an ex... had to get the police involved...it was awful...

I had an ex too, but he wasn't too scray.

I also had this weird guy who use to call my phone and just listen to me ask "Hello? Hello? Who is this?" and make all these weird grunting sounds...it was super creepy!

i feel so bad for conan
especially since the guy is like a priest so like wtf

I had a sort of stalker once, but I voted other because I wasn't terrified. Freshman year in the dorms I lived down the hall from this girl who was a local, and occasionally her townie friends from high school would visit. One of her friends was this guy who was totally sweet on me. He would send me all kinds of things: sweatshirts, concert tickets, cds, books, etc. He even asked my roommate my favorite type of candy; then I'd wake up with a bag of Reese's Peanut Butter Cups on my door handle. It was weird. I could never return anything to him because I didn't know where he lived. I made it clear that I wasn't interested in him romantically, but he didn't care. Eventually he moved out of state to go to college- one day I received an email from him telling me that he met a girl who looked just like me and that she would become the object of his affections. I said good luck and never heard from him again.

I did, although it never turned into anything malicious. It was just creepy. This older guy used to follow me to and from school (I walked), drive past my house, knew when I was out in my parents' car, knew what I was wearing all the time. He paid someone at my school to find out my name (they got it wrong anyway). Then finally he called me and asked me if he could drive me to school.

What a creep.

I don't know that I'd qualify him as that, but close enough. Didn't end well.

yep, i was 13 years old. the guy was in his 20s. it was tramatic and i had a lot of counseling. but it was a long long time ago and i never think about it anymore. until now... j/k i dont care. but it did suck.

I have, and SEVERAL of them too. I don't know why. I'm not all that cute or anything. The first was late elementary/early middle school. He was a kid too, but worked with my mom on this Mayoral campaign. I was always there and he got all scary. I made sure he knew I was not interested. That's when it got really bad. He found my Mom's car one night before she left the office and smashed the windshield with a huge rock. Shattered the whole thing. He was taken to juvenile hall and I never saw him again.

I had one who just wouldn't take no for an answer, but he was mostly harmless. The last one I had was a much older man whom I never thought anything of. One day he had a bouquet of roses sent to me. The woman who delivered them said I'd better be careful, that he's done this before and some of the women had called the shop asking to not accept orders to them from him because he wouldn't leave them alone. What was worse - that was the day I found out I was pregnant! Yikes. None since then thank goodness!

no and don't know anyone who has had a stalker either

My son's father stalked me after I told him we couldn't be together anymore. He was abusive...showed up at my job one day and I ran to the bathroom and called the police while he was banging on the door. Thank God for cell phones...

Yes. It was horrible. He still does it whenever he gets the chance.

It was at University and he basically took issue with me FOR SOME REASON. I mean the guy was a certified paranoid schizophrenic and so the University protected him. He was on course for a high first degree and so they wanted to keep him there to boost their numbers..

He'd hang around outside my room, threaten me, threaten my friends. It eventually mounted one day when he was found running around campus with a massive block of wood saying he was going to beat me in with it.

He attacked me, he attacked my friends but the University did nothing about it. He stalks me online and is probably going to read this post.

I try not to let it get to me. Every so often he'll send me a threatening email but I have a restraining order against him from the police and he'd be arrested if he ever turned up at my door.

Thankfully there is now 200 miles between me and him but that doesn't stop the online intimidation.

I clicked other, because I sort of did, but it was never anything more than an annoyance. Sophomore year of college some guy kept covering my whiteboard in drunken scrawl about how beautiful I was while I was sleeping. His social skills were not the best ever, but he stopped after I caught him in the act one night when I was up later than usual.

I dated a guy for about 2 months or so, and when I tried to break up with him, he wasn't having it. He would call me like 20 times a night, text me non-stop and ride by my house 3 or 4 times a night. One night I fell asleep on the couch with my door open and when I woke up he was standing at the screen looking in. It was weird, but I wasn't scared. He was a nice guy....just persistent.

fluffyhelen: here's an idea...if you are being stalked, don't use your picture on stuff like this. (if that is you in the pic)

Yeah, I considered changing my name last year when things reached a head again and then figured.. why try and run away from it? I could go into hiding if I wanted and totally erase myself but then he's won.

So now I don't bother because he'll find me anyway.

an old friend i had a falling out with. it was pretty insane for a while, i have the ulcer to prove it.
she still stalks me online, but i've stopped caring.

Being safe isn't the same as running away from it. It's simply good sense to not use personal information on a public website.

I clicked other because my senior year of college I had a guy become obsessed with me. He did not go to my school but was a high school friend of a guy I took to a semi-formal. After meeting me at an after party, he started sending me love letters in the mail, presents in the mail, and then when he realized I still wasn't responding, he drove 13 hrs to show up on my doorstep with an expensive potted orchid. I had no idea what to do because I never even flirted with the guy. I never felt scared for my life though.

i had some weirdo that kept calling my phone for almost year... they even manage to get a hold of my house line... i had to get the police involved...

I never have been but my sister has. A guy she worked with was stalking her and her work said they couldn't fire him. They just made sure some one walked her to her car at night. One day he attacked another girl in the elevator and then the morons finally did something about him.

I have an ex who turned out to be a compulsive liar. Everything he told me about himself turned out to be a lie, but I believed him simply because I didn't have a reason not to. Eventually things started coming out, like he had previously been in jail for harrassing an ex. When I broke up with him he called my house, I lived with my parents at the time, non stop making threats, and he even ran into one of my friend's BF and told him that he was going to kill me. I had to change my phone number and get a restraining order. When I showed up to the courthouse to get the restraining order, he was there waiting for me and begged for me not to do it because it was gonna be a 3rd strike or some crap. I did it anyway. I had to give the police a bunch of recorded statements. It was horrible. I wouldn't wish it on anyuone.

Yes once, when I was 17.....and it scared the hell out of me at first which is normally a hard thing to do, but it never escalated to the point where i felt my life was threatened in any way.He was more afraid of the men in my family(father,brother, boyfriend, & my 2 BIL's) who went after him for stalking me,and he never bothered me again.

Yes, I had one in college. It was a guy that lived in my freshman year dorm with this other guy that I used to hang out with. He would do all sorts of weird things like call me on the phone and breathe heavily...plus sometimes it was rubbing sounds....if you catch my drift. Security put a trace on my phone and we figured out who it was. Sophomore and Junior year he stopped the calls, but would do other things like make up i.m. names and i.m. me randomly, send me bizarre e-cards, etc. One morning I woke up and he had sent me an i.m. in the middle of the night all about how he had been raped by his own sister...he would never speak to me or anything, but then he failed out junior year and I never heard from him again.

interesting stories..

i've had several. this one was not a classic stalker, but still very creepy. i was fresh out of school and had gotten a job at a huge local company. their cafeteria was enormous and that's where we'd sit for lunch, around the same time every day. i started to notice this guy staring at me from across the room..sometimes he would sit nearby, sometimes far away. one day, he was staring so much that the other people i was eating with, noticed. one of the guys said 'i think he's drawing your picture'. i said 'really?'..so we finished our lunch and i walked over to him. sure enough there was my picture he had drawn and it was pretty good, so i asked if i could have it. here's the creepy part..he says 'which one'? and he flips thru his sketch book and there are at least 3 other pictures of me...and the rest of the sketchbook has nothing but trees and animals, no other people. i freaked. so he had been drawing me on various occasions without my knowledge! its one thing if he had asked, but this was without my permission!..i didn't really say anything at the time, but it happened again the very next time i was eating lunch in the cafeteria. this time, i said 'i would appreciate it if you asked my permission.'..so he says 'do you mind if i draw your picture?'..i said no, i'd prefer if you didn't. it never escalated beyond the pictures, but he continued to draw them, even after i asked him not to! so i told HR about it, and stopped eating lunch in the cafeteria. i agree with fluffyhelen, i wish i hadn't altered MY behavior because it was he who was in the wrong. HR put him on disciplinary action..

I've never really had a super serious scary stalker but I've had a couple of guys who constantly called and sent gifts and stuff but one that really sticks out in my head is a dude who went phsyco on his best friend as well as on me. Okay, so my first year in college I hung out with this girl who was in my program and she took me out with her group of friends cause she was from the area and I wasn't. Anyways, two of the guys in her group took a liking to me. They were best friends. The one guy was super sweet and the other guy was super aggressive and creepy. I clearly took a liking to the sweet one and we started hanging out one and one but nothing ever came from it. However, during the time we hung out, the the creepy friend would call all the time and threaten me if I didn't stop hanging out with the other guy. He'd show up unannounced at my house and threaten me. He also threatened his friend. One time when me and the sweet friend were hanging out we were goofing around and wrestling at my place and the creepy friend walked into the house unannounced, again, and grabbed the sweet friend, pulled him to his feet and said, and I quote, "If you ever touch her again I'll slit your throat". Yeah..... Luckily enough the sweet friend got him calmed down. Unfortunately he had to leave too or the creepy friend wouldn't. We stopped hanging out after that. Unfortunately the calls from the creepy friend didn't stop until I moved and changed my number.

At the time I was living in California and I had some chick start to message me on Myspace saying I slept with her husband. Problem is they lived in New York and I have never been to New York! It got so bad I blocked my profile, even closed the one I had and created a new one and she still harrassed my friends. Finally after a year and a half she finally got a clue and backed off.

My ex. We were together for almost 3 years, and he started to get weird and possessive. He would get angry if I did anything with my GIRLfriends even when we weren't going to hang out anyway.

I broke it off with him, and I didn't hear from him for about a month or so. Then, I was driving home one night around midnight, and a car followed me. I recognized that it was him, and I was immediately terrified. I pulled into my driveway and ran to my door and watched him from my bedroom window pull into my driveway, stop, sit for a few minutes, and then he finally left.

I started paying more attention to the vehicles around me, and sure enough, he would follow me out with my friends at night to see how I was with, he would follow me to my school(a university about 30 miles from my house), and he would follow me home.

Then he started calling me. He would call me when he was following me. I could hear him talking in the background, at me, but not directly into the phone. It was so damn creepy! I kept all the voice mails and I had written down the times and the dates of when he would follow me. I have a good friend who is a Detective at the police station in town, and I presented my findings to him as well as a personal profile on my ex. In the end, my Detective friend ended up calling him several times before my ex would answer, and he told him that if his behavior did not end that I would be prepared to take legal action.

It was about a year before things got totally cleared up, and I didn't have to take any super serious action. His parents moved 4 hours away, and he went with them.

However, I still see him around town. He drives a different vehicle now, which I have described to my Detective buddy, and he made a note of it.

My ex hasn't called me in months, but, ever since we broke up there are periods of time exactly like this that go by, and then out of the blue he calls again.

I forgot to mention that I live on a dead end road....

I had some weirdo in college who developed an odd thing for me. He'd make up elaborate stories about us being a couple and what we did on the weekend or what we were planning to do that evening and tell anyone who would listen. When people started to figure out he was lying they began to tell me all of his stories. Pretty soon everybody knew he was a LIAR yet he still kept trying to tell them about our "relationship". It went on for about 6 months. Until her developed a new make believe girlfriend.

i never had the "pleasure" to get a stalker, and i hope i never will!

I had an ex who was a stalker and a complete stranger who was. He would leave me flowers and cards at my doorway and would call me, knowing all sorts of things about me that I never knew how he found out. It was scary.

For whatever reason, I've had a few guys who just wouldn't go away, even after knowing that I was in a serious relationship.
There was this one kid who would show up to my job and find weird reasons to be there. My security guards would come chat if they saw him wandering on their cameras to scare him off. One night, boyfriend actually ran into him after he had tried to start a conversation despite me being busy. Apparently, boyfriend started screaming at him as they passed on the escalators.
After that, he would incessantly IM me about being together even though I had stated that I was not interested. One day the IMs turned mad, calling me stupid and a b*tch for staying with my boyfriend. Then after I blocked him, he made up some creepy screenname along the lines of "Ispyonu", begging to know why I wouldn't talk to him.
The last thing I heard was that he was going to be a cop.

I had an old boyfriend's ex-girlfriend stalk me for a month or so. She never confronted me but apparently she found out where I lived, where and when I worked, my school schedule, my parent's address, and she tried conning her way into my apt (but wasn't successful). Oh, and she wore a long, blonde wig and sunglasses as a disguise...she was asian! What a Fah-Reek!

I wasn't ever afraid of her but she was asking for an ass-whooping (which I was never given the pleasure of - dang!).

YES over my family vacation i met a guy to help my family to get back into our villa. (we lost our keys and had to use his phone) And i later found out he had been watching me for the entire week from his window and followed me and my friend to a club and told me i wasn't allow to talk to anyone other than him and tried to have sex with him. It was soo scary and kind of traumatizing

I had one my first semester of college last year.
It was a girl I'd gone to high school with, and we went to the same college our first semester. She didn't have alot of friends and I kind of felt bad for her, so I'd hang out with her and stuff.
Well apparently she was a little kookier than I thought, because she started talking about killing herself, and I'd be up until all hours of the night trying to convince her not to do anything dumb. I finally reported it to the head of housing and they started to watch her.
Then when she kept talking about it, I finally told her that I couldn't deal with it anymore (I'm really not heartless, I just realized that she kept talking about it, but never actually did anything, so I started to not believe her anymore, and I was suffering personally from her dramatics, losing sleep, constantly worrying, etc.)
After I told her I didn't want to talk anymore, she kept calling me, and would IM me, and I'd ignore it. One night she imed me and was like "I know you're there, I see you're on facebook and myspace..come talk to me"...and another night, she said she was glad to see that I got my homework done, because she'd seen me drop it off at my professors office earlier (which was on the other side of campus!!!). She was absolutely insane though, she'd knock on my door at random times of the day and night, I'd catch her watching me from a bench in the corner of the sidewalk when I went to class...it was just really creepy!!!!
I blocked all communication I had with her though, and even transferred schools to get away from her.
I haven't heard from her in a little less than a year, and I can't be happier. And I know that my story wasn't quite as disturbing as some of the others on here, but it was scary at the time, and I wouldn't wish anyone to go through any of that!

I clicked other for guys that were persistant in wanting to date me, but reading this post reminded me I did get creepy stalked once when I was 17. There was this chinese exchange student, and he's been verbally harrassing me for a while to date him, I had one of my guy friends tell him that he had to leave me alone as I had already made it clear I wasn't interested. He then followed me in the school and so me and a friend of mine were hiding in the toilets, and he was spying through the vent and kicked the door in to scare us.Very creepy.

Yes my 70yr old neighbour. He kept finding excuses to come around and always came outside if he heard me out the back. He wrote me some creepy letters and kept knocking on my bedroom window after i'd told him i wasn't interested in even being friends with him. Finally he came over one night knocking on my door and saying that he wanted to make love to me. I called the police and they went and spoke with him the next day (he was hiding that night cause my mum threatened to call my uncles!) and told him he's not to speak to me or they'd lock him up. I stayed with my mum for quite a while after.

He wasn't a real stalker but me and my friends called him a stalker because he kept calling. All day long. Just calling and calling. So after he realized that I wasn't gonna answer his call he started coming to my house! Ugh! It's over now but he was the worst!

I had a stalker, but it happened when I was in the 5th grade and it was my next door neighbor who was a year older than me.

He did a number of inappropriate things such as he grabbed me from behind and cupped my breasts. Another time while I was at the pool w. family, he was there too and he kept looking at me under the water w. his goggles on.

The craziest thing he did was sneak into our back yard and looked to be like he was setting up some kind of trap; like a trip wire. He was doing other things in our back yard. Me and my sisters were watching him through the blinds.

Thankfully, this guy moved away by high school and I had managed to keep my distance by the 7th grade.

No. and some people use the term "stalker" too loosely

Anyone who stalks a celebrity or anyone else, should either be committed to a mental institution or imprisoned. To say hello to someone famous is one thing. To talk peacefully to them just like they are you.....and in a way they are, is fine because it’s safe. But to physically follow them around is dangerous. Stalking is a very serious manner when you have someone that’s psychotic / deranged to deal with.

And I agree, some people truly don’t know the definition of a true stalker.

i picked other not really sure what to pick. I have been in a similar situtation but i dont think it actually counts as a stalker. A few months back me, my roomate and my best guy friend all went to mcdonalds after getting off work late.(we all worked at the same place)one night and i was riding with my bgf we got back to my house before my roomate did.

We were standing outside waiting for her to come and she was taking along time and we were worried because she was right behind us. When she got here she told us what had happened. theres a side road on our street so she was sitting at the stopsign waiting for this car to pass. he was a couple blocks away and driving really slow and my roomate didnt want to pull out in front of him and have him speed up really quick and hit her. anyways when he got to our street he stopped and glared hard at her and then turned up our street away from our house but at some point when we were all walking inside he made a uturn and drove really slow past our house this was about midnight. and my bfg parents wanted him home by 12 that night so we waited a few minutes and he left. and i always tell him to call if anythings happens.

After he left my roomate realized that she had left her phone in her truck and didnt want to go out there alone so i went out to help her and had left my phone inside
(he had called it twice then called my roomys phone.when i got around to listening to my messages i felt so bad for not having my phone because he sounded really scared and i always have my phone on me but not when i was needed most but now i always have my cell no matter what.)

Just as we found her phone it rang and it was our friend saying that the guy had been following him and was scared he zigzagged trough different streets to try to loose him and was still getting followed luckily he finally lost him. we ended up meeting our friend at a gas station were a bunch of cops hang out and told them about the situtation but they couldnt do anything since the car was behind us and we couldnt get a liscence number or anything like that.

i am really sorry about the long message everybody. I didnt realize i had typed that much.
i guess i am a very detailed person.
sorry

I've had a stalker but I will say I was not scared of him. I used to weight lift, I'm prone to carrying knives and I've been in a few fist fights in my day. So if he ever tried anything - he'd regret it.

This was several years ago though. I think my 8th grade year...it didn't last long, he found someone else I suppose.

This was at church, it last from when I was about 16 to 19. This kid about five years younger than myself had the nerve to tell me I was pretty and stylish one time ... in front of the movie theater! He found my Xanga and my Myspace and according to his friends (who really only hung out with him out of pity) would tell me he would ogle at my pictures. One time I was on the swings at the church playground, trying to kill time, and a few strands of my hair got caught in the chains. And he, the kid, KEPT A STRAND OF MY HAIR!!

Is that not super stalker-ish and creepy, or what?!