It's a sad fact that it can take a woman much longer to climax during sex than it can for a man. If we're not that into it from the start, 30 minutes can go by and we're not even close to orgasm. The guy can try every trick he's got to get you excited, but sometimes, it's just not gonna happen.
At this point you have a few choices:
- You can try some more and hope for the best.
- You can throw in the towel and tell your man to just go for it (there's always next time).
- You can let your man finish and then go to the bathroom and take care of it yourself (if you think that may be possible).
- Or you can FAKE IT (like Meg Ryan did in the diner in When Harry Met Sally, and make your guy think it was the best sex you've ever had!
Personally, I would have a hard time faking it, not because I think it's wrong, but because I really don't think I could pull it off - knowing me I'd end up laughing in the middle, plus, I wouldn't want to start a trend in the bedroom where I end up having to fake it all the time with my partner never really knowing how to turn me on. So what I want to know is...









Tripp
Diane von Furstenberg
Pedro Garcia
LOL! This is the first ever Sugar poll where it's been 100% for one answer! Amazing.
1Honestly, my boyfriend that I have right now is the onyl one who can make me orgasm from just sex! It's amazing! So all the ones before...I pretty much faked haha!!!
2Oops, the results have changed rather quickly
3Yes, once, this guy I briefly dated in college. He said he wouldn't stop until I reached... I was getting sick of it so I faked it
4sometimes a girl is just tired and "brings it home" when she's done.
5Its not a bad thing to fake it, really. It doesnt mean you arent enjoying yourself, it doesnt mean your man cant please you, it just usually means, for me anyway, that i am too worked up and too sensitive to blow my top.
6Who hasn't?
But not very often, fortunately.
7I haven't, I couldn't bring myself to. It's rare but if it's just not happening, I'll say it feels great but I want you to focus on you now.
8a guy who pays attention (omg i love my boyfriend) can tell you're faking, if he's felt what it's like when you do actually have one. but the moral of the story should be: DON'T FAKE IT OR HE WON'T LEARN HOW TO MAKE IT HAPPEN FOR REAL!!!!! faking it is just encouraging a partner to do the things that didn't do it for you in the first place, and encouraging yourself to take some easy way out that's not really benefiting either of you. especially if you're in a relationship, dishonesty isn't going to get you closer to what you truly want.
9Yes I have faked it, but not with hubby.
10Of course I have with my ex b/f I used to do it all the time. Now with my hunny everything its perfect and I don't ever have to fake it all
11From a man's perspective the faking seems like an odd thing to do, why fake it when you could actually work towards having an orgasm. If he can't make you cum you should be invested enough to communicate a way so you can.
12Honestly, I don't need to. I guess I'm lucky! I think that if you fake it then he's gonna assume he's doing a good job, even if he's not...and they can tell when you fake, at least a guy who cares can.
13seriously. i dated a guy for 2 years and was only able to reach that point 3 times. jeeeeeezz... he just wasnt doing it for me so after months and months of faking i finally had to kick him to the curb. sad i know... but how can i be with someone that just doesnt arrouse me?
14Sadly I have before in the past, it wasn't that good of a session and I just wanted to get it over with. Sad huh?
15Yeah I guess my point was - like why make a dude feel like he's doing it right by faking, it just reinforces behavior that's not working. I guess unless you are just lying there waiting for him to finish because you aren't into it, something I know some women do, but I've never understood why. either you are into it or not, and if you are you should be communicating and providing feedback to get that orgasm - you deserve it
16Yes, I have. I think a woman is lying if she says she's NEVER faked an orgasm.
17as a man who cares if his woman has an orgasm, I'd be hurt to find out that my lady didn't trust me enough to give me feedback and instead decided to fake it.
18OMGGGGGGGG i was so sick of being nagged the entire time having sex that i just faked it...it was so dumb
19I've only been with one guy and still with him and I have never faked it with him, Lets just say he gets me every time lol oh hell yeah he's da sh*t!
20haha yea sumtimes jus cuz i don'twant my bf to feel bad- boost his confidence, etc.
21I was dating this total self-centered *sshole who thought he was the greatest stud in bed. NOT! Whenever I used to give him pointers, he dismissed them because I was a virgin before him, so what did I know? One night, it just wasn't happening for me, so I faked it. But he wasn't done! So I waited a bit and faked it again. He's still going. About fake O number 5 I said, "Will you hurry up, already?!" And he said he was almost there...but 3 minutes passed and finally, I just got up and started to get dressed. He began to yell but I just grabbed my stuff and left and I didn't call him again. I was fed up: I'd been faking it for almost a year!
22If we were being really honest with ourselves the voting would be 100% yes of course. I personally believe that every woman has faked it, gone through the shopping list, made mental notes for our to do lists. It happens, and if it hasn't yet it will!!! Its nothing to be embarrassed about, sometimes you just aren't that in to it. Its normal, don't worry.
23I find the results of this poll rather disturbing, or at least sad, lol.
24hahahahaha come onnn everyone's faked it!! no but honestly, i've never done the meg ryan , screaming, and a leg twitch included kind of fake. i just find it so cheesy.
25Haha. I've never had to.
26My husband rocks.
Never. Not a lie. I think it's lame to fake.
27of course..everyone has faked it at one point or another
28Never! I am pretty out spoken and let them know if they just aren't doing the job right for me.
29Nope, honestly I never faked...if it didnt happen it didnt happen... he can finish and i can do it myself... i just dont think its right in my opinion to do that...i always wanted to try tho to see if he could tell....
30I have, yeah.
I didn't wanna hurt his ego. That was just
one time though.
31Lol @ the results!! Everyone's done it!!
32But just once
I agree with ashcwebb. My current boyfriend is really the only guy I've been with who has given me a truely great orgasm. I think it definitely intensifies things when you really care about the person you're with, as opposed to just trying to get laid.
33Yes
34heh I never had to, I have multiple orgasms during sex and oh god am I pleased after, if I was stressed or upset before I would be the happiest girl youd see after
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