Perfect response! Always always talk, and he's not the kind of guy you can talk to, then he's not the guy for you.

interesting....try it again and when (if) he stops you ask why....maybe he finishes TOO fast that way and he'd be embarassed...scared is an interesting word to use in that situation...

Well I dont think its anything to be freaked out about. He might be extra sensitive "down there" or like Dear said he might have some insecurities. I agree with everyone else about keeping the lines of communication open. Keep us posted!

I was scared to let my boyfriend give me oral sex. I was afraid that I'd smell or taste bad. And that I wouldn't have an orgasm and he'd feel bad. Rest assure him that he is not offending you in anyway, and that you just want to make him feel good. I eventually got over my fear, and my boyfriend tells me that I smell and taste great, and I reach orgasm no problem.

Key: Communicate. I swear, people will have ZERO relationship problems if they can just communicate on every single issue. Never slam a door and leave the room. Always sit and talk. Kiss and make up. Resolve

That's the advice I would have given!

whatever you do, don't pressure him or try to make him do it just because you want to.

in addition, tokenguy, way to be a total sleazebag.

Excellent advice indeed. I got married to a 40 yo bachelor, and he doesn't get the thrill I'd expect a man to out of oral sex. Both because he worries its "messy", and he doesn't think he deserves the attention and affection after 40 years of avoiding it.
It is important to be able to speak to your partner about these things, and if you want to be able to go through life being able to reciprocate oral sex, I'd suggest finding a counselor who specializes in sexual health counseling. We have been going to one for several months now and its nice to see my partner gradually (though slowly)realize its alright to enjoy pleasure and not just be the provider.

I'm collecting donations towards the "sense of humor for sogracefully" appeal. All jokes appreciated.

Uh, gross. If you're the token guy, not okay to proposition adviceseekers... blech.

to the adviceseeker: yes, communicate. maybe he's had a bad experience in the past. just ask him!

Damn! Send him over to me then.

Try waking him up with oral. Sounds crazy I know, but if the problem is his inhibitions, guys have less worries when they first wake up. My man was nervous with me in the beginning, and he couldn't get completely hard. It was fixed when we had morning sex, because he wasn't even thinking about nerves. Good luck!

I wouldn't spring it on him if he's scared of it. That might not end well. It's somewhat telling that he'd say he's "scared" and not that he's just not into it. I think it's a good thing he's comfortable enough to be that truthful with you instead of giving you some macho BS. The "bad experience" thing is probably what it is. I bet someone bit him before. Or maybe he read that horror story about someone biting off a man's penis (it wasn't on purpose, it was some kind of involuntary reaction, from what I remember... can't remember where I read it, though). I know that'd freak me out if I were a guy.

Everybody has their phobias or things they would rather not do. Must everyone like oral sex? As long as you can still get your kicks together in other ways, and it feels great, and it's a great relationship... it sounds like you're doing really well, anyway. Don't let yourself focus on one minor thing you can't do.

well, i dont like my boyfriend giving me oral sex either. I think its a small blessing that yours doesn't. Just go with the flow

He'll give but doesn't want to recieve?
Whats the problem?!

Some people might jsut not like getting it. i don't...and trust me, my boyfirend is fine with that!

lucky you!

I wouldn't say thats such a bad thing, and I agree that it sounds like he had a bad experience before or just worries about something happening from stories he has heard.

Also, I just have to say, tokenguy, go away, we are not here for people like you, go find some other website for things like that. Even if it was a joke, we are not here for that either, people who write things here are actually worried and want real advice, not some jerk making jokes.

LOL Lighten up people!

Eternity, her problem is that he doesn't want HER to perform oral sex on HIM.

I agree with mostly everyone else - communicate!

I wouldn't push the issue. He already said he's not comfortable with it, and even though you may not understand his rationale, you have to accept it. (Think of it from the other perspective - how would you feel if he were pressuring you to something you were not comfortable with?)

You said that your sex life is great, so I would just focus on that.

LOL Jinx!!

LOL

Like sugar said, there could be a million reasons but I do understand your confusion about this, I have never run into a guy that didn't like it. I would find out if he has ever received it....good luck! And oh yea, tell him how much you enjoy pleasing him, maybe it will help him relax

maybe he is afraid he smells down there. or maybe, and i hate to say this, he has a dark past that you don't know about yet involving abuse. eek.

LOL Oh Jinx thats f*ckn funny hahahaha I almost pissed my pants lol He'll give but doesn't want to recieve hahah

hmm maybe hes had a bad experience hahaa gluck

i have NEVER heard of this phenomenon?

ive never heard of it either.. but my guess is a bad experience or something hes embarrassed about. talking and being open things may help solve the problem. if not, you could always go and try it again, but respect his wishes if he is against it.

Maybe he thinks he smells or is nervous about the size of his penis.

Hello everyone....I'm new here..this is my 1st post,
my cherry if you will..HaH Haa....

...ok..just off the wall here, maybe he was gay?..or is Bi.
(and hasn't told her)
And feels guilty about..well... her having Him in her mouth....
when He's maybe been in a guy's...ummm...nether regions..
and her Not knowing about it..?

{With All due respect to all sexual beliefs or practices}

Perhaps he had an unwelcoming experience. I was once with a guy who didn't enjoy receiving oral because he once had a girl bite him. This situation could be along those lines. Just let your man know that you you want to be able to please him just as he pleases you. Talk it out, maybe his insecurities will reveal themselves.

Perhaps he had an unwelcoming experience. I was once with a guy who didn't enjoy receiving oral because he once had a girl bite him. This situation could be along those lines. Just let your man know that you you want to be able to please him just as he pleases you. Talk it out, maybe his insecurities will reveal themselves.

communication is key!

I'd say count your blessings! That's all my husband wants (not ALL, but a lot of the time) and it gets so old so fast. But I guess if you WANT to do that for him, then I agree with what everyone else said...TALK to him. I'm sure once you tell him you want to please him, he'd be more apt to let you go down there. Good luck!

Random question for the ladies:
Does your boyfriend/husband/friend with benifits ask for oral sex OFTEN? If so, does it annoy you and does it get old doing it all the time? Or is it just me? lol...thanks!

I'm all about the giving and getting. He is super generous, so I try to be as well.

In response to LadyP, no, it never gets old. I love it. He is always willing to give it to me. I think it's flattering that my technique and attention is good enough that he wants it more. Plus, I feel that giving oral to a woman is an essential part of foreplay, so how I can refuse him the same?

Thank you for your response amorinthe

LadyP My fiance loves when I do it for him and it's a big turn on for me too. SO no it doesn't get old but I can understand why some women wouldn't want to do it especially when it feel forced

Not trying to be rude, but here's a possibility... maybe your technique is a little off and he felt some teeth. That would scare any guy into putting back in his pants.

I know this might blow everyone's mind, but maybe he just doesn't like it. Not everyone is wired the same. There are women who don't like oral sex. About 30% of women orgasm only from penetration and most of them don't like oral sex.

It's typical sexism. A woman can not like oral sex and you don't find webpages about it. A guy refuses something and there's something wrong with him.

The person who made this thread said the lovemaking is off the hook and she loves every minute of her relationship. In other words, everything is amazingly perfect and she has to complain about this?