I would probably end up doing what Carrie on SATC did and wear it on a chain a lot.

"Why would he NOT want to wear the ring?"

I have dozens of reasons for not wearing mine every day. The main one is that there are days when I just don't like the feel of jewelry, period.

I don't see my ring as a sign of our committment. Taking vows spelled that out pretty clearly for me, I don't need a piece of jewelry to remind me.

My husband generally wears his, but sometimes when he's going to the gym or working on the car he'll take it off. If he forgets to put it back on, it doesn't bug me. The ring doesn't make the marriage. And I wouldn't NOT wear mine just because he doesn't wear his. I like my ring, and I like wearing it.

Well, I'm an old married man. So I thought I'd thrown in my two cents. I wouldn't insist that someone wear a wedding ring. I wouldn't insist that my spouse wear pants, either. That doesn't mean I don't expect it to happen.

I didn't vote either because the "reasons" were totally off. I wouldn't force him to, but I'm glad he does. It's not the backbone of our marriage or anything, but it was a gift of love. He takes it off when he needs to, but so do I. If one of us forgets to put it back on, it's no biggie.

I do, however, agree with the person who says it can actually attract women. My husband says he has never gotten hit on as much as he did the first time he went to get his hair cut with his wedding band on. I've heard that from other married guys too.

The reasons for both yes and no were odd, but I said 'yes.' I'm glad that my husband wears his ring everyday, but he wears it for himself and me, not for other women.

Yeah, now that I think of it, the reasons in this poll are strange. A wedding ring should be about a married couple's commitment to each other, not to show others that they're taken.

I don't think that overall, a ring increases attraction. I think there are certainly women (and men) who find it a challenge and get off on it, but I think it's evened out by those who stay away based on a visible ring as well. I actually used to wear one to avoid being hit on when I'd go out, long before I even met my husband.

I also don't care if it increases the chances of him being hit on - whether he's hit on once or a dozen times, if he's going to cheat, he's going to cheat.

Of course, my husband still gets really confused when people point out to him that he's good looking. *lol*

My husband does not wear his wedding ring because he is a mechanic and he can get it stuck on something while working on a car. Also he plays guitar and it scratches the guitar. He does wear it when we are on vacation as he is hopefully not fixing any cars.

It does not bother me at all when he doesn't wear it. I know we are married and i don't care if other people know. We made a commitment to each other and that is more to me than a ring or a piece of paper that says we are married.

Also a friend of ours who is also a mechanic and couldn't wear his ring got a ring tattooed on him instead. Which was a good idea until he got divorced!

'If you go into a marriage demanding anything, good luck with that.'

agreed! pick your battles..wearing a ring is not a big issue. there are much BIGGER issues out there

My husband has always wore his ring and actually took a lot of pride in the whole process of picking it out. He was so proud I never thought that he wouldn't wear the ring, but I have to say that I would be upset if he chose not to. I feel the same that it's a commitment thing, not a taken thing and that's why. I would never not wear mine because I love mine and I am proud of it and proud of the good job my husband did in picking it out! Plus everytime I look at it I think of him and that makes me happy.

I don't really care.
A ring never stopped anyone from doing anything.
Plus, he and I both are not into wearing jewelry daily.

Marseeah I have to agree there.

I'm not married, yet-butI think if he cheated there were much bigger problems than the ring issue.

my husband loves wearing his ring. he's in the army and away a lot so he can alway look down and think of me. I wouldnt force it but if were off I would think its a little odd since he does take pride in wearing it.

My boyfriend wouldn't wear a ring... he hates jewelry. But that doesn't bother me because of his blanket hatred of all jewelry... not like he would wear some fantastic watch and then refuse to put the ring on his finger.

My parents have been married 33 years and my dad doesn't wear a ring. He has never once strayed and everyone who knows him knows he adores his wife. His father almost lost a finger because of his ring and it made an impact on him. He managed to mangle the first couple of rings my mom got him and she finally gave up and had them melted down into a necklace pendant for herself...

My husband wears 2 rings... The claddagh I gave him a week after we started dating (hey it's LA...you gotta claim the good ones right away) and his wedding band. He is a personal trainer and he never takes his wedding ring off, we got him a white gold one that wasn't too expensive so that we don't feel bad if we have to replace it because he mangles it...

I say to each his own...if he is going to cheat a ring won't stop him.

My parents have been married 33 years and my dad doesn't wear a ring. He has never once strayed and everyone who knows him knows he adores his wife. His father almost lost a finger because of his ring and it made an impact on him. He managed to mangle the first couple of rings my mom got him and she finally gave up and had them melted down into a necklace pendant for herself...

My husband wears 2 rings... The claddagh I gave him a week after we started dating (hey it's LA...you gotta claim the good ones right away) and his wedding band. He is a personal trainer and he never takes his wedding ring off, we got him a white gold one that wasn't too expensive so that we don't feel bad if we have to replace it because he mangles it...

I say to each his own...if he is going to cheat a ring won't stop him.

No because I believe the rings are not a deterrent if a person decides to cheat on their spouse.My husband wear's his all the time and so do i because we want to, not because either one of us forces or tries to guilt the other into wearing them.Actually,he's been hit on by women before, even though he wears his ring and so have I with my rings on and my husband nearby.

I'll make sure the one I'm married to are happy to wear his wedding ring, even if he doesn't like wearing jewelry. My bf's wears a key around his neck...so, I know if we were to be married, he'll definitely wear his ring.

I agree, marriage is about a spoken, deep down commitment to each other. That is more, to me, than a ring or a piece of paper.
My man is not a jewelery person. I think a ring is something you should talk about before getting married. If my man says he will not wear a ring, I am not going to buy it for him. If 10 years down the road he wants one, I would get it for him.
A ring may deter some women, but really shouldn't your hubbie just say he is available when someone is hitting on a him? He can speak for himself without a ring.

I'd like it if he did, but also wouldn't mind if he didn't.

im not married yet but if i were to marry my current boyfriend--he works with trees all day--his hands are usually pitch black from sap--and there is a high risk he might lose it. i wouldn't be offeneded it he didn't wear his. my father hasn't worn a wedding ring in forever and i know he's completly committed to my mother... rings don't mean anything to me...

I wouldn't have a problem with him not wearing it, as long as he didn't expect me to wear it all the time. Rings aren't that big a deal in my opinion.

When my husband and I got engaged, he was offended that dudes don't get engagement rings too, so he went out and got a white gold band to wear. Of course people saw that and assumed he was married already, which was ok with him because whenever someone referred to his 'wife' he was happy because it was like he was practicing!

I'm kind of stuck on the terminology 'DEMAND'. I think the minute we start 'DEMANDING' things of anyone, something is out of whack.

I'm engaged. If my fiance doesn't want to wear a wedding ring, that's his choice. I wouldn't marry him if I didn't trust him. And I voted on not caring if I got an engagement ring, so I'm consistent in my ring opinions!

i'm not engaged or married. honestly i'd prefer my future husband to wear his ring. i like the tradition of it! that being said- i'd never demand he wear it. if he had a job it interfered with i'd understand. or if he just hated it i'd understand too. though i might drop enough hints to make him wear it part time lol. one of my old bosses wore one but it always bothered him- he was constantly playing with it! spinning it on tables. his wife knows him well though cause it was a cheap ring- which i'm sure she'll end up replacing several times! my other old boss never wore his but you could just tell he was 100% devoted just the same. plus his wedding pic was displayed prominantly in his office, so that is good enough!

I would prefer him to wear it but I am marrying a person that doesn't like much jewelry. It's up to him, but as expensive as they are I don't think taking it off and laying it around is too bright because they have too much sentimental value.

I'm married and my husband doesn't wear jewelry.He didn't want a ring and that's fine with me.He knows he is married and everyone knows he is married so that's what matters.I wear my ring but I don't wear it home.It's just about preference.

I'm with Jennifer...my parents have been married 30 plus years and I can't remember my Dad ever wearing his ring. He just doesn't like to wear jewelery (he "lost" about 5 watches when I was a kid before I figured this was not a good present for him)
It's all a matter of personal preference, I think.
My mom, however, loves hers, and gets weirded out if she can't find them after she takes them off.

My husband isnt a jewelry guy, much like his father. They both wear a watch, a college ring on the right hand and wedding ring on the left. My husband is traditional like that and while he takes off his watch and college ring every night before going to bed, he only takes off his wedding ring if he is working on one of our cars.

I only take mine off to shower or work out(and when I work out I have a plain silver band I wear)- I feel weird without them on. We love each other and our rings show that we have made a commitment to each other.

I do have a friend whose husband refuses to wear his wedding ring, so she doesnt either. Honestly, if my hubby didnt want to wear his ring, I would probably still wear mine- but I dont have to worry about it, bc he loves wearing his.

I voted yes, but then I also know that my husband is in the ARMY and sometimes its hazardous to his health. He is also in IRAQ right now so its defintely not a good idea to wear it over there. But when he is safely home and doing "normal" day to day activities he defintel has his ring on. He makes sure I have mine own too!

I have a male friend who only wears his ring when his wife is around. He put it in his pocket when he's out with us, flirts openly with women, cheats on her like crazy. It's just plain disgusting.

If I knew his wife better, I'd tell her, but she's been nothing but nasty to me. Yeah, that's effed up but she shouldn't have made enemies of all his friends, male and female.