I'd tell him but basically he'd have zero say it what I chose to do, I just think if I got a wakeup call so should he...

i would keep it to myself and deal with it on my own with the help from my friends... its a one night stand.. why tell the guy?! unless you think it could be more.. then maybe tell him.. but other then that.. i would probably keep it to myself!

aimeeb... i do agree.. i guess that is a pretty huge wake up calL!!

I've never actually had a one night stand so this is all theoretical. I know its not fair but my first instinct would definitely be to deal with it all on my own. I don't think I would sleep with someone I had no interest in having a relationship with, but if he's not good enough to see again why would I raise a child with him?

i dont know that i would be able to raise the child if it was with someone who was a one night stand.. this is a hard questioN!

I would tell him for sure! Let him know what's up. It just as much HIS right to know as it is mine.

I don't think i would keep a baby from a one night stand, but I would still let him know because - like aimeeb said - maybe it will be HIS wake-up call as it would be mine.

1. He has every right to know that he is going to be a father of a child that will eventually want to meet him.

2. CHILD SUPPORT! duh!

If I had a one night stand and thought there was the slightest chance that I might get pregnant, I would be at Planned Parenthood getting the morning after pill.

I have a couple of friends who got pregnant by guys they had only been dating for a short while- one never married the father and they broke up and now are in a bitter custody dispute, the other got married to the guy before the baby was born, but I dont really think they will stay married(she said she didnt want to marry him just bc she was pregnant-but she said yes when he proposed, and he proposed after he found out that she wasnt going to give the baby his last name if they werent married).

I would only want to have children with the man I married- which was why I was always very careful. Now I am married, and I look forward to having children with my husband.

I have no idea what I would do!

I'd tell him, the baby isn't just mine. He has every right to know and I'd keep the baby too

It probably depends on the person. If you knew the person then yeah definitely...if not and he was just some random person from a bar..I'd have to think about it. Plus, at this point in my life I know I couldn't support a child anyways, so I really don't know what I'd do.

Luckily, it's a non issue for me because I've been dating the same person for almost 3 years.

I'd tell him, but I wouldn't expect a relationship to come of it. It would be his child too, and he has both rights and responsibilities for that child.

Well I guess the lesson here is be very careful if you have a one night stand. Its one thing to discuss it here, but in the real world it becomes much more complicated. Safety always ladies because you just never know.

nikodarling.. i could not agree more!

I personally make the intelligent decisions to keep myself from ever having to make this type of decisions. Would anyone call Maury?

I would tell him.

Summer, I want him to stress just like I would.

There would be plenty to go around I'm sure!

If I decided to keep the baby I would tell him, but I would probably not keep the baby, and in that case, no I wouldn't tell him, its my body to do what I want with and I wouldn't need some guy I hardly knew acting like he had a part in making a decision like that for me.

Another question is if you decide to give up the baby for adoption...I think you need the father to sign over his rights to the adopting couple. It can't just be one person, it has to be BOTH the birth mother and the birth father signing over their parental rights to the adopting couple, I think. I remember my friend went through that and she and her lawyer had to track down the father to have him sign the necessary paperwork.

Tell HIM! If you even got his number.... Hell if you even go his name.... I don't believe in one night stands.... I think it's trashy, but people make mistakes.... But if you do keep the baby.... CHILD SUPPORT!!!

I would NOT tell him. What if he wanted to father the child??

I'm with sass317, I'd swallow a morning after pill so fast that this would never happen. But if it DID happen, I probably wouldn't tell him. It's my body and my decision what to do.

It's his child also he deserves to know!

starofsorrow - I don't know about now, but when I was born that certainly wasn't the case. To this day, to my knowledge my biological father doesn't know I exist. My biological mother found out after the break-up that she was pregnant. They separated because he was unfaithful. She gave me up, and didn't have to provide any details on the father.

As for what to do - well, I went through this. You really don't know until it comes up. My decision was personal and had a some to do with being adopted, and my bio father not knowing about me. In the end I have a wonderful boy and wouldn't change what I did.

I was young, stupid, and had to deal with the consequence of my actions. I did tell the father, who promptly said it was my choice what to do then called back to tell me he found out there was a pill to get rid of it. Whatever. Then he went on to not only deny paternity but to all but call me a s*ut in court documents. It was a hard road, but again I'm not sorry for where I am now.

If this had been asked when I was 18 or before I had my son, I don't know that my answer to this question would have been what actually happened. We can think all we want that we would choose something, but when you are in the thick of it you just never know where your heart will lead you.

If I didn't know the person I would keep it to myself and most likely get an abortion. If I knew the person then it would be a different story. I would probably consult him and then we would decide what to do together.

Kiddy- Wow, what an amazing story!
I can see this being one of those 'easier said' type things.. in my case I'd tell the one night stand but ultimately I believe the decision would be mine.

You know its easy to be judgemental or say "this is what I would do" if its never happened to you. WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES AND ARE FOOLISH (this is part of the learning process) but YES this happened to me too in college. I took the morning after pill immediately. You live and you learn and I dont regret any decisions I made for me! What doesnt kill you will only make you a stronger,better and WISER person (I know from experience!).

If I was going to keep it, I would tell him; he has a right to know he fathered a child. However, I'd most likely have an abortion, and I wouldn't tell him.

Ditto designergirl. I would never tell. Besides if he was a one night stand, why would I have his number?

I don't know what I would do. Thankfully I have neve been in this situation & I hope I never am. I think it's the kind of thing where you can be adament you would do a cetain thing if this ever happened, but if you find yourself in the situation, would possibly choose something else.

I'd only tell him if i decide to keep the baby , he have a right to know that he's gonna be a father, but if i know me , and i think i do, i would get an abortion so he doesn't have to know.

I would get an abortion. I grew up never knowing my father very well and I would never do that to a child.

Other.
Keep it to myself if having an abortion.
Tell him if I wanted to keep it, however, he would be under no obligation to participate emotionally or financially. I definitely wouldn't be one of these women "I'm pregnant! Give me some child support, b*tch!"

This is one of those situations where I'd be all over getting an abortion.

Jeez...Now there's a thinker......

This is all theoretical for me, seeing as I haven't had a one night stand in ummm.....5 years?

Morning after pill. Only problem with telling the guy is this: we just had a one night stand. He thinks I am pretty easy, so he's will definately question the paternity of the child from the beginning. then comes the paternity test drama.

Then I'd change my ho-ing ways. lol

I believe first impressions say a lot about someone, so I think it depends on the guy, and also what your plans are.

Tell him and keep the baby. What he does after that is up to him.

I wouldn't tell him unless I decided to keep the baby. At that point I think he has a right to know.

its hard to say because I don't see myself ever having a one night stand in the first place. if I ever did, it depends on everything else as to if I tell him or not. I'd definitely get rid of it though.

Well, I'd take the morning after pill so fast...also, I don't believe in one night stands as I have no way of knowing if they're clean or not. And I always carry a condom. So wow, does this not apply to me. Anywho, in the highly unlikely situation, it's none of his damn business what I do with my body.

I would only tell him if I'm planning on keeping the baby.

i would tell him because every body has the right to know!!!!!!!! the decision is completely up to u though if u dont know this person than u have to make the right choice for urself!!!!

I honestly do not know.

I'd tell him

I honestly don't know.

Oh, I'd have an abortion. But...if I didn't have an abortion (I would) I'd tell the dad. And not for the money, I'd tell the dad for the CHILD'S sake. Jesus people...really, for the money? That is the kind of thing that give women a bad name. That's why men think women are all about the money. sh*t.

agree with you totally, Lovaajn! Asking for a child support from one nite stand? nonesense...nobody wants this to happen..if it's the girl's decision to keep the child, it's her respondsibility to take care of the child too. This happend to me 5 months ago..I didn't call him or even let anyone know about this. When I found out I was just 5-week pregnent, so I went to the doctor's and took the abortion pill. I have to admit that it's kind of sad to deal with all these by myslef, but it's the right decision. It's the one nite stand we're talking about here, not some kind of rape case!

It has happened to me twice so far. When I was 14 and at 15. (Now I am 16). One night stand is for fun, not making kids. I just went to a gynecologist and had an abortion, without telling anyone about it.

I am 22 weeks pregnant with a little girl conceived from a one night stand. I can honestly say that I have never been happier. I was so freaked out about it at first because I thought there was no way I could do this on my own but with God's help I have made it though. I told the father when I was about 3 months and he was very upset about my decision but I have not asked for child support and don't plan to. I feel that it is my responsibility and I am mature enough to see it the baby as that, a responsibility, not a mistake. I think it is very important for people to realize that if you have a one night stand you run the risk of getting pregnant, even with birth control (trust me) and you need to be ready to accept your responsibility instead of running to the abortion clinic.

1: If you decide to keep the baby, it should be your SOLE responsibility as it's your SOLE decision to keep it.

1a: If the child ever decide to seek the father later in life, give it all the information they may need.

1b: ALL medical information should be supplied by the father.

2: If you decide to have an abortion both parties involved should be present for all obligations in the process.
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The plan was for cheap sex, not a family. Get it straight. Don't make this into something it's not.