you got drunk and a girl kissed you.... how does that make you a lesbian?

I'd be more worried that people think less of me because I was a drunken fool instead of thinking less of me for being a lesbian.... one is actually a problem.

Pretty sure most people will realize you were drunk esp considering you turned her down

If they're really your friends, they'll believe you. If not, you don't need them. And I think that you're worrying a bit too much anyway. It's so not a big deal.

This is really no big.

Speaking from the other side, I've kissed plenty of straight girls who wanted to experiment. Sometimes the chemistry is there after you do it, sometimes it's not. I think you were curious, but found out the reality of gay making out wasn't like the fantasy. Mazel tov, now you know.

I would go to a couple friends and say "she kissed me, and I told her I didn't want anything more to happen, and now she's telling everybody!" - go to them as if you're asking for advice (which you may actually get, in which case: bonus!). They'll be hearing your side of the story and also hearing how much it worries you. Chances are, if someone comes to them with the "juicy gossip" they will share your side so it's not just this other girl's story getting around.

I also agree it's no big deal. and I also agree that if they don't believe you they're not worth having as friends.

Not a big deal. You were presented with an opportunity that you chose not to pursue. Period. If anyone has an issue with it, that is their problem to have.

Well it wasn't a drunken at the bar make out with a girl, it was behind closed doors so it could appear to be more intimate than most "experimental" situations many girls have been in. My sister recently had something similar happen to her and the girl won't leave her alone! I would just talk to your close friends about it (as I'm sure you probably already have) and let some time pass for it to blow over.

I would also imagine that she's tried this with other girls in your social circle. No explanation is necessary unless you decide to give one and say it was something your not into.

I agree -- it's not a big deal.

If I were you, I wouldn't volunteer any information. It would make for a curious mystery about you. The only exception I would make is if I was confronted by a good friend. Then I would go with Anonymous #5. I would talk it down. I would say there was drinking involved, she kissed me, and I didn't want it to go any further. That's all. Play it down.

Its ok baby...you just keep saying NO!!!

This happened to me once over one too many hits, but my friend didn't take it personally. It didn't effect me at all, in fact, I found it funny once I sobered up. If you're comfortable with your sexuality, then you shouldn't give a hoot. And if your friends think lesser of you over a drunken mistake that didn't even involve them, then maybe it's time to get some new friends.

Kissing another girl... not a problem. Being so wasted that you did things you regret... now THAT is a problem worth the gossip! Nobody will respect you any more than you respect yourself. Don't make this into a big deal, just kill the rumors by being honest and straightforward with them. If your "friends" keep talking about it, that makes your Christmas shopping a TON cheaper.

there's nothing wrong with being a lesbian or experimenting with your sexuality. wrong is being so drunk that you're not totally in control of your faculties.

We have all kissed people (gender is not an issue here) and not wanted any more. You had a right to say no to her as you may have any man.

End of.

If you "friend" is now saying things she is the one with the problem.

Yeah definitely try to make it seem like it's not a big deal and generally people will follow your lead.

Pfft, let them gossip, if it's not true they're going to look like fools.

the bigger deal is that your friend told everyone about it. i would question that friendship

I would just totally OWN it. I, personally, don't think it's a big deal at all - I'm not sure I know ANY straight women who've never kissed another woman. BUT, it sounds like you are part of a circle of friends and family who might find this scandalous - So make it part of your courageous and adventurous persona - "Yeah, I kissed a girl once - she wanted to take it further, but that was far enough for me!!" Most people will probably think it's kind of cool and be in awe of your courage to try something new and different. And if they are offended by it, or think it's gross, just tell them she made the move, and that you don't think it's gross, but that it was far enough for you.

It sounds like she's hurt at being rejected, and knows this will make you uncomfortable if it gets around, so she's trying to get back at you - not a very nice friend.

From what you're saying this girl attempted to put the moves on you and you actually thought about what you would think about it the following day and you put a stop to it. Doesn't sound like a drunken mistake on your part. Sounds like you were using your head and knew it wasn't something you wanted to do. Honestly, it sounds more like the girl that kissed you made the drunken mistake.
This will be what you make of it. People may gossip but if you're not a lesbian then you're not a lesbian no matter what the rumor is. Just stick to the truth about what happened and you'll be fine. This will only be a big deal if you make it into one. Just play it off like it was no biggie.

There's worse rumors that could be spread about you than being gay.

You know who you are, it doesn't matter what they say.

I don't think it's a big deal
Don't worry anyway!

Btw Ur friends behaviour sucks
Telling everyone abt that! Ridiculoussssssssssssss..

Vsugar, you really don't know any women who've never kissed another woman? That surprises me. I didn't know experimentation was that common because I don't know any women who have done that.