Conventional Wisdom is a different kind of advice column. Your questions will be answered by people from all walks of life rather than by advice experts. This week, a single dude tries to help out a woman looking for love. If you have a question you'd like answered on Conventional Wisdom, you can submit it here.
Today's Question:
I am a 29-year-old single woman who hasn't been in a relationship for the last four years. I don't mind being single, but I'm starting to think I will never be in a relationship again! I just don't know where to meet datable guys!
Signed,
Ready to Mingle
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Dear Ready to Mingle,
As I'm sure you know, single guys often hang out at bars. But, since you might be hesitant about people you meet randomly (and perhaps drunkenly) late at night, let's explore the less obvious options.
I would suggest joining some sort of club — if you take up an activity that's already interesting to you, you're guaranteed to have a good time and meeting eligible bachelors will just be an added bonus. One of my friends just joined a sailing club and she's had a lot of fun getting to know people. I also know people who have met through reading groups or adult sports teams. You could also explore groups you already belong to, for example, your college alumni association. If your alma matter holds social events in your hometown, it could be fun to attend one. Everyone there is somewhat vouched for since they likely went to your school, and you might already have some things in common. Plus, a lot of these events happen during the day, so you can actually talk and get to know the people there. I think that's key — meeting people at places conducive to conversation.
Finally, I would suggest letting your friends and family know you're interested in being set up. It may be frightening, but it's much more efficient than roaming around bars looking for a guy who is available and attractive. Let your friends and family do some of the work!
GUESS
meetup.com!
1I agree meetup is a great site to find groups...I joined a local 20s & 30s group and its been a blast
2I met my husband at my first science fiction convention. Yes, it was chockablok with utterly undatable men, but I also had my pick of everyone there. If the geekforce is strong with you, I'd recommend it.
3met my bf at my cousin's wedding.... she and her husband went to high school with him and very sneakily ensured we did everything together that weekend.... 2+ years later.....
4i met my BF at my exhibition opening. He was looking at the photographs and I was tipsy and love being in the centre of attention when it comes to my art, so I would just talk everybody up. he took my card and texted me the next day.
i'd say meeting at an exhibition is easy, as you can approach someone and just talk about the piece of art right in front of you, it's very casual and less scary i guess
5Coffee houses, home improvement stores, car dealerships, concerts, local events, electronic stores, church, restaurants during lunch hour, grocery stores, parks, local volunteer programs, gyms, art shows, and convenience stores. It's about putting yourself out there in public and being confident.
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