Dear Sugar
My husband and I have a great sex life and a happy marriage. We like to explore and be creative in the bedroom and I recently told him I was interested in trying a threesome. He was first excited, but the more I thought about it and the more nervous we both got and I have since changed my mind.

Because I changed my mind about the threesome, my husband gets extremely jealous whenever I talk to other women. I am a very flirtatious person, but I would never cheat on my husband. His jealousy has gotten so bad that when we fight, we go days without speaking to each other. What can I do to remedy this situation? Reluctant Robin

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Dear Reluctant Robin
It sounds like your husband is feeling a little insecure since you brought up the idea of having a threesome. Has he always been the jealous type? What made you re neg? Have you ever been with a woman to make him be insecure about your playful flirtation? I am wondering what has happened in your past to make your husband's initial reaction of excitement turn to insecurity.

Have a talk with your hubby about his jealous ways and feelings of inadequacy. Nothing good can come from him harboring these feelings. Sometimes when one partner wants to explore outside the relationship, the other partner feels left out. Reassure him that your interest in a threesome was just curiosity and in no way changes your love for him.

An active sex life and the willingness to explore what makes you both tick is important to help stay connected. Hopefully opening up the lines of communication once again between the two of you will get you guys back on the right path.