Call me old-fashioned, but I only date one guy at a time. That means I only have one sexual partner at a time, and I thought that was what most people did. Apparently not. According to this ABC News story, a new study shows that one out of every 10 men, observed over the course of a year, had sexual relationships with more than one woman at a time.
If these guys are having sex with a bunch of different women, those poor unsuspecting ladies probably have no idea. Not only is it disrespectful — and pretty sleazy if you ask me — but the practice also may be contributing to the spread of HIV and other STIs. Of course, using condoms is a great way to prevent HIV and other STIs from spreading, but unfortunately, they don't protect you 100 percent.
I hope this study will increase awareness about how important it is to practice safe sex. My advice: Before you get intimate with a new partner, be sure that both of you get tested for all STIs, especially HIV.
What do you think about this news? Do the results of the study surprise you?
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I only sleep with one guy at a time, and 9 times out of 10 they are my BOYFRIEND too...
1I think girls are more likely to end one sexual relationship before another for a lot of reasons. Emotional and god-forbid the whole "who is the father of my child???" mishaps on jerry springer. Guys on the other hand don't really have that to worry about. Still doesn't make it right. I think it is icky to sleep with more than one person, so I guess it is just best to be safe and ask questions.
2it is 1 out of 10. i would have expected those odds to be higher, actually! i'm with dear, i think it's disrespectful. i don't want to be naive and think a man can't deceive me, because it can happen. but at the point where i don't see a man i'm dating or talk to/email him every other day, i shoudln't be sleeping with him. if i can't account for his time, or who else he's seeing, that's fine, but that just means it's not serious enough for me to be sleeping with him. just my little personal rule. if he's not into you enough that he wants to see you regularly or exclusively...sorry pal, you can't have your cake and eat it too!
3Knowing what we know about STI and Hiv you really have to wonder how people can be so irresponsible. It doesn't really surprise me though. I think the onus is on women to protect themselves, ask lots of questions, and above all else put your own safety first.
4I wouldn't sleep with someone i'm not exclusively in a relationship with so i guess i'd remove poor from your statement about the women. It's their choice too, and i guess inevitably pay the price. it's one's responsibility to get tested and take the proper measures when it comes to one's health.
5I'm not shocked by this...
People need to be more careful and less trusting esp with sex being involved.
6I just told this guy that the reason I won't sleep with him is b/c I am still in a relationship and I don't believe in having more than one sexual partner at a time... I told him in order for me to move on to him I will have to completely break off any romantic ties to the old person... get tested... and ensure the new guy does the same... plus too I want to know the guy for a few months... And being in love would be nice
7Ew.
8I am not shocked at all. When I lived in NYC it was the norm for both men and women I also know that most of them were tested on a regular basis. People need to be responsible for themselves and make sure they put their own health first. Everyone should be tested at least once a year if not more depending on your habits.
9How does this increase STDs? If someone is having sex with two partners at the same time, or if someone has sex with one person, breaks it off, then goes to the next person, what's the difference? It matters for emotional reasons perhaps, but in both situations, s/he's having sex with the same number of people, just one is concurrent and one is serial.
10MEN ARE DISGUSTING
11Well as long as sluts are in existence all men will sleep around no matter who they are.
12Eek!
13Socialitebabe, I LOVE your position on this! I don't think all men sleep around, but you as a woman, have to take responsibility to prevent that from occuring. See, men can lie and say their single, but it doesn't matter. Cuz if they said they were in a relationship, there are still sluts that don't care. Also, I don't see how getting tested regularly is really going to help you if you're constantly sleeping around. If you have sex with an infected partner, then wait 6 months to get tested, all the people you slept with in those 6 months could have been infected. It's an after the issue aid. It's sad that a lot of people, men and women, don't care if they get STIs like, Chlymidia or HPV, because you can get rid of it, but it's still gross and can cause permanent damage. Not to mention, I know of atleast 2 people that have Herpes, and don't tell the people they sleep around with, one of which is one of their's married boss. Not my friend, just know her.
14As I said before everyone needs to be responsible for his or her body meaning if you have unprotected sex you should be prepared for some kind of positive test. If your going to sleep with anyone casually than you should be using a condom each and every time no matter what.
Someone choosing to have sex with more than one person at time without being in a relationship does not make them a slut even.
15This didn't surprise me at all. I know plenty of women who behave similarly, which always *does* surprise me. So it takes all kinds, I guess. I'm a one man woman and expect the same from my guy from the get-go. No crossovers allowed.
16This doesn't seem shocking to me. Am I the only one? Most women I know who aren't in a relationship are the same way. I have been in a relationship forever so I am not in a position to take a stance, but I don't see what is so wrong with dating more than one person and being careful. 1 in 10 seems low to me.
17Nope doesn't surprise me at all....and unfortunately it's become a fact of life.
18not surprised in the least bit. in fact, i thought the number would be higher.
19Sadly, not surprised.
20I think we're looking at this information the wrong way. One in ten means that man-wh*res are a pretty small minority. And I'd bet the statistics for women would be pretty similar.
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