The fact that you lost your period tells me that you were VERY unhealthy. I don't know if you had body issues from being in competitions that were largely based on weight (I have never seen an overweight figure skater) and felt the need to starve yourself. It's great that you want to put on weight and have a baby but the fact that you haven't had your period in such a longtime worries me. It's something you need to go to your gynecologist about, we don't know what's wrong with your body. I also think if you have any thought in your mind that you have an unhealthy relationship with your body you should go seek therapy.

Good luck, hope you get pregnant

Please be honest - are you struggling with an eating disorder? It sure sounds like it. Please make sure that's all straightened out before having a baby.

Sometimes it can help to get on the pill for a while. Take it for 2 - 3 months and see if it gets your body working again.

I had an erratic cycle when I cut out all fat from my diet. I didn't get *too* thin, but I'd skip a cycle here and there. What got me regular again was getting enough Essential Fatty Acids- the Omegas. Dr.Udo makes a flaxseed oil blend that did wonders for me. Just try to get both Omega-3 and Omega-6 oils. Now I take fish oil in capsules to supplement.

Firstly, I would see a different doctor. And a nutritionist. And a gynocologist.

It sounds like you need to get your body working correctly again in a normal state before you can put your body through even more trauma with a pregnancy.

Also, just eating anything and not working out isn't the healthiest solution to gaining weight either. Definitely check with a nutritionist on this.

errr.. may i refer you to fitsugar?

Get a new doctor right now! I'd consult a nutritionist and an OBGYN asap.

One of my very good friends is trying to get preggo.. I like to think of myself as her positive buddy because it has been such a struggle for her..

So I am very sorry for your struggle.. I cannot imagine how hard it is on you.. But you're not alone, there are a lot of women out there who want to have babies but are unable to due to a variety of different reasons..

My friend was referred to a fertility specialist who is helping her figure out the best way for her to get pregnant... Maybe you need to be doing the same - this will help you develop a plan as to what WILL help you

There are drugs that you can take to help you get your period.. And boo on you nay sayers blah blah blahing about the lack of period... There is also a disorder called PCOS (http://www.4women.gov/faq/pcos.htm#a)that my friend has... Where she doesn't get her period very frequently either and it's part of the problem for her not being able to get pregnant.. But being overweight is generally a symptom of it..

I think it's best that you just go to a fertility specialist they will be able to help you!!

Darling...PLEASE disregard what other's have commented on! I myself have lost my period due to weight loss and extreme fitness and exercise. And I know if you are anything like me that you are sick of people rushing to the conclusion that you are unhealthy or have an eating disorder. After all, I am extremely and ridiculously healthy (even cleared by all doctors with physicals and the like) but I have 4% body fat, and lack a period.

What you need to do is consult another OBGYN and find someone that won't just say to pack on the pounds. And you should also see a fitness nutritionist (maybe even have them refer you to an OBGYN) because it's hard for a average person to understand that exercise and fitness diehards don't necessarily have to have an eating disorder. They just like to say 'stop exercising' but hey, that just isn't practical! (well if you're trying to get pregnant it is lol...)

Foods won't really help, unless you want to just pile in sugars and fats. But my best advice is to go onto the bodybuilding forums that are for women and see what others have said. They understand the restraints you just put your body through and the effect you were trying to get, and they can give you more relevant advice on where to go, foods to eat, and how to go about getting your period for pregnancy. When I was going for egg donation, I of course still didnt' have my period at that time and they said that there's absolutely nothing to worry about, that they can just give me a pill to get it back for when they needed it.

Good luck!!

First of all, don't listen to the girl above. A body fat percentage of 4% is NOT healthy. The American Diabetic Association says that a healthy, athletic female could be as low as 10%-20% body fat, and that's on the LOW side of things. I agree that you need to be seeing a nutritionist. Definately don't listen to someone who probably is hiding their own eating disorders. Also, don't use really unhealthy foods to get the weight gain you are desiring, or you could end up at the correct weight, but high cholesterol or gestational diabetes. Not having your period, unless you have PCOS, mentioned above, is not healthy, and should be one of the biggest red flags of a healthy weight. The only female I ever knew that lost her period, lost it bc she was a meth addict and not eating.

My college roommates mom is a nutritionist, obviously a healthy person, and she had to make an effort to put on weight so she could get pregnant.

I think its time to doctor shop until you find someone who can give you a plan on how to put on the weight you need to get pregnant- or at least find an OB who can refer you to a nutritionist instead of just telling you to put on weight.

I would also suggest to go ahead and start taking prenatal vitamins as well.

Agreed, no offense but don't listen to Berlin. Some people think being 70 pounds is healthy but they are a little out of touch with reality. 4% body fat is ridiculously low, we need fat on our bodies to stay healthy! not having a good amount of fat on our bodies makes us unhealthy. We aren't medical experts here but I can tell you it sounds like you lost your period from not giving your body what it needs. I was the same way and lost my period for a few months. I came to my senses and gained some weight and now have a period again. I also take multivitamins to stay extra healthy and stopped being so harmful to my body.

GO TO THE GYNO AND DON'T LISTEN TO UNHEALTHY OPINIONS FROM CERTAIN PEOPLE.

I assume you're eating healthily, and not just eating for the sake of gaining pounds. (Keep in mind that in order to get pregnant and have regular menstrual cycles, a healthy body fat percentage is about 22%.) If that's the case, and you've put on some weight and remained at a healthy, stable weight for a while now and still have an absence of menses, I would suggest you return to your doctor and ask for blood tests to check your hormone levels. Unbalanced hormone levels can sometimes be the underlying cause of irregular periods and infertility.

As others have stated, Omega-3 fatty acids are important, and a source of Omega-3's called evening primrose oil, can help balance hormone levels, and possibly help aid in getting pregnant as well. It helps women to produce more fertile quality cervical fluid (the thin egg-white consistency discharge associated with ovulation), which increases your chances of procreating. Vitex, also known as chaste berry, can also help to balance hormone levels and promote regular menstrual cycles. This herb can actually help to bring back your menstrual cycle if low progesterone is the reason you are not ovulating and have a lack of menses. The effects may not be seen, though, for a few months, although it varies for each woman. Lastly, a multivitamin supplement if you are not already taking them, and folic acid is important, as folic acid will help reduce the risk of serious birth defects that affect the spinal cord and brain of your unborn baby.

Once your period is back on track, go to your local drugstore and purchase some ovulation tests, and have sex as your only exercise on those days. Good luck! =)

Sorry, I meant to say that evening primrose oil is a source of Omega-6 fatty acids.

I think you and your husband might need to speak to a doctor/obgyn & a nutritionist since you have been trying for a year and you have not gotten pregnant despite putting on extra pounds. Your body is supposed to be at its healthiest point in order to create a safe place for a healthy baby to grow. If you are not physically healthy, then your body will not allow you to get pregnant.

Good Luck!

Berlin could very well have exercise bulimia. Her own personal ED. So don't listen to her. And even if she's right, not getting your period should be a BIG RED FLAG to you and her.

Amenorrhea is serious and is often caused by being underweight. (Likely NOT PCOS in this case - which is often associated with being overweight.) Because your calorie intake was insufficient, your body can't perform all it's functions to survive so it starts shutting them down - in this case the ability to reproduce.

you need to see an OBGYN. If that's the doc that said "just gain weight" then get another one ASAP. They will actually put you on the pill to get your period going again. Once it does you can go off and see if your body does it on its own. Also be real with yourself re: ED. If you do have ED, and you "temporarily" side it to get preggo, it'll likely come back and then you'll be passing on unhealthy behaviors to your child.

Hope this advice works out better for you than any of the above. I'm hoping that you have seen an ob/gyn by this point, and are pregnant, but if not here goes: I work in an ob office. Don't play around with your body, guessing at what you need to do. See a young, modern minded doctor. Weight and nutrition are important factors in menses and pregnancy. Have the appropriate testing that your physician orders. Receive the medications and supplements that YOUR body needs, which cannot be determined by what anyone else's body needed. Have some blood tests, possibly an ultrasound, find out what is happening with you. Please do not just go to a health department or planned parenthood and ask to be put on the pill to save money. The drug that brings on a period is not birth control. B.C. is used for longer term control of the entire menstrual cycle. You need a complete analysis of follicle stimulation, progesterone levels, and much more to accurately bring the whole picture together of your body's needs. Please see a reputable ob/gyn soon if you haven't already. And good luck.