I would only say it was wrong if it was making your husband uncomfortable. If he's okay with it, and you aren't putting yourself into unsafe situations, then I say go for it.

Who knows, maybe he loves seeing other guys ogle you, knowing your his and only his?

I dunno, I think it's wrong no matter what (except when you're single obviously). We might think about other guys from time to time but actually putting that interest into action seems wrong to me. I know I'd hate to see him flirting, whether he was joking or not. So I don't do it.

The problem for most people (and myself sometimes) is finding the fine line between friendly and flirty, not to mention people have different standards on that one so it's easy to be misunderstood.

Once again, I agree with popgoestheworld. It sounds like your husband is fine with it, so there you go. There are as many ways to have relationships as there are people in them. There aren't any strict rules. Whatever works for the two people in the relationship is what matters.

I see nothing wrong if it is harmless flirting and your husband doesn't mind. I will forever be a flirt so you are lucky to have found someone who understands it.

I completely agree with most of the statements here. You and your husband alone determine what is right and wrong in your relationship. Your husband is a secure man and that's wonderful.

A little harmless flirting is fine, as long as your husband is fine with it, and you're ok with the idea he may take it as a sign that he can do it too. I'm in a serious relationship, and I flirt with guys from time to time. It's fun, and it makes me feel attractive.

i don't see much problem here- you obviously aren't trying to hide anything form your husband and he obviously doesn't seem to mind! a little flirting and dancing (as long as its not very dirty dancing lol) never hurt anyone. you feel like you've still got it, and your husband gets to be reminded how hot his wife is. that can't be a bad thing! i'd say as long as you are hiding nothing from him and he's ok with it then go ahead! you might just want to remind him from time to time that you enjoy flirting and dancing with him the most!!

I think it really depends on your husband. Next time you get in a flirty situation, ask yourself "Would I want my husband to see this?" If the answer is no, then you shouldn't be doing it. If you think it won't hurt him, then it might be okay.

But to be on the safe side, I'd say you shouldn't do it. It seems disrespectful.

This is just one womans opinion, I do think there must be something missing in your life if you feel the need to flirt.
Why do you think you need the approval of other men? I am sure there are other ways you can go about making yourself feel desirable other than flirting, right?
We all like to reminisce about our younger days, but we don't feel the need to act as though we are in our twenties.
Flirting with anyone other than your husband should have stopped the day you became committed to him.
Also, I noticed you felt the need to say that your husband waved and smiled at you as though nothing was wrong, do you think its because he is secure in your relationship, or because he is simply accepting this about you?
Have you ever asked him how he feels about it? Instead of asking strangers why not ask him how he feels?
I am speaking from experience, innocent flirting can lead to other things, even if you are married to the love of your life.
And if he truly is the love of your life, why would you want to flirt?
Be happy and fulfilled with what you have, take a good look around you and be grateful that you are married to one you love so much, and show him the respect he deserves, it is all about respect. Peace and Love

I don't think anything is wrong with a little harmless flirting! As long as you look and don't touch, it's nice to know you've still got 'it'!

If you're not planning to stray and your husband is okay with it, is it really flirting? It sounds more like you're just being sociable and fun. Just keep a pulse on how your husband feels and don't cross certain lines.

If your just talking to them it's one thing, if your leading them on then there is something wrong with that. Why flirt and make these losers feel good. What a joke. They are probably looking at you like your some kind of floosy, flirting with them and being married. And it's disgracing your husband sitting there like a fool watching. How sad. If your husband was flirting while you were sitting there, wouldn't you feel like it's a put down? Or would you wave and smile, I don't think so.

I definitely agree with the last part of what DarkRayne said. If the shoe was on the other foot, would it have been fine with you?

haha i'm just kind of wondering, your grinding on some dude and your husband just waves and smiles? i think he's a little consufed..

I do not think that there's anything wrong with that!!!!!! I have a good friend "C" who is married and likes to go out and drink and dance and yes, flirt on Fridays - She loves her husband and I have never known her to stray, but she works hard all week and wants to let off a little steam at the end of a long work week. Also, she makes a great wing man, because while she may not be looking for herself, she does a great job of meeting guys and passing them on to her friends. And thank God for her, because the out of all my single and married friends she is by far the most fun. My single friends make all about hooking-up and on the rare occasion my married friends go out - they constantly complain (about the loud music, the high priced drinks, the scamming guys, etc.) But, "C" never does any of that and just enjoys being out. . . I guess, there's something about having a great guy waiting for her at home that makes going out pure pleasure (I assume - since I'm still single).

physical flirting (like suggestive dancing) no not okay. limited flirting where there is zero chance of things going any farther (over the meat counter with the butcher, the guy getting coffee behind you in line) is okay. the trouble with physical flirting is that "just a little more" gets to "to much" so fast. i have to wonder why part of a couple would get off on watching their spouse flirt. does that make it okay for them to do the same when their partner isn't around? do they want to invite a 3rd party into the relationship (which then brings up their sexuality). if you feel uncomfortable with it, "guilty", there is a reason.

well see i'm not married but in a long realationship and if my boyfriend was flirting with other girls it would bother me. I think its wrong to flirt with others while you already have a lover. I don't flirt with other guys i'm very commited and trust worthly to my man because he is with me. So I would say it is wrong even more if he doesn't flirt with others. To me if your in a realationship and feel you have to flirt or like to then your not completely comfortable with who you are and who your with. But thats just me i'm not here to judge, I just think its wrong to flirt.

Nothing wrong with HARMLESS flirting! Joking around and such. But if flirting is including kissing, touching, actually coming on to someone else ... then it's a big no-no.

Flirting and socializing really are two differant things.

i think as long as its harmless and you have the trust part lockdown..then its okay..but if its physical or have anything emotional involved then it can be bad.

I feel if you question it...it is wrong!!!!!
PERIOD!!!!

If your husband doesn't care and if you're firm on your "I won't cheat on him no matter what" beliefs, then I don't see anything wrong with it, especially if it makes you happy.

I'm just wondering why you need to feel like you've 'still got it' when you have a wonderful husband who loves you. THAT should make you feel like you've 'still got it'.

I think it depends on who you are flirting with, if your husband is in on it and knows you are just goofing around, if you are not hurting any other guys feelings, do you keep your wedding ring on, telling the guys you are flirting with you are married, etc.

This is another "to each their own" situation. To some, this is wrong. To others, it isn't. It looks like in your case, it isn't wrong. It's harmless and completely detached flirting, and you do it right in front of your husband and he smiles and waves at you, so it seems like it's okay in your situation. It's obvious nothing's wrong here...so if it ain't broke, don't fix it!

I consider flirting wrong, especially if you are married. But it all depends on the person and your husband doesn't mind, but i think he minds if he wasnt there. My friend is totally flirting with this one guy and her husband has been depoloyed for four months and it just saddens me that she is like this and that is why she is no longer my friend. You just have to know the fine line. And why do you still feel like you need to flirt, don't you have a wonderful husband.

yup~ it depends on you two. If you like it and he has no problem with it, then yay for you! You guys got a good thing goin!

Now me, I'm the kinda girl that doesn't really like seeing my bf flirt with other girls cuz it makes me feel like he's leading them on (making them think he has some kind of interest in them) and that he is a bit ashamed to say he's not single. That just bugs me personally, cuz I tell guys who I'm not interested in that I have a bf, just so it's out there and they know to behave, and most of the time they're cool with it and still wanna hang around the party and chat and drink. No problems =)

eh, personal relationship preference. You guys seemed to have figured it out, just make sure you let your man know he's the one and only let those guys be jealous of him.

i kind of disagree with most...i don't think there really is anything called "harmless" flirting. i don't think it's really okay, but hey...i'm not you and i'm not in your relationship. i just know that if i saw my bf flirting i would NOT be pleased!

I wouldn't do it, because I wouldn't want him flirting with chicks.
And if I do it, how can I get mad if he does?

I agree with daddysdarling

I mean I've been with my guy for awhile now and I still don't need the 'approval' that I still got it just because my guy gives me all of that.

I don't believe in 'harmless flirting' ... I just find it to be disrespectful but then again ... it's only what I think.

I guess we need to figure out the difference between having fun and flirting. If a girl is having fun with a member of the opposite sex, is it automatically considered flirting?

popgoestheworld is exactly right.

No, in my book flirting is not ok. I don't like when it is done to me so I wouldn't do it to someone else.

How do you know your husband is really ok with it, just because he smiled? Can you say for sure that the smile wasn't hiding a frown?

Who knows, maybe he does it too?

Flirting can lead to cheating. All it takes is one drink too many and life will never be the same. You can go out and have fun but I don't see why you feel you need to know that you still have it. I know I have it every time my hubby & I make love. You can't fake that.

i hate to see my man flirting so i don't tend to do it. though i do it when i've had a drink or two. he does that as well. sometimes i feel a bit guilty after, like i didn't show respect to him. but i have to admit that flirting makes you feel good.