Nope. Never. I require a level of respect from people, and give the same in return.

My husband and I even have an open "sure, look at my emails whenever you want" policy, and yet we still don't without checking with the other each time to be sure it's still ok.

sometimes u just gotta snoopppp

i tend not to, but i will reciprocate if someone snooped through my stuff

I have NEVER snooped in my current boyfriends things EVER! He had never given me a reason to, and I trust him. We have a very open relationship, we talk A LOT, and I'm sure he would never hide anything from me (on purpose) or keep something from me on purpose.
I just think it's wrong I would expect him not to snoop through my things too...it's a relatioship, you should be TRUSTING each other.

tell me if this counts: my homepage is facebook-- and i have a mac so when you hit the "x" it doesnt closer the browser. my boyfriend logged in on my computer and i really didnt notice since the main picture is so small and we have the same friends [which happens all the time]. any way i clicked the inbox looking for a number and UGH i saw a girl so OF COURSE i checked it. im gross. any way we were having problems for a while a couple weeks ago and to my dismay i saw a convo back and forth from around that time and i totally overreacted. in my defense they mentioned me and something about hanging out-- the rest was a blur

Never.

No, I would be so mad if someone went through my things so I show the same respect.

Don't snoop. I snooped once with my current bf. Nothing big, I just searched for him on MySpace. And what did I find? A message on his ex girlfriend's profile. Nevermind that it was almost a year old, it still gutted me! I felt horrible and insecure about it for days. Eventually, I had to have a chat with him about the past.

Bottom line: I trust him. And I know that if I snooped again I'd just find more old stuff that he's probably forgotten all about.

Not a chance. But then, I don't need to. My husband's welcome to go through my things whenever he wants, and I'm welcome to go through his. In fact, we constantly tease each other when we pull out a receipt from the other person's back pocket and pretend it's a love letter from someone else. Ah, the things that'll keep us entertained after a decade of marriage!

I do. I have no shame. I am SO nosey.

sortof.. its not snooping if we share everything with each other.. although you do hear the occasional 'honney, i was stalking you on facebook and..' etc

i don’t snoop but only because i don’t have a want to. But if someone does snoop… whatevs.

Several years ago I checked my exes email when I suspected he was cheating on me. He was, which I discovered through emails. I never felt good about how I found out.

I made a note that in the future, if I ever felt like I just had to check my BFs emails because I was sure he was cheating, to just break up instead. That little trust in a relationship will destroy it sooner or later.

I was such a snoop when I was a kid, but now I can only think about how I wouldn't want anyone to snoop around my stuff. Now that I know better, the answer is no.

I snooped once before on an old boyfriends email and found out he had sept with his ex girlfriend while we were together. I will forever be a snooper because of that. I just need to know everything. Its horrible and I want to stop its just so addicting!!

Okay, i hate to post twice but i have to rephrase.

If something was left open (drawer, facebook, phone's call log) i'd take a look. I admire the person with more self control than me to not look.
Otherwise I don't open or seek anything. What if it's a secret i don't like? (like finding this one very specific kind of porn on an ex's internet history. taught me my lesson)

I never even snooped for my Christmas presents when I was little haha!

My ex read my journal. Nevermind the fact that I wrote about things that happened when we weren't together (which was for a good six months) or how I just wrote whatever was on my mind at the time.

He claimed several times what I wrote wasn't a big deal to him, then he started acting weird. After some "investigating", I found out some things that were going on and I cut my loses and moved on.

So yeah... I snooped only after it was done to me first and his behavior was very suspicious.

I have a friend who would log in to his e-mail every say and read all his old emails from girls, then look them up on facebook or myspace and then she'd stay online to see if any girls talked to her and if they said anything suspicious. She'd also check his myspace and facebook accounts for all kinds of nonexistent crap.

Its ok to snoop a little, but if you feel the need to snoop THAT much then you KNOW you're not in a good realtionship.

My bf and I live together, use the same e-mail addresses often, and use whoever'e phone is closest at the moment. So, naturally, we check each other's messages. I don't consider that snooping, but it definately decreases the ability to hide something if you wanted to.

i've been guilty of flipping through my exbf's text messages when i was using his phone. what can i say- i'm nosy lol and i wanted to know how often he was talking to his ex wife! but that's really the extent of it would be checking the cell every once in a while. i've never snooped through a room or read his emails or anything. i know i shouldn't even check the phone but as i said- i'm nosy lol

i was at a guys house, and we were just hanging out and talking. he had to go for a walk and i had to go home. as he was upstairs getting some socks, i was alone in his living room. i had the best opportunity to snoop, but i didn't. i kind of wish i did, but in the end i know it was a good decision.

I'm guilty. I accidently stumbled across an msn conversation on my ex's family computer one night (it really was an accident - this was a foreign country and I don't speak the language well so it took me a while to realise what I had found!). He'd been cheating on me. I'd recently moved to the other side of the world for him and I was beyond devastated.

Since then, I'm a bit paranoid. I'm with a great guy now and I'm trying to quit the snooping, but it's hard. I have no reason to not trust him and after time and time again of finding nothing even remotely suspicious I'm slowly letting my guard down. He thinks I'm as cool as a cucumber so I've got to quit it before he realises that I've been a snoop.

The rational part of me knows how wrong it is and that I'm potentially setting myself up for disaster, but in the back of my mind I remember how spot on my instincts were in my last relationship. I guess now the challenge is realising where instinct ends and paranoia begins.

I snooped in my son's room when he was very young...just to be sure he wasn't getting into anything he shouldn't.

I don't snoop. Even though, I can get paranoid, it stays in my head.

dh931, I think there's a difference between parental snooping and significant other snooping, even though they're both snooping.

My boyfriend doesn't care if I snoop. He says he has nothing to hide and I feel the same way!

we know each others passwords so its not snooping.

After reading all these comments the word "snoop" looks really funny....

I've done it before but I always felt terrible afterward. It's really better to just ask.

Yep, and I still do and I've been married for 3 1/2 years. It's a shame when trust is broken...

I saw an email from a female once and when he was in the shower I snooped and read it. It was an old friend, they were catching up, then he was asking what a great gift would be for me for Christmas and the whole email was about me.

I don't snoop anymore, I have a great man and nothing to be worried about...

i never snoop , i think if you feel the need to snoop , you don't trust your man and without trust you don't have a healthy relationship

whoever said they never did are LYING! loool

no i don't, but when i was teenage i liked opening my sister's drawers books and stationery(sp?) because she had very cute things lol I'd just sit there and look at them but not on personal things like cell phone or wallet,
and i open my boyfriends wallet or read his messages because i just like his things and i do that in front of him i just enjoy touching what he touches everyday

No never....I don't feel the need to snoop and i would be extremely ticked off if i found out that my husband did it to me.

no way, I totally trust my boyf, and anyway, it doesn't seem like he has anything to hide! =)

Hell yeah. All the time. Everyone has their own opinions about this, but considering I don't trust ANYONE (quite frankly this day and age I don't know how anyone can 100% trust anyone) it's natural that I do it and I don't feel bad about it at all. There's A LOT you learn and it keeps you one step ahead. I do with no regrets.

Never. I respect privacy, mine and his, too much.
Plus, I have a mouth and can ask questions if there are issues.

Also, there is a really fine line between snooping and stalking. I find most of the women I know that snoop have done borderline illegal things, like hacking (even using passwords without express premission) into myspace accounts, voice mail, email, or open/go through mail (CC statements). Weird thing is, most of these people aren't even married,its like in 1mo to year long relationships. haha. Idk, that sort of insecurity is just not attractive in a mate and I can't imagine if the snoopee knew he'd want to stay with someone not only incapable of being direct, but who doesn't respect them at all. Like Pop said, why not just leave if you lose the ability to trust? 'Cause then you'd be single?

After my ex's email was overloaded with spam he asked me to create a new email address for him and to change the password on his old one (it was his ex-wifes name- it was obviously time to change it) so I knew the passwords on his email. Later when thigns were bad, he wasnt coming home, he was supposed to have stopped drinking and I suspected he hadnt, I checked his emails- and there were memberships to dating websites that he had created while I was home for Christmas- he had even tried to post our home phone number on his profiles! (which no website allows and he didnt even get the number right anyway) I was devastated and we didnt last much longer after that.

Im married now and I dont snoop- I dont need to, I trust him, I can tell him anything- if an old bf finds me on myspace or facebook I can tell him and hes ok with it- he knows Im right where I want to be.

Yeah I have to confess.....I snooped big time....and it wasn't worth it.

No, no snooping. I grew up in a big family and that was one of the mortal sins. It was really ingrained in us to respect each other's privacy.

What did you find, pinup?

I am nosey by nature but would never snoop without permission, so I guess it's not snooping. I have used the bf's phone to make a phone call and asked to look at his text messages or when I put his clothes away I get a peak of something in his drawer.

I don't investigate much because things fall into my lap really. I don't have to go looking for it... trouble comes to me!

I have and he knows it. He chuckles (my husband) and he does the same but just with my cell phone or unless he never admitted to going through my purse.

Hell YES. Sometimes when you think a person is being so faithful and that there is never a need to do it - you might be amazed with the things you find. I have trust issues...oh well.

i read his text messages coz im bored and he's in greater contact with friends and family than i am!

i guess its natural

I've done plenty of snooping in my day. And with good reason. However, I trust my current BF completely so I have no reason to snoop.

I don't know if it's called snooping, but I go through his phone INFRONT of him, when he's near me. So he knows. Sometimes I feel guilty because he never does that to me.

I'm married and snoop ocassionaly. I don't think there is any thing wrong with that. He can feel free to snoop through my stuff as well. If you have a good relationship there should be nothing to hide.

Ill confess I have... but only since I had a motive to. Turned out he was cheating on me like I expected, but in the long run, snooping usually turns out worse than it does beneficial... we're girls... we overanalyze EVERYTHING. and of course things seem so much worse when we dont know the story behind them. sooo.. dont snoop