When my high school friends and I would get together, I don't know why, but the topic often came up about who would marry who, and of course, who would have kids first. We all agreed that our one friend who had the steady boyfriend would be the first to be a mom, but boy were we wrong - she's not even seeing anyone now.
What about you? Who was was the first to get pregnant in your circle of friends?
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I'm 25 with no kids and my closest friends are still baby-free, although a couple are trying. My younger brother, who just turned 20, has a new baby though, so at least I'm an aunt!
1I am 26 and was the first to get married (I've been living with my husband since we were 18), yet I am the veryvery last one to have kids. Everyone else rushes right into it and then acts as if I am ancient. I just want a career and to be established. Why should a woman be expected to give up her goals? My husband stands behind me, so that's all that matters to me!
2I was the slutty one who had a kid when she was 20...nobody else has kids. Then again, they are all lesbians and saving up for sperm.
3None of my close friends are married or have children, but a lot of people I graduated with have/are both.
I want to move and get a career for both myself and the bf. We want to just be for a while and get our crap together.
Than maybe we can discuss children....but marriage to me at least isn't a big deal. I wouldn't mind that.
4My best friend from high school was pregnant when I was, but she lost her baby, and we were all devastated by it. It was hard to get really happy about having my little one when she was so heartbroken.
Don't mean to bum any of you out!
I was always expected to have children before my friends from college, so in that way I fulfilled that prophecy. We're starting to think about trying to get pregnant again, but we'll see.
5We were all right around the same time, so there's not an option for me.
6I had my daughter when I was 17, had my son when I was 21 and had my last in April, I'm 24. I'm all done and most of my friends haven't even started!
7A few friends are starting to have kids, but no really close friends who live close by. Many but not all are married.
In HS no one assumed I'd be married with kids first and I am proving everyone right so far.
8I know a few old friends who are married now, but no kids. And none of my close friends have kids, some people I went to school with do now though...and I am still KID FREE!
9well two of my friends were pregnant before me but let's just say that they didn't go through with the term...
10None of us have babies yet. Im never going to have kids!
11People are starting to get engaged, so I know it's coming. None of my close friends are married, though... yet.... I think I may be one of the first, or at least early in the pack.
12Hmmm, a few friends had little ones before me but not many.
I had my son at 22.
13Several have had babies from what I can recall. But I'll have to say that one that became sexually active first was the first to have a baby
14I was taged as the first... but i might be the last. the friend that we thought would never have kids has 1 and trying for the second.
THANKS LAUREN FOR THE HELP....!!!
15My high school friends & I used to talk about this too! However, no one from our close circle have had kids yet, let alone gotten married. We're still in "college grad" mode & "finish last year of college" mode... so I think we still got a couple years left!
16A few of my college and current friends have kids, but the overwhelming majority don't. I'm pretty sure just about everyone from high school (I went to a very small school) is married and having the children though. Except for me! I don't plan on having kids.
It's been surprising who the first ones to have kids were though. The first of my high school friends to get pregnant - also the first to get married - was the one who had never had a boyfriend until she met her husband-to-be in college. And the first college friend to have a baby was the one who always talked about not wanting children (and now she has two).
17None of my close friends have babies, but lots of people who I went to High School with are married and have kids.
Alot of my close friends, including myself, got married this summer so I think babies won't be too far behind. I definitely think I won't be the first to have babies...my girlfriend Jen probably will...but I don't think I'll be the last to have them either.
It's true what Piraterie said, that who you expected in High School to get married first, doesn't usually happen. A girlfriend of mine who I totally thought was going to be married off first since she was always dating someone is not married yet, while I was the one in highschool who never dated and I got married this year.
18I was the second. My good friend got married and had a kid first, and I was about 2 years behind her. Everyone else is now starting to have kids. We're like the OGs! lol
19I'm in the middle. A few just started their families and have one or two babies under 5. Then there are some who are in not in serious relationships. I'm the married but no kids yet group
20i was the nerdy girl in high school, then got knocked-up during my second year in college haha! everybody went OMFG when they found out
21Me and my girlfriends use to love this subject back when we were in high school. So far me and my best friend have been the first to get married and have kids. We were both due at the same time (two weeks apart). I had my daughter first (she's now 2) and she had her son a week later! We both have two kids now but back in the day (lol) we were pegged as dead last to ever settle down!!!
22Friends who did not have boyfriends during high school and tend to be on the conservative side got pregnant first. Me..still single and living it up! :>
23i had a baby out of wedlock when i was 21 (she turns 14 tomorrow! yay!). i was the second in my group of friends to have a child, and also one of the first ones to marry when i did decide to get married. my daughters are now 14 and 9, and my friends are all 35 with infants or struggling to conceive.
i would LOVE to have another one, but going back to diapers and paying for daycare? no way. it's vacation time! and we can actually have date nights!
24last to have their first, first to havet their second, first to have their third. a few have a 4th, we are done (i think).
25My friends were already on to their second/third kid when I became pregnant.
26I'm basically the only one with only 1 kid
My husband and I have been married longer than all of our friends who are married and they all had kids before us.
27lol considering we were still in high school (i had savannah on labor day, the day before school started) i was the first. but we all seem to be having our kids VERY young (i'll be the first to hit 20 in october).
28Currently, a lot of my friends just had babies. They are not married (or got married b/c of the baby, or will be getting married b/c of the baby) I am married and people are bugging me about having kids. I'm not ready, I just graduated from college, looking for a job, etc..I think they are kind of miffed that I told them I wasn't into the being a mom thing right now. It's not in my plans...can't they respect that? I'm sorry they had an accidental pregnancy. But they got a wonderful gift out of it; beautiful children.
Hmmm....I just totally vented, sorry if that went off topic
29We are all in our 30's NO KIDS. its awesome
30I was the first to get married and the first to have a kid. We've been married for 8 years, been together for 10, and we've been out of high school for 10 years. Our son is almost 5. It's funny because most people are surprised how long we've been together cuz I'm sure they think we've been together about as long as our kid is old - i.e., got married cuz we got knocked up! It's great to see the look on their faces.
Anyway, I know one person from high school who is getting married next year, and two people who have been married for three years and just had kids this year and others who I hear about that they are married without kids.
Like this one couple we know just had their kid this year. So when he's 20, they will be almost 50. That's a big difference. We'll have had 7 years to do whatever and they'll be going through jr. high and high school with him and we'll be done!
It worked for us. When our kid is 20, we'll only be in our early 40s and have tons of time left to spend time together to do whatever we want, have money saved up, and right now we have the energy we need to be active with him. It's great.
31Between childhood friends, college friends, and my husband's group of friends- we were the first ones to have kids. We weren't very young, but I still have friends who aren't even married and still going out all the time. Life changed in this way sooner for us, and it wasn't until others had kids that they realize what happens!
32its so crazy! since middle school my friends and i have been talking about this stuff! and everyone always assumed i'd be last just because i was so commitment scared! i was like why be in a relationship when i can just have fun! now throughout the past 9 years coming down to it i'm the one is the serious relationship and will most likely be settling first! its so crazy but i love it!
33I still can't believe that my highschool best friends got married and others who were only acq. now some of them have already had a twin a few years ago and some divorced more than once and some had a baby and are widowed!!all this in early twenties!!!lol
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