Yeah this happened to me once. We ended up living in the same city and we dated a year and a half.

I was so head over heels I ignored all the red flags that told me he might not be right for me. So just try to gauge how good of a person he is before making any big plunges.

I think it could turn into something more....just make sure you are not going to turn into another booty call. If he is really interested you both need to put some time into creating a relationship.

Good Luck!

Life is short try to make it work he sounds interested.

yea i agree life is too short..but just be careful

Yes, my one night stands has truned into a wonderful four year relationship. Mine wasn't long distance, but you should definitely go for it.

Wow. Terrible tyoing in that post. I meant to say, "my one night stand has turned..."

I say go for it! Maybe it won't work out, maybe it will. You'll never know if you don't try.

I say go for it. Don't count it out until you have evidence it won't work. He sounds like a nice guy, you never know if taking a chance will be the best thing that ever happened to you!

It's unlikely to happen to me. Not because I'm a "lady" or anything like that. It's just... how do you know this person you just met don't have sexually transmitted diseases? Sure, condoms can make it safer, but it's not 100%.

Anyway, assuming you have seen a gyne and confirmed that you have not contracted STDs (not judging, I just think it's a good idea to have a little check up. Because, just in case something is wrong, it's better to get treatment early)... Sure, visit the guy, have some fun, get to know each other better. Just have a backup plan in case he ditches you or turn out to be not such a swell guy. Let friends and/or family know your whereabouts, keep in contact with someone in front of him so he knows someone knows where you are and who you're with. Carry something for self-defense, like pepper spray.

Just because a guy seemed nice on first impression doesn't mean he is. And just because he didn't give you STDs the first time doesn't mean he never will. (I'm not saying he's for sure some kind of Ted Bundy type, but it doesn't hurt to be cautious and prepared.)

Yeah, life is short and risks should be taken. As risks go, this one doesn't seem too bad. At the same time, have some sense of safety precautions. People don't jump out of a planes without parachutes (and backup parachutes).

You and everyone probably know this stuff already, but it bears repeating.

One more of my worrywort reminders: use more than one form of birth control to lower the risk of unwanted pregnancy.

My boyfriend and I started as a one night thing and we have been together for a year and a half now. But we also live in the same city (I live in TX too). I think the major problem will be that ya'll are so far apart. Relationships are hard enough but the long distance thing might take its toll. I don't think one night stands are so bad, as long as your safe about it. Good luck to you!

make him come visit YOU!

First off if yall do visit, HE COMES TO YOU.

Why make something that was so impersonal at first, turn into something personal? Ask yourself a few questions. Are you willing to relocate to NYC possibly? I know its too early to say yes, but if this goes further you may be asking yourself that question. OR, are you willing to let him move to TX for you, him not knowing anybody and leaving everything he knows.
Ultimately, the choice it yours.

Also, shout out to another Texan!

Yeah, I'm with those who says have him visit you before you go and visit him. Safer that way. Home court advantage. Hee.

Since he was at a wedding you also attended, you must know some people who know him? Try to get some info out of them. I'm not saying do a full-on background check. It's just nice to use whatever resources you have at your disposal. It might just help to know what people who have known him for longer think of him, that's all.

GO FOR IT! you can't get it out of your mind because the attraction is THAT strong.. so much that you guys are willingly to go to such great lengths. I've been there with my boyfriend, we didnt have a one night stand but we did sleep together when we were just friends right before we left to go home from college last year and all of a sudden we were 4 hours apart. it couldnt keep us tho =)
however, assuming that someone you know knows him.. i don't want you to get kidnapped or anything !
sorry i watch too much tv. &new york would be a fun place to get to know each other-- theres endless things to do. but maybe it'd be better if he came to see you like the posters above me suggest? whatever you're most comfortable with. good luck!

Go for it girl!!!!

Yes, this can work. And I don't think there's anything wrong with you visiting hom. Why does he have to come to you? I understand if you want him to make the effort, but I'm so bored with girls sitting back and forcing guys to come to them. Be proactive and go! And who cares if you have no idea if you'd relocate to NYC/he'd relocate to TX? Get a hotel room instead of staying at his place, and if you never see him again, you got a great little vacay in New York! Have fun and be safe!

i say go for it! but don't go into it with too high of expectations about him being "the one"! but if there is an attraction enough to make you both consider flying halfway across the country to see each other, then you owe it to yourself to check it out! and as littlelady said- if you go to nyc get a hotel room and if it doesn't work out, then just enjoy your vaca! worst case is you drop a few hundred bucks and it turns into nothing but hey- at least you have a good story to tell! good luck and be safe!

I can't say that I have been in the same situation, but I think that if two people are attracted to each other and have more than just sex in common, you can make it work. See how it goes, see how much effort he makes, and good luck!!

Situations like this make me very wary. Whatever you decide just BE CAREFUL! And trust your instincts.
I agree with looseseal... try to get some info on him before you fly halfway across the country to be with someone who you don't really know. And let family and friends know your whereabouts.
If you do go... have fun!
Good Luck With Everything!

Thanks Babes! Seriously you all have helped me make my decision! And no worries... I promise to you all to be 100% as safe as possible!

Chances are, if he slept with you that quickly, he sleeps with a lot of girls. I really think guys tend to have a less romantic view of relationships, less emotional. So just ask him what he is looking for. Do you want to go all the way to Texas if it is just a booty call?

I think you should give it a try. You never know, it may work out well.

I think you should give it a shot, if not then you'll always wonder what if. I agree that he should come to you- give it a try- whats the worst that will happen?
Keep me posted on how it goes b/c pretty much the same exact situation is happening to me except our locations are Seattle and Philadelphia!

Like everyone else is saying, be careful! But explore it more. The long distance thing is really hard and in my experience doesn't work all that well.

Of course it can!!! This happened exactly to me...I live in BC, and i met him through a friend. He lived in Alberta, and was out visiting for a week. We met, instantly had a connection, and before we knew it, we were a couple before he left to go back to Alberta! It was a wonderful year relationship, just go with the flow.

i disgaree with the "if he sleeps with you that readily, chances are he sleeps with a lot of girls," as applied to both sexes. neither my current bf or i had every had a one-night stand...before we met each other. we're now at almost two years and living together with a dog.
i say go for it! you never know, and it sounds like he is a good guy. good luck!

Its never happened to me but he seems like a good interesting guy I say go for it you never know what it could turn into!

I'm with the others. A friend of mine is married to her one night stand. They were both really drunk, and in the morning she couldn't even remember his name. He's from another country and had been here a while and was supposed to go back in a couple days but some mix up happened and he had to wait 2 weeks (I don't remember details now) but had already given up his place so ended up staying with her during that time. He went back home, then later returned and they've been together ever since.

Thanks SOSOSOSOSOOOOOO much! really! you guys have seriously supported this whole situation and i really appreciate it! hah and as far as the "if he slept with you that quickly, he sleeps with a lot of girls" theory... i dont know about that one. I'm not the type to have a one night stand nor do i make my rounds if you know what i mean but i was just drawn to him. he really is the sweetest.

Thanks babes!

Go for it, just make sure someone from home knows where you are going, be safe, and have an amazing time with this guy!

Go for it, just make sure someone from home knows where you are going, be safe, and have an amazing time with this guy!

I think you should visit see where things go, so you wont be wondering what if I would of took this more seriously. Go for it!!

I dated a one night stand for two months. I was on a business trip and we started dating because I was traveling to his town a lot. Didn't work out because we are both workaholics. I say you should completely go for it. You'll always wonder if you don't.