Of course we want it all. We want a kind, caring, thoughtful, intelligent, polite, affectionate, generous, responsible, good looking person in our life. Someone who is good with kids, has a good job, can fix things, and has a great relationship with their family. We want someone we can trust and someone who will support us and someone we can count on when we need help.
While all those characteristics sounds amazing, that's what I would call the big picture. We can search for a lifetime. We hope that "the one" will have all these characteristics and more, but we have to kiss many frogs first! So I want to know...
Karen Millen
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Good looks are the first thing you see, however shallow that may sound. But good looks aren't what keep me around, it's def personality, intelligence, humor & kindness. He's gotta have it all! Haha.
1Good looks are the first thing that attract me the most, but if you can't hold a decent conversation or you talk about yourself all the time, buh-bye. You also have to be able to make me laugh.
2Probably someone charming who is decent-looking and well-put-together but who has a mad sense of humor. Eventually they have to be smart, too, but a great sense of humor an d good manners get me every time.
3well, i'm not going to lie but I first see good looks...cuz well...it's just the first thing you see and what makes you interested LIKETHAT.
BUUUUUT the true test is the sense of humor. I like guys who can act like a complete dork just to make me smile or laugh. I also like guys who can stand me picking on them with jokes and wit, AND can dish it back appropriately. =D makes the realtionship fun...as long as they know when to play and when to be serious =)
4Looks grab my attention but you have to be intelligent for me to keep you around.
5looks&humor. you can also tell if they're trying too hard (to be funny) lol looks can only take u so far
6C'mon now....let's be real, good looks are always what you look for! I gotta be able to take you out / be seen with you in public!!
But I agree, looks can only take you so far. Their personality / sense of humor is the deal
breaker for me.
7hah, I'm the first vote for "brilliant mind"... of course looks and humor back it up, but during my dating around days I went for the looks/humor thing and nothing worked out. I met my current boyfriend in one of my classes and the first thing I really noticed and liked about him was the fact that he was a very intelligent man...plus he is extremely good looking AND funny. but intelligence was the first thing, really.
looks can change, and so can a sense of humor, but until alzheimer's hits, intelligence is there to stay.
8Upon the first introduction, the only thing you can possibly evaluate is appearance and voice.
If we're talking an actual conversation, getting to know each other meeting, it can go deeper.
9Looks for sure! And they have to have good shoes on!! haha...
10and if we're indoors, THEY CAN'T BE WEARING SUNGLASSES! I hate that so much...
Sense of Humor is the biggest one for me. There have been guys that I didn't think were good looking AT ALL, but after talking to them for 20 or 30 minutes, they made me laugh, and I found myself thinking they were cute!
11When I first see someone of course I judge them on how they look. I think it's the first thing that attracts you to someone no matter what, if you don't feel physically attrcted to someone, how can you emotionally love them...?
12But I also need a guy who keeps me on my toes and is understanding and doens't loose their temper and treats me with respect.
My boyfriedn is the best! He always makes me laugh and we do so much (not just sit around at home cuz that's soooo boring-I'm a Gemini haha) together...every weekend we plan an event! And he is understanding, I have my ups and downs and he is so good with me and is always there to support me and offer and hand if I need it. I love him SO FRICKEN much!
I'm not even going to lie, I am attracted to looks the most when I first meet someone. Obviously, over the course of a few days that changes when I get to know someone. I'm attracted to someones personality when I get to know them, because I need someone with a sense of humor.
13Looks count, but for me its that vibe. I rather have a guy that is handsome and sexy then cute with a hot body. Sexy is less pressure because it is more about what you find sexy in a person. I will say all the other stuff would come last as I get to know that person. That's just the way it is --- I didn't make the rules! LOL!
14i picked good looks ONLY because confidence is the first thing i see- how high the person holds their head, how they carry themselves etc.. i dont like someone who is fidgety and insecure and in constant need of reassurance. usually this goes hand in hand with good looks and/or makes the person appear as tho they are good looking, even if they are not the most attractive. trust. =]
15Looks are always my first. The first thing we do is look at someone. After, that we talk to them and find out if, there funny, smart, ect. Unless, you're talking to someone you can't see...over the phone, computer. Then, I would pick sense of humor & smart.
16Sofiababy, exactly!
17Well, at first glance there is really only one thing to evaluate - how someone looks and carries themselves!
But beyond that, I look at how the person treats the people around them.
18All three! Everyone likes a looker, but strengths in other areas can turn your average Joe into your own personal Brad Pitt.
19I agree with you popgoestheworld!
20popgoestheworld, thanks for laconic version.
That's what I wanted to say. 
21I am fist attracted to looks, but in order to keep me interested he has to have a good personality...he cant be all talk about how big his bicep is...
22I would have to say charming and funny not to big on looks never have been but hotness is a plus
23I hate to say it, but good looks are what get my attention first. That being said, it only takes a little while for the funny & smart traits to be appreciated. If a guy is not a nice person, he's just not interesting anymore, no matter how good looking he is.
24sense of humor, brains ,and what's inside his soul....
25When I met my boyfriend...I thought he was cute and when he started to talk to me...I thought he was funny and sweet because he seemed a bit shy...After a couple of years of being with him I find him attractive because he's smart, cute, funny and sweet!
26A great sense of humor, throw in some old-fashioned manners and I'm hooked.
27Well I won't lie, there has to be an initial physical attraction when I meet someone. However, there have been times where after I got to know someone and there wasn't initial physical attraction immediately their other qualities like humor made them extremely attractive to me!
28Definetly sense of humor and intelligence. If he plays an instrument like a guitar or the piano, it's icing on the cake.
29yea, i agree..looks make it..i think for me the most that stand out are eyes and lips..but as far as the rest, intelligence but also a good sense of humor & someone that isn't cocky because that's sooooooo annoying
30yes junebrug...manners!! how could i forget those
31I suppose we all notice looks first - it's only natural - but sense of humor is right up there for me. If someone can't make me laugh what's the point?
32Any jerk can have good looks so I don't really put much value on that. When I see someone cute I'm not necessarily attracted right away, I just think oh he's cute. Sense of humor and intelligence do it for me.
33It's kind of shameful, but when I see someone who's attractive, I have to fight the urge to write them off as a jerk. Too many bad experiences with hot jerks in high school who played off my naivete and dorkiness. Because of all my emotional baggage, I actually find attractive people unattractive. Go figure.
That being said, I'm attracted to people who look like they are intelligent. Obviously, I can't judge how intelligent a guy is just by looking at him, but if he looks like a big old geek, it catches my attention. So really, even though I voted for intelligence, I suppose it's all about looks, but it's all about non-traditional looks, and I reserve final judgment until I get to know someone better.
And my fiance is the perfect combination of all three, and I almost didn't talk to him because I thought he was too attractive and that would make him a jerk, but after being in class with him I saw how smart he was and couldn't resist.
34Honestly...how attractive he is. It's the first thing that is noticeable! But secondly, once he opens his mouth, I notice humour and intelligence. Those two things are sooo sexy! Kindness is definitely up there but that take a tiny bit more to notice...like a date or a long conversation.
35It's all about the eyes for me. Yes that's about looks but it's also a window into who the person really is because, let's face it, when you first meet someone it's hard to get a feel for who they really are. The eyes don't tell you everything but they still can tell a lot.
36Looks are the first thing you notice but brains and a sense of humor are a must! I don't like talking to people who have nothing intelligent to say and can't laugh and/or make me laugh.
37looks are obviously the 1st think you see and creates the initial chemistry but if after i talk to one and he seems boring, self-centered, stupid, or smells bad then the chemistry dies. A funny, casual, sincere,honest, attractive guy is what you can determine in the first week of dating..yeah it's alot of hoops but hey a girls gotta have standards
38Talent. Hands down.
39(to elaborate) I mean seriously, I thought I was asexual for awhile until I went to a jazz concert. So talent is the FIRST thing that attracts me, apparently.
40sense of humor definitely.
41I can't deny that looks play a part, but if people don't like the way my guy looks then to hell with them lol it is me who has to be inlove with his face not them
42and sense of humour is a must too..beside being faithful and trusting ofcourse..
all the rest is a plus
All of them. It's a package.
43well i must say.. when i first met the guy im seeing now.. the first thing i thought is WOW.. that guys HOT! haha.. soo yea looks.. n then about 10 mins later.. i was like hahaha and he is a dumb ass.. as in funny! and i also LOVE that too!!
.. soo i guess sense of humor and
looks are the first thing that attracts me to a guy! and then after that its the whole gettin to know them deal to see if its really worth it
44I'm going to go along with the general consensus. I think it's pretty obvious that looks attract you first. You would hardly spot a guy at the bar and think, "Wow, he's so smart." MAYBE you might be drawn to him if he had people in tears laughing around him, but really. Looks are what draw you in, humor and intelligence keep you there.
451. Confidence 2. Sense of Humor 3. Good Looks/Attraction
46As it was once said to me
47People are shadows till you get to know them.
I don't care what people look like.
If they are able to connect mentally with me, than I look for maybe more.
People may not agree this is possible but than that is why I don't go looking for someone. Because I have to know them inside before I can look at them in anyway more than a passing glance.
Looks only take you so far...However it is often the first thing I notice (come on..You do too!) You can't tell if a person has a good personality from across the room. But the guy has to have a sense of humor...and a BRAIN!
48I have to say I go for the looks first. humor second. Dont want no ugly babies
49Height and Shoes. I don't date anyone under 6'3". And shoes tell a lot about what a guy is interested in as far as music, etc.
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