I like a man who's not afraid to use the occasional expletive (at appropriate times, of course), but I think it's a major turn off if he's constantly dropping the F-bomb.
I once met a guy at a bar that I found attractive, but when we went on our first date, he was cursing left and right. I think he thought it was cool or proved his manliness, but truthfully it made him seem unintelligent and left me feeling totally uncomfortable. I mean, come on, there are many more ways to describe a movie then to constantly say "That was f***ng awesome."
I've asked you about swearing at work, but now I want to know what you think about guys you date that curse. Do they seem more attractive to you? Less attractive to you? Does a cursing guy even bother you at all or are you indifferent?
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I like random swearing. Take someone like John Krasinski
I love when I hear him swear
cause I think its funny and cute
I dont need someone who is constantly swearing but I need someone who isn't turned off by mine
1i hate it when guys say the F word any other swear word i dont mind but i hate it when they say that F word thats a totally turn OFF for me!
2I think any guy who's too quick to swear is either very inconsiderate or just not trying that hard to impress you. Some people are fine with swearing, and others are really bothered by it, so I think anybody, man or woman, who curses in front of somebody they don't know very well, is just being kind of rude, because they're not thinking about how their actions might impact others, and I think rudeness is a turn-off. Once I know people better, I'm more comfortable with swearing. I still don't really like it when it's every other word out of someone's mouth, but as long as the swearing isn't overly graphic or deliberately malicious, I don't mind it so much.
3I'm not bothered by it, but if it seems show-offy or excessive, I'm not likely to continue pursuing the person. I'd probably let things taper off to being just a friendship. I curse liberally, but not where it isnt needed.
4I swear occasionally, so I am okay with it... but more than the occasional utterence is a HUGE turn off. The guy seems less intelligent if he can't find better words to express himself.
5I used to swear an awful lot. My current boyfriend hates it, so I had to cut it off completely. I think it's so lovely that he doesn't curse. I know when he does curse something is really bothering him. I dunno. It's cute. =]
6Cursing doesn't bother me, probably cuz I curse like a sailor, and use the F word in place of "um". As long as you are not cursing at old ladies and babies, who cares, it's just a word.
7Dear: you wrote 'then' instead of 'than'. Sorry for being a grammar nazi but you know...
8i do it all the time.
9I used to never use curse words. I just didn't grow up hearing them, so they weren't a part of my speech. But then I met my husband, and he cursed all the time! At first, it was a turn off. But then, I realized it was just the way he talked. All of the men in his family swear constantly, so I couldn't judge him for something he picked up. He knows he's got to tone it down before we have kids, though.
10I really don't care one way or the other
11Turn off if it's done excessively. He doesn't even have enough respect not to do it on a first date! I'd be like buh bye.
12I agree with you BrandyNicole. They are all just WORDS> Who decided that they were bad in the first place?
13As long as it's not every other word, swearing doesn't bother me much at all. My husband hardly ever swears...I'm the potty-mouth in the relationship. Haha
14Swearing every once in a while is fine, but all the time and you just seem like you are trying to hard to show off, you are not comfortable being yourself, and you and not very educated because you have no other vocabulary to describe the situation. So its ok if it is in a sophisticated way, if that makes any sense, lol lol!
15It's definitely a turn off if they do it all the time.
16Constant swearing or swearing 'just because' for no real reason is a turn off for me. I'll let one slip when I'm upset, but using swears in a normal conversation makes me think the person has little social skills, or isn't very educated, or a combination of the two. In a group discussion, I had a guy turn on myself and the other guy who was siding with me and say, "Up yours" while giving us the finger.
17I totally agree with random. I will occassionally swear, however I hate it when people (not just guys) do it all the time and for no ascertainable reason. I mean each to their own... but my guy knows I hate swearing and so rarely does it.
18It can definitely become a turn off. I mean would you do it upon meeting someone? I wouldn't.
19It's a huge turnoff. I'd relegate him to friendship status, and even then, he'd be walking a fine line on it.
20My hubby and I both swear, not while working or around the family, but every other time, it seems...we're intelligent, good-background types, and we make fun of ourselves all the time, like when we start sentences with "F*ck!..." Just words as far as I'm concerned, and we're not around anyone else. Some people say it's about power, some say it intones ignorance. I say screw it! Freedom of speech!
GO RED SOX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(Although my husband's team is already wintering in the Bronx, lol)
21I guess it depends how hot they are to begin with!
22My boyfriend does swear a lot, but when we are in a public place where he shouldn't or with my family he doesn't and I guess that's all that matters...
23So swear away hahaha
A curse word now and then is ok. I don't think it should be used all of the time.
24Less attractive in a major way.
25Def not attractive. I agree that it makes a person seem less intelligent. It also seems disrespectful, but I guess I'm old fashioned. I curse occassionally, but I save it for occassions when it is warranted.
26I swear like a sailor myself, so I can't say I mind it in other people. I suppose it depends on the choice of swear word and the way it's delivered- if it does seem like the person is trying to seem hard and manly by swearing I suppose it would be annoying.
27My boyfriend never swears, its so odd. Ha.
I don't mind others who swear, I do-just not a lot of the f word over and over and over...
28I curse alot...I can't help it so I can't fault anyone else...
29I tend to curse a little more than I'd like to. However, when you're cursing left and right, that can be a complete turn off. Cursing every now and then is okay.
30I don't mind cursing at all unless it's overly gratuitous. I'll throw down the F bomb myself if I slam my hand in the door or if I overdraw my bank account, etc.
If overused, cursing just sounds like you're either trying to show off or you're just too unintelligent/unoriginal.
31I hate when people curse TOO much. "How the *uck are you?" - not cool!
I think it shows how uneducated the person really is, their vocabulary isn’t that deepand its really annoying! My Fiancé was like that when we first started talking but I had him cut that out immediately!
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