definitely forgive. and tell your boyfriend to lighten up

Very forgivable. He needs to learn how to laugh at himself. My boyfriend still makes fun of me for the not smart things i do like when i was trying to cook beans at his house with the stove off. (long story, don't ask). Which was in front of his parents too...lol

Forgive!

Your guy needs to loosen up and just accept that not everybody has to agree or think he's wonderful at everything he does!

These are not his bros - these are his parents! They've heard him made fun of 10 times worse throughout his life, and probably contributed to it themselves! He needs to quit being so sensitive. It's nice that you apologized, but you need to tell him that you didn't mean any harm by your comments, and his parents certainly don't care about them!

How long have you been dating this guy? Chances are, if you haven't been dating too long, he's still trying to impress you. Teasing him could make him feel like you don't like him very much, when in fact, it means the opposite! I read that one sign of a healthy relationship is when the couple can poke fun at one another.

Either way, this is definitely a "forgive" situation. Your boyfriend needs to loosen up.

Definitely forgive! He should know you were nervous and had some wine. He needs to just get over it, and well, himself too and realize it was just a joke!

Bright side (I think..?), you hit it off with the 'rents, right? Hopefully he'll think it over and stop taking it personally.

I guess I'm in the minority here because I understand why your boyfriend feels the way he does. If someone I was dating for a few months were to make fun of me to my parents, I'd really have to wonder what they would say about me down the road when they're *really* comfortable with my family.

This is also a lesson here in limiting alcoholic intake in important situations - like meeting a guy's parents for the first time. They make movies about that kind of thing.

Damaging a guys ego is never good! I dont know why you would say he isnt good at something he obviously loves. Teasing him about being a hockey fanatic or how much time he spends playing is one thing, basickly tellin ghis family he sucks is different. Maybe lay off the alcohol if you cant control yourslef, and try to repair the damage by talking it out with him. Its going to take some time to unbruise this guys ego.

Okay so maybe she bruised his ego a bit and it was good of her to apologize but sheesh, this guy needs to take a chill pill! It's really not a big thing and he needs to just let it go. We all make errors in judgement so no need for the boyfriend's uber-frosty behavior.

He's losing his ***t over something as small as this? maybe you should take it as a sign of lack of sense of humor or worse, takes things too seriously. Hey, she's getting along with your parents, frickin' rejoice! Stop having a slow burn over(an unnecessary)bruised ego. She wasn't outright attacking you, if you're not good at it then work on it. But don't get mad because you're not getting pats on the back.

What a weak-ass ego. So basically he's mad at you 'cuz his "lies" came crumbling down. Then he shouldn't have told his parents he was so good at hockey in first place, no? I don't think it's about you poking at him, but the fact that you unvoluntarily uncovered a "lie".

He should definitely forgive you and know that it wasn't said in a malicious way, that it was more teasing than making fun. You weren't even sober when you said it! It's silly that he's acting like you were out to get him and make him look bad in front of his family. Why would you want to do that??

He sounds way too sensitive, I couldn't deal with that!

We all do stupid things when we drink, and she apologized. He needs to forgive her and get over it. I'm sure he's done something similar.

i agree... uncovered lies make people angry...jokes...not so much...but then again your "joke" might have hit right on his insecurities....oversensitive guys are sooooo not hot!

He definitely needs to put on his big boy underwear, lighten up and get over it.As for you,you definitely need to lay off the alcohol if you can't handle it and control what comes out of your mouth.

He has to forgive you and move on from it. You didn't do it maliciously. It was a simple segue in the conversation. If he can;t lighten up and get over it, then you will have to get over him.

Life's too short to stick with people who are sourpusses.

He has to chill out. Not a big deal -- could you be reading too much into it?

What if it was her and the guy made fun at her in front of her parents. It's not ok, why is it ok to make fun of guys but not at girls. If it was the other way around everyone would be really upset saying dump him he's an ass. No one likes to be made fun of. I won't know how to fix this it's a really sticky situation.

You should definitely be forgiven. It's not like you made fun of his performance in bed or something he can't really help. Just talk to your boyfriend and his parents and tell them you're sorry.

Take it as a lesson learned. He's obviously sensitive about it, apologize again and move on. Be careful not to tease him like that again.

Gosh -- he should definitely forgive. If he doesn't forgive, he's definitely not 'the one' for you, honey! You already said sorry. And I honestly think what you did was not a big deal. Something to consider -- if he makes such a molehill issue turn into a mountain now while you're dating, can you imagine being married to him??!

unless this loverboy is a professional hockey player-he should get over himself. i am sure that his parents really could care less if he is good at hockey or not. forgive and dump him for being too sensitive

I think it's a forgive, but I might be in the minority because I can definitely see his point of view. If hockey was something he was really into or proud of doing, you shouldn't be putting him down... teasing him privately would be okay, but it's never nice to put someone down when it comes to something important to him/her. Why would you want to publicly humiliate him, even if it is his parents?

Also, if I was his parents, I don't know if I'd want my son to be with someone who obviously doesn't think twice about putting my son down. It's one thing to tease, it's another to make fun of. You don't bond with parents by telling them how horrible their son/daughter is, even with something as trivial as sports. You may think you were getting along, but they might not have thought so.

He had the right to be upset with you and he should forgive you now, but I think you were definitely in the wrong here, not him. How would you have felt if you were in his shoes, and he made you feel like an idiot in front of your parents?

What dumb ass can't lighten up in front of their own parents? I think you need to evaluate if you really wanna spend the rest of YOUR life with this prude!

Wow, he needs to lighten up. It's not like you said he was a total failure in life, you gave him a hard time about his less than great hockey skills. So what??!

Forgive. This guy has an insecurity issue, I believe...especially when he's around his parents.

I can absolutely see how his feelings were hurt.

I think sometimes there is a point in a new relationship where your illusion that your mate is perfect is shattered. I think this episode was that moment for him.

He'll get over it, but you may have hurt his feelings to the point that it jarred him out of his reverie.

I dont think there's a problem here, the question shouldnt even be asked if you think ur boyfriend loves u, It's not that big of a deal, he should just man up n' get over it. d

Perfectly forgivable! Sadly, men are big babies at heart and are very insecure. He needs to learn to laugh at himself. Hopefully he'll be able to get over this and continue on soon ... he's just licking his wounds right now.

Totally forgivable. Tell your man to lighten up and learn to laugh at himself. My husband and I are always laughing at the stupid crap we do on a daily basis. If you can't laugh at yourself, something is wrong. And your parents aren't going to care whether or not if you suck at something. They are going to find it funny and they are still going to think you are great.

If I were you, I'd be thinking otherwise of spending your life with someone who can't laugh at themselves. If you can't laugh at yourself, when can you laugh??? Laughing at yourself is one of the best traits someone can have.

The thing is, it's not even an issue of forgiveness, it's not as if she told him he was a failure at his profession or kicked his puppy. I'd be wary of anyone having a slow-burn over something as insignificant as a sport. Hell, it could be indicative of him being unable to deal with small setbacks.

If this is the worst thing you ever do, then he is in good hands.

FORGIVE!!!!!! And I agree - he needs to lighten up!!! What's more important to him: (1) getting slightly embarrassed in from of his parents or (2) having his girlfriend and parents get along? Anyhow? How insecure is this guy? He needs to brag to his parents??? Seriously?? Good Luck!!!

I'd be a little leary about being in a relationship
with a guy that appears to be very insecure to me!

Forgive, he is being a baby.

oh no! now his parents know he's bad at hockey! the world is going to end! waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!

tell him to lighten up. what a baby.

He needs to remove that big stick outta his arse! urgh, I have a low tolerance for ppl who dont have a sense of humor.

Tell your BF to lighten up. I am sure his parents have already forgotten about it/dont care anyway!

You already apologized... and kudos to you because I spoke many 5 words the first time I met my boyfriend's parents. Outside of answering the questions his mom grilled me with, anyway.
I understand that his feelings were hurt, but you apologized and he needs to move on.

I spoke MAYBE* 5 words.. sheesh.

jeez louise, he needs to lighten up. sounds like everyone was having a good time and he's a poor sport...if it were YOUR parents, i think that he might be okay in being a little irritated, but it's his parents. they know his level of athleticism. tell him to get over it!

I definitely forgive you, but I think the people saying he needs to suck it up are missing something here. It's one thing to say something in a teasing way. It's another to make more than one comment and then have a laugh fest at someone's expense. I got the impression that the poster took things too far and her boyfriend was blindsided by what she has to say.

Also, the poster thinks he is still upset but she doesn't know that for a fact. He just seems distant now. And no longer plays hockey. If the poster really thinks this is still an issue she needs to have a talk to see what the deal is. My guess is there is way more to the story than we know...or even the poster knows. This guy may have grown up in a family where perfection was expected and he is having a hard time getting over that.

I agree with bfly1133, and it sounds as if there's a bigger issue anyways. Often when people get "bent out of shape" over a seemingly small issue, it's because of a bigger more internal issue. I also think it could be a parental thing (his parents expect perfection), especially since he told his parents he was good at the sport, so unless he has a skewed sense of reality and he really does think he's good at hockey, he may be just want to make his parents happy.

I do think you need to be frogiven but I do not think your boyfriend needs to lighten up. Nobody wants to be made fun of or teased in front of anybody especially their parents. You were a dumbass to quote your boyfriend and to blame it on nervousness and alcohol just makes the whole thing worse. Take responsiblity and apologize for what you said and if you know you can't handle your alcohol then don't drink. I know I would be horrfied if that ever happened to me and my family would be pretty unimpressed.

wow. a sign of regular self-esteem is when you're able to laugh at yourself and take jokes, as well as admit when you do kinda suck. it's not whether he's good, it's whether he enjoys playing it. he's making a mountain out of something ridiculously small.

unless- as some people have said- the laughing and teasing at him for this went on for like....longer than it should have. in which case, he might've genuinely been hurt as opposed to taking things too seriously. and you might've been so excited that you were getting along with his parents that you were willing to take it as far as you could. if that's the case, explain that to him and apologize, and watch how far it goes next time.

If he is a baby about something like that, i hate to see him when his kid spits up on him in public, he needs to loosen up.

I'll be in the minority here, because I can definitely see how he would be embarrassed and belittled by your teasing. Think about if the tables had been turned- if you were out with your parents, and he let the wine go to his head and said to your mom and dad "You should see the clothes she wears- it's so funny! She thinks she looks all trendy and sophisticated but she really looks terrible!"- it would probably really hurt your feelings. Wine or not, it was a mean thing to say, and he appears to be legitimately hurt.

I think he should forgive you, but I think you need to learn how to handle your alcohol, and how not to make jokes at the expense of people you care about.

And I agree with bfly1133- not everyone has a buddy-buddy relationship with their parents, and those "perfectionist" relationships can be harsh. My parents were rather like that- and I will agree, if my husband told a joke about how terrible I was at something I enjoyed, to my parents, I would be really hurt. It's not funny, it's belittling.

I agree Bookish, teasing is one thing but it sounds like she let him be the butt of a pretty mean joke to make herself better. IMO that is what screams of insecurity. And she admitted that she took it too far, which is different than some friendly teasing. I think he should be able to forgive you, but you should really think about the underlying issues here and realise that it was more than just a little joke, you kinda betrayed him. I would have been pissed too, but that's me. Also, I would have been pissed as the family members who listened to that. Maybe they laughed at the time, but I bet they think about it later, and it may not play the same way. My brother once dated a girl like that and I was never so happy as when he kicked her fat butt to the curb.