i would say if you have a serious future with this man-then these things will happen. if he had to go well then he had to go. if this is all you have to worry about then-consider yourself lucky

Really? You think you might not forgive him of this? What would you rather him do, poop his pants?

If you had two bathrooms and he picked the one you were in I can understand that it would be really strange, but assuming you only have one potty, and if he really needed to go, what else was he supposed to do?? He probably didn't think there was a problem since you let him pee while you are in the shower.

seriously, if you are going to end up marrying someone, you just have to get used to that. besides, you didn't say how long your showers are. maybe he knows your a complete bathroom hog and take 1/2 hour or more to finish what you need to do. boys can't hold things, esp bathroom things.

Ew, but if you don't have two bathrooms, that's understandable.

Ew, but if you don't have two bathrooms, that's understandable.

You have an "amazing guy" and a "great open relationship" that you are seriously considering throwing away because nature called the poor guy? If you can't handle that he's an actual person with bodily functions, don't spend so much time at each other's apartments. Or maybe just grow up a little...?

Again, I'm totally confused about what we're forgiving here. We're forgiving the guy for gasp! using the bathroom? Or we're forgiving her for freaking out?

People kill me with this! Sorry to be crass, but get some perspective: this guy can put his face in your "place", but you can't smell his poop-stink? Are you kidding me!?!

I agree with the writer! I don't like my boyfriend to leave the bathroom door open when he pees. Don't like to talk about any bodily functions! The way I fixed him was if he did it then I did too! Once you poop in front of him and tell him "Oh you did in front of me," he will be grossed out as well. Now we have an agreement -- the bathroom is off limits as fars doing no. 1 or 2.

I completely agree with Angelbaby2.

Plus, seeing as to how this is the first time it's happened in the eight months together...it's not something he would choose to do just to do it. He had to go...plus he was comfortable enough to "have to" do it in your presence. He did say sorry, I say forgive!!!

i can understand where you're coming from. i lived with a guy for 8 months last year and toward the end we had gotten "too comfortable" with each other. For me it's hard to stay sexually attracted to someone when you've seen/heard about/ and smelled every conceivable bodily function they have to offer.

my advice? let this one go. but make sure to tell him it turns you off (trust me he'll listen)! and if he senses he has to go, have the courtesy to mention it before you jump in the shower, etc.

honestly i don't know how couples that constantly fart around each other, etc, stay hot for one another. there's a reason we don't do it at the beginning...it's unsexy!

I'm with cgmaetc.

Everyone does it.. grow up. Your going to have kids one day and wipe their butts till theyre 5.. will you love them less?

I agree with jennifer76

You're really making this out to be a huge dramatic event in your life and overplaying it way too much. Get over it, it's some poop. Whoop dee do.

I am totally with cgmaetc.

Lighten up a little...just tell him you'd prefer that he not do that again and move on. He couldn't have asked you about it first because you were in the shower! If you explain it's not cool with you I bet he won't do it again. Emergency situations need to be allowed though! Holding it in for too long can cause problems with your inner workings.

cgmaetc, you are wise as always.

lighten up. if you plan on taking your relationship to the next level, ever, you will have to get comfortable with the fact that boys poop, and its a natural act. Try to look at the bright side...he felt comfortable enough with you to do that. You will also have to prepare yourself for when you guys enter the farting stage. It will come, and you will need to learn to ignore it or laugh.

I'm still laughing wildly about this. Since you're not cool with it(and you don't have to), tell him that it shouldn't happen again.

What everyone else said. It's gross but is it really worth dumping a great guy for? (Pun intended)

Seriously though, get over it. Just think of it as yay, he's that comfortable with me.

Whaaaaaaat??? SERIOUSLY??? Ok, I get it...it was super stinky...and in your world... a violation of privacy...but...did he know that??? and besides...if you can't hold it...you can't!

You have issues if all you can think of is a mental picture of him and his poop.

cgmaetc....VERY GOOD POINT! lol

hahha my boyfriend is soo private about going to the bathroom. but if he ever did that id be grossed out but laugh

when you got to go you got to go... it's not a big deal. if you plain on being with him for awhile your gonna have to get use to that kind of stuff.

You know, I bet he wasn't all that happy about having to do that in front of you either - I'm sure he didn't think, "Well, I don't really have to go, but I just want to bring our relationship to that level of comfort!" and then do it. It's not really something you have the right to forgive - like everyone else says, just let him know that's not something you're comfortable with, and remember you're both human! sh*t happens!

Let it go.

I'd be grossed out if my BF did that but I would never consider breaking up with him over it. I'd just rib him about it and let him know I wanted some warning next time and that it wasn't something I wanted to do in front of each other under ideal circumstances.

BTW, we are in general a young group of commenters, but I would bet that couples who are good bit older than us would really laugh at this. Honestly, true love means wiping your partners ass if he gets too sick to do it himself.

So if you can't even handle the smell and are so disgusted that you can no longer have sex, you might want to consider whether this is a guy you truly could see yourself with forever.

We all have bodily functions... and if you're going to live and love someone long-term, we all know these things will happen. There are a million little things that will slip out and happen. I say it's no big deal. Forgive.

If the relationship was going well before this why change things? Talk to him and let him know how you feel. This is not that serious and I am pretty sure that if nature came calling and the shoe waa on the other foot you would have to do the same. So go on take a shower together and forget the "little incident".

I'm with cgmaetc!

its definitely a forgivable offense, and you'll probably laugh about it soon enough and it will be a good joke. why worry? maybe just ask him for a little more warning if it ever has to happen again.

LOL...I just can't believe...

8 months down the drain...

I know, I know...bad joke...

I think your reaction is disrespectful. He's your husband, you love him. He had to go and he went. Think of how he feels. Women often forget that men having feelings too. You could have said, "Ew gross!" Which I'm sure you did. And I would do too. But to take it as far as writing about it on a website, as to whether or not you'll forgive him? Get over it. Accept it, and move on. Tell him next time he needs to go that you'll hop out for a second so it doesn't happen again. But don't make him feel guilty and embarassed. It's people like you that give the rest of us #2 phobia. Have you read that thread? You obviously have it in a different way. I don't mean to be harsh, I am just thinking of how my boyfriend would feel if I reacted the way you have.

I'm all about Lizzle's comment. Emergencies happen...

I think you are making a mountain out of a little mole hill. When you love someone those things do not matter. You need to get over the prissy thing. The poor man had to go and be glad he felt comfortable enough to do it in front of you. Shoot when you get married you will go and sit and have a conversation with him and won't think twice about it. Maybe it's your age. Maybe need a little growing up. Doesn't matter I understand you are entitled to your feelings and we should not make you feel bad but you should not make him feel bad either. Get over it. It's not worth focusing on I promise you.

Ps. Have him flush as he goes and then the smell won't be bad oor keep matches and air spray in there. Wait till you smell the crap that a baby can poo. I suggest you not have kids any time soon.

Natural bodily function I take it you dont want a future with this man?

Well it looks like I'm against the crowd on this one, but that's disgusting and extremely rude. How hard would it have been for him to 1. at least warn you (which wouldn't be enough but better than what he did); or 2. tell you that he really really needed to go and give you a few seconds to hop out of the shower. I don't care if I was in the middle of washing my hair and covered with soap. If it came down to that or hopping out soap-filled, I'd MUCH rather grab a towel, hop out, then rinse myself off afterwards. That's extremely intrusive and not at all forgivable. I understand that he might have to go, but surprising you the way he did was unforgivable.

Sweetheart, you are just going to have to forgive and move on. its a natural and normal function - we all do it. wish that was all I had to worry about.

remedios...I'm sure then she would have complained about the smell afterwards and how disgusting it was to take a shower with it lingering in the air....

I'm sure is all about the mental picture...that! is harder to deal with especially if you find that going #2 is disgusting if not in private. there's no win.

I agree with Emily. You've been with this guy for eight months, and your willing to make an issue over the bathroom. Are you serious? How old are you? I can understand you asking him not to do that while your in the bathroom, but your looking at him differently now? Come on, do you really think that your boyfriend hasn't smelled some not so nice smells from you?

i'm confused are we forgiving for not asking you if he could relieve himself?

As an adult you should be able to talk about bodily functions comfortably with people you're close too, especially with someone you've been with for 3/4 of a year! And i think its unfair to be "grossed" out by him being a human being and leaving somethings stinky in the bathroom! You probably smell just as bad if not worse , so get over it!

Put on your big girl panties and get over it. I think that maybe your boyfriend should consider dumping your uptight,immature butt.

Just tell him not to do it in front of you again, and he will get the message, and try to forget it, you have a real nice relationship to throw it away for something so stupid

seriously, i agree with many of the other comments above. my ex and i used to do that in front of each other, if we HAD to, and it's really not as traumatic as you're making it out to be. you have SEX with this man. how more personal can you be?? i think you need to get over it.

Dont act like your Sh@# don't stink.

I can understand if you're grossed out but it would be kind of silly to throw away a relationship because of a little poop.

my boyfriend says that he definitely should have given a fair warning either way. i think its quite funny and i know for a FACT if it came down to it my bf would do the same and we'd have a "grossss!" laugh-about-it kind of moment, and that'd be that. i take horrendously long showers and he knows that, so he said if he could hold it he'd warn me to get out but if he couldn't- "i'd be sh*t out of luck" i mean what if you had an emergency and he did this to YOU? like consider breaking up with you over it? thats so immature and really i think you're just picking at this point. sh*t happens. literally. move past it honey.

My boyfriend got really sick the other night and crapped his pants (stomach virus) it happens. I understand where your coming from because number 2 is disgusting but you gotta forgive the guy, just let him know it's not your cup of tea.

Forgive! He probably just ate something that gave him the runs, big deal, it happens to all of us. If you guys are planning on getting more serious, you'll need to accept these kinds of things!