Way too awkward!

no way....too weird.

i dated brothers and married and divorced one of them on the way.. it was the most awkward thing ever. i dated the older one for a few months before actually falling for the younger one who later became my ex husband. they were a brood of 4 boys so you can just imagine the hierarchy system they have going on growing up in the same house. they had a huge fight over the "respect" thing while we were dating and i literally kept myself out of the family house for the whole period of time i was with him. family dinner with in laws were just so weird. everyone was civil but you can feel the tension in the air. it was awful.

Having grown up with 4 older brothers, there were several girls who played this game and it did our family no favors. To anyone who would consider doing this? Don't. Trust me; you'll never go the distance with the second brother you date because you've caused so much trouble that the only sensible solution will be for the second brother to drop you and bring some peace back to the family.

NO, I think it's disrespectful! Find someone new.

Ugh, can you spell SKANK?

This has happened with my older brothers before...luckily none of the relationships were too serious and left no real lasting effects or awkwardness.

Under no circumstance. That seems trashy to me.

um that seems like a pretty foul thing to do...why even bother with the drama?

i have two brothers and there was a girl who dated both of them, and it was so awkward for our family, never mind what the girl thought! (obviously, she didn't think it was a very big deal). i would never want to put a family through that uncomfortable situation.

No never...... it's pretty damned sleazy not to mention the fact that they will talk to each other and compare notes. No thanks, I'm so not interested.

Two words: sloppy second!!!

I wouldn't want to be one, and I wouldn't want to make anybody else one!!!

No way. Talk about inappropriate.

I've been attracted to brothers - they looked really alike (except one had dark hair, the other blond) aside from that they had very unique personalities. I had really liked the older one (he was my age), but we were also good friends so that had already put a strain on our friendship. Then when I got over him I fell for his brother - who liked me a lot too. But at that point it just felt a little weird.

I would never do that. Its to weird. And its just not right.

I have. (Oddly enough, I happen to not be a trashy skank.) But this was in 8th grade (my first "boyfriend" lol) and then in 10th grade. But you know. Kid stuff. I was never involved with their family, nothing was serious (at least not in an adult manner; we thought we were "in love", though; I'm not sure where we got that idea), and the brothers had a really distant, strained relationship anyway, so, I dunno. It was like dating two people who happened to live in the same house. It wasn't a big deal.

Again, by "dating", I mean seeing each other in the hallways at school, and going to the movies, and that's about it. Yeah.

I could never do that.That would be way too awkward for me.

no way. i have considered the notion though...my ex's brother is very attractive and we have been flirtatious in the past. but i could never do that to my ex or his family, no matter how it ended with him (pretty badly). too bad though, his brother has way more game than he ever will...

Too weird!

Definitely not.

after reading all comments..

no way, too weird

when i first read this question i thought of "while you were sleeping." but i guess sandra bullock never dated peter gallagher.
sorry, tangent!

it is kind of a common theme in the movies. dan in real life is the most recent and by the end you just end up thinking, is the family ok with this? family stone was another. and that one was especially weird since the two brothers switched girlfriends. tres gross.

Dating brothers would seem alot like incest to me.
When I've dated men who had brothers, I've had a real "brother (in law)" feeling about their brothers.
Also, having two sisters, I know I could never be intimate with someone who also had done so with one of my sisters.. Eew.

I have a major crush on my best guy friend's older brother. Even that's pretty awkward...

i wonder how a brother could date his own brother's ex. that does not seem right to me. if i had a relationship with a guy and my sister dated him after i did, i'd be pissed.

katerkins- my mom dated her best friend's brother and they got married (and had me) and they've been together forever (26 years). that's kind of breaking a rule though.

We have a similar situation in our family. My husband and I were dating nonexclusively. This ex was one of the girls he was seeing. Noone knew about her. Especially me. Everyone that knew him, knew that he dated a few different women. If they did know about her, they never said anything, and we hung out in a very mutual circle of friends...one was her sister.Turned out that this particular ex and him were "supposed" to be exclusive. He eventually broke things off with her. He then approached me to be exclusive. We moved in together just short of a year after we very first met. The following spring his brother started to date the girl. They had been talking for some time. After only two months she moved in with his brother. The first family holiday that she was at, it was clear that she knew about me because she gave me a dirty look and a snyde "nice to see you again". Which I could not recall seeing her before. It is especially awkward because my husband has two small children that she spent time with. My husband cannot stand the situation. She constantly gets her snyde remarks in towards me in regards to when she dated my husband, and she does this when noone is near enough to hear. I have told my husband about this. A few months before our wedding she found out she was pregnant. They immediately got married. I am worried, because the remarks keep coming. If she really cared about the brother she would not waste her breath belittling me. Also, she thinks I stole him from her. If she only knew the truth about his lifestyle then, I am sure it would change her perspective about me. The brother even caught her giving my husband the evil eye while we were out drinking and was aggravated to the point of walking out of the pub on her. Even after the new baby, the snyde remarks keep coming. We even believe that she put a "sympathy card" simply signed "love us" in our wedding gift box.

Oh yes, one more thing, out of all of the women in the world, why did the brother have to date my husband's ex? I am worried that the brother is going to end up getting hurt because she should not be so bitter towards me if she truly loved my brother in law.

Well reading everyones comments has been intresting from where i stand ... from personal experience this is how i see it:
When i was 15 i casually dated ( meaning we weren't even really boyfriend & girlfriend its highschool) It was on and off until we graduated ... his brother is a year younger then us and was always hanging out too and in our crew. I was always close with both of them we where all tight friends. The older brother moved away for college and the next day the younger brother confessed his love to me and after a while we began dating . The younger brother is the complete opposite of the older one day and night really, and we fell crazy in love and he's my soulmate. I got a lot of sh*t from people . There was some arkwardness there at that point and it lead us to break up at that time. Years went by and the older brother and I still occasionally hung out from time to time but never got serious or dated we remained friends and both where happy with that. I was always in touch and in love with the younger brother and now after so many years we are boyfriend & girlfriend now and very happy together ...we have the older brothers & the familys blessing and its all good. I think it just depends on the people involved and if it really comes from a place of love or lust. If your in lust its not worth it but if you really love eachother you cant help who you fall in love with sometimes.As long as everyone acts like an adult and there is no shadyness and plenty of honesty this odd scenerio can work. It has for me , now my boyfriend and I his brother and his girlfriend all hang out and there is no weirdness there, we all just want the best for eachother .I'm aware this is out of the ordinary ... but if it diden't happen to me i would not be happy in love today with the man of my dreams. People shoulden't be so judgemental ... love is a beautyful thing when its treated with care and respect. I have no regrets.

I guess I can say I can 'somewhat' relate to this, but at my workplace, there are two brothers that I work with (we're all seasonal workers btw). Sooo the younger one made the first move on me and I eventually started to have feelings for this guy. We got to know each eventually switched digits and msn but never actually got together outside work.

At first I thought his older brother didn't like me as a friend or anything, but once I opened up to him he too eventually asked for my number asked if we could hang out sometime. As soon as he asked I felt so awkward because what if either one decides to take me to home...

I know for certain the younger brother is a flirt and loves being around me all the time. While the older brother seems to be taking his time with things. I can see a lot of differences in them and I wish I hadn't given out my number to either of them because now I feel like a slut.

what if Ur not boyfriend and girlfriend 2 start with.u are casually dating the older brother. That ends. U randomly meet the younger brother. then find out there step brothers. Do u stop then? one is a jackass the older brother, the other one is Ur friend. u didn't meet some of the fam til u started to c the younger brother. the brothers have always had a strained relationship. r u a skank? disrespectful? is everything valid in war in love?

I'm actually currently in this situation.
Thanks to years of stupid decisions, facebook and alcohol.
I don't recommend it.
So far, it's just emotionally draining.